AIBU to feel a bit territorial?

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DH is Swedish and MIL, FIL and SIL are staying with us for 5 days to meet our DD who is 3 weeks old.

DH is very excited about his family meeting the baby which is lovely to see, but since arriving I feel like his family have monopolised the baby and it's making me feel a bit territorial.

For example, DH took his family out for a walk and while they were out I put DD down in her Moses basket. When MIL came in she immediately took DD out of the basket and took her upstairs for a nap in bed with her. AIBU to feel like she should have at least asked?

I am also EBF and the baby often needs feeding every couple of hours but when she cries the MIL or SIL won't hand her back to me until I have to get quite insistent, which makes it a bit awkward.

I don't want to make a scene and I wanted their stay to be nice for DH sake as I know that it is their first grandchild, but I can't stand hearing her cry somewhere in the house and not know why.

Am I being overly sensitive? Quite possible as I am ill and sleep deprived!

Yes because it gets the message across that it is unacceptable not to hand a newborn baby back to its mother when told to do so. I wouldn't give a fuck about being rude after all they are already rude and that little baby cones first.

It's really a lot easier to just talk to someone rather than go madly all guns blazing. I can't imagine being so unpleasant and rude to someone ever.

The co sleeping thing is bloody dangerous. No one except BF mothers should be sleeping next to their babies. So the MIL would be told to get lost with that one and I would tell her exactly why.

The rest is 'just massive overstepping of boundaries and having no respect for a new mother and her feelings. Which is fucking rude. So the ILs shouldn't be surprised if they get rudeness in return.

Have you got a sling? Wrap her in the sling and carry her around with you so they can't pick her up!

They love her and would never harm her.

It's just a few days.

Use it to relax and enjoy a bit of rare "me" time.

What's the harm?

Only read first page so apologies if anyone else mentioned this, just want to write it down quickly.
You need to feed your baby when you need to so your milk doesn't dry up. I couldn't BF and was expressing but as soon as I missed a go, my milk started drying up and you can't get it back!
I would be crazy mad if anyone took my 3 wk old off to co sleep with or wouldn't give them back to me. Who does that!
Yadnbu!!

'They love her and would never harm her.'
The co sleeping is dangerous though, even with the best intentions the MIL shouldn't be co sleeping with such a tiny baby. The reason why there are fewer infant deaths nowadays is because of better awareness of safer sleeping and more people following the guidelines.

Completely agree with Bitofacow.