The in laws invited my husband, myself, and our kids (2 years and 4 months) over to their house for the 29 of December to the 2nd of January as we wouldn't be seeing them at Christmas due to obligations they made prior with friends and his step mums family. We thought that was great, and were really looking forward to it. A few days later they called and asked if we could actually leave by 9am on New Year's Day as they are having people over. However, his step mums child and his girlfriend are able to stay for this. I found this incredibly rude. Driving there is 2 hours each way, with two children it is difficult. They never see the grandkids (these are their only grandkids) and rarely make the effort to drive up to see us. I have told my husband he can invite them here but I no longer want to travel down there with the kids. He says he will just go alone. Am I being unreasonable that I'm mad about this? In my opinion I feel as though our kids aren't a priority to them and I don't want to continue making an effort if this is what we get back.