It's my handbag!

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Going for lunch with friends, I take a handbag big enough to fit a couple of books and toys in for dd. Rushing to the train (with dd in baby carrier) I think my bag feels a bit heavy, that's annoying. Get on the train and DH has stashed his fucking 1100 page book in there!

He doesn't see the problem as I was "taking a bag anyway." Yes, but I wasn't expecting to carry a fucking brick around. On the way home now and he's managed to read it for all of 10 minutes. Worth it then

AIBU for not wanting to be his pack horse? Anyone have a man child who thinks their handbag is there for you to carry his shit around?!

Not the first time his has happened, you may be able to tell...

My dad always used to do this to my mum - load it up with camera equipment. I hate carrying heavy bags to I always pick a small one, plus DH is Italian so he has his manbag.

Yep. I'm the one who carries all the shit in my handbag for both of us.

Just tell him to take it. I don't mind taking the odd thing for dh and my boys. If he did that I would be handing it back

DP "just I just pop these in your bag?"
Pours in keys wallet phone water etc

Tell him to buy an e reader for long books!

YANBU, I'd have left it on the train. DH used to ask me to carry his keys, wallet and warrant card - I just refuse now.

I get the same, hell even pass the keys to me for my pockets - he wears jeans usually and they're fine with keys in, women's trousers aren't they're too heavy for these pockets - I throw them back!!

My DP does the same. We'll go out, I'll go into my bag at some point and find his phone, his ecig and his reading glasses. He sneaks them in when I'm not looking, it drives me potty

Simple solution. Ditch the handbag.
I have pockets. Mobile. House keys. Card holder. That's it.
When the D.C.'s were little the bag was
Big enough to hold their stuff. anythibg that wasn't theirs was removed, and yes even in transit and given back to the person. Amazing how quickly people learn to either carry their own shit or leave it at home.

My dad does this to me or my mum (or both at once). I do it right back when he has his rucksack and I have a couple very small bags so he can't really do it.

No, the answer isn't to ditch the bag! A book that size will ruin a good handbag, OP - take it out and make him carry it.

I used to have this specifically when we went away. Would take a nice light bag. Yen dh would fill with phone wallet water book glasses sunglasses etc. I now travel light. Small handbag. It winds him up. Haha!

YANBU! It's not ok to put something that heavy in someone else's bag!

What do you lot take with you that requires bags? I generally don't get it. I see people rummaging around mountains of crap and think why?

Nope my DH has a "man bag" for all his stuff if we are going out for the day. It's generally bigger than my handbag so he ends up carrying all the waterproof jackets and water bottles too.

get him a rucksack and give him the heavy staff. Easy.

I do it to dh
I call him my portable pocket

bloodyteenagers Well, I put a purse, phone, car/house keys, odd make up items, little packet of tissues and usually a bottle of water. Where would you put those?

YANBU I have the same issue.. my DH says "this is what I buy you nice handbags for!"
Pfffft. Buy me another one and I might consider it.

Make up, tissues and water I don't cart them around with me.

i get the pleasure of carrying round keys and ecig too it makes such a difference on the weight of your bag!

Buy him a man bag.

XH tried to pull this shit. I just gave his stuff back to him and said my bag was too heavy/wouldn't do up. You just have to say No and mean it OP.

YANBU

If I'm wearing the baby DH carries the bag, only fair.

Did you make him carry the bag at least?