Is it okay to say...

[Gemz1806]

I love my husband!! He loves me and our 2 DS, he works long hours as do I and but we work it out. I see so many threads about rubbish men, and I do feel for them, but not many about ladies who feel lucky to have found a good partner and a good da!! He washes up if I cook and I wash up if he cooks. We even wash each each other's clothes if we are putting a wash on. (I see that's a big thing around here) he goes out with his mates, I go out with mine, we have wine together also. Surely I'm not the the only one??

Mines a goodun too 😁 he cooks, washed up, hangs washing out, hoovers if I hint - or tell him too 😂 runs errands if I ask, works 7 days a week if he can. He doesn't go out spending, all he asks for is some beers at home. He gives me and the kids what We want as he loves to see us enjoy things. And he does a mean roast dinner !

Of course you're not the only one and there are a few threads like this that crop up every now and then.

I think the fact most people only post when they have a problem with their DP (understandably) can often skew things and make it look like there are more shitbags out there, than decent DPs.

I love mine to bits and it's very much reciprocated. Like millions of people we work together as a team and live a very happy life

Yeah I suppose we do have a tendency to moan about men but not often praise them - like MILs 😂

I'm happy to say I've got a good one too.

Oh yeah I forgot about the roast dinner!! He cooked the full Christmas dinner (basically a roast) the again for my family on Boxing Day, we did the cleaning up after, and I did the starter! We just work so well together.

Am I being patronising to think that maybe others don't know this is possible and be happy?

"Is it okay to say"??

Not unreasonable except that most women don't feel the need to go online and gloat about the fact they like their partner. Especially with a mystery title like this that women will click on just to feel like shit because earlier they posted about how their husband cheated/left them/is constantly looking at porn etc. Maybe change the title to something more appropriate?

I think the implication is that MN is a collective of bitter, vinegar-titted misandrists slagging off the poor menz and no positivity about any men is allowed here 🙄😕

And what iwas said.

Liking men is normal, droning on about functioning relationships would be odd and your title is shit. Ask MN to change it before every wronged woman clicks on here by mistake.

Yes it's totally fine to say it, you're cool.

Ah that's so nice!! I have to say my Dh is amazing, a great partner and dad and we work really well together and are really happy

Though I also agree with iwas&manumission

I don't feel I am gloating to say I love my husband, surly that's why we married them and had children with them, because we seen they were good men? To see a man turn into a good dad is the best feeling and is that it we all wanted?? It might not always turn out like that but sometimes it does and I though I would let women like me give a high five to their men, is that so bad???

Mine is lovely too.

"Am I being patronising to think that maybe others don't know this is possible and be happy?"
Do you have to ask?

I agree about the title too. I suggest you ask for it to be changed for the reasons that have been given.

Well there's nothing wrong with saying that you love your DH or that you're happy together so, yeah, it is okay to say. There are never going to be the same number of threads about happy relationships as there are about ones with problems though because it's the people having problems that want/need to talk about them more. When everything's going well there isn't really much to discuss is there? It doesn't mean that there aren't loads of posters in happy and equal relationships.

I would let women like me give a high five to their men what are you, 12?

Indeed there are many others. Trumpeting it in this way is ill-judged, however.

Some husband's are way better dads than partners, tis all in the mix but always good to share

My dad's a fantastic amazing grandad. I hope my dh will be too. I feel some solidarity with my mum.... Glad there are some gooduns out there, maybe some of them need another forty years to appreciate their hand in life.

Well maybe in a round about way me and he other positive posters were saying you don't have to settle for for shit and tat good men/dads are real!! And no I'm not 12, I'm 31 and my husband and I often give each other a huge high five when we appreciate the amazing kind boys we have created so thanks for that, to be fair I do ID'd often......

My DH is fast asleep. I doubt he wants a high five.

You are not the only one. My dh is an absolute bloody star. He is considerate, loving, sexy and fit.

Someone starts a positive thread about something... and still some people feel the need to bitch plop. Comes to something when you have to put trigger warnings on threads like this.

I have a wonderful husband too OP. I also used to have a shit one, and no I didn't realise it was possible at the time.