It's my handbag!

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Going for lunch with friends, I take a handbag big enough to fit a couple of books and toys in for dd. Rushing to the train (with dd in baby carrier) I think my bag feels a bit heavy, that's annoying. Get on the train and DH has stashed his fucking 1100 page book in there!

He doesn't see the problem as I was "taking a bag anyway." Yes, but I wasn't expecting to carry a fucking brick around. On the way home now and he's managed to read it for all of 10 minutes. Worth it then

AIBU for not wanting to be his pack horse? Anyone have a man child who thinks their handbag is there for you to carry his shit around?!

Not the first time his has happened, you may be able to tell...

This would drive me nuts. I am nobody's pack horse.

I always tell my lot that if they want to take stuff with them when we go out that is fine, but THEY will be looking after it, not me. I include DH in that. My bag is MY bag and I am very territorial over it.

Occasionally I will look after someone's phone if they really can't, such as when DD3 is playing hockey or something, but otherwise NO!!

I get this too, drives me insane, especially at the airport. Water bottle, book, iPad, wallet, car key, sweets, the whole lot. Not only that, but he is constantly saying, pass me this, pass me that, can you put this away, get that out etc.

He refused to get a man bag, so I got a rucksack for him. I travel with a teeny tiny passport size crossover bag now. He can carry my shit.

My daughter does this! it is annoying. I suggest that she takes her own bag and she won't. Every few metres she wants her phone or her purse or her script or her lip balm and i have to root around in my bag and walk and talk while she just sails serenely and I forage about looking for her stuff.

You are not being unreasonable.

My mum does this to me... But then every 5 mins wants to consult guidebook/sip water/put sunglasses on/apply lip salve.

Are you taking a bag?

Yes. And it's full. Bring your own fucking bag!

Get him a kindle

DP "just I just pop these in your bag?"

No.

My dp does this. It drives me insane.

He also loses stuff constantly. Then asks me to check my bag. Where I find it because he has put it in there without me knowing.

We went abroad 2 years ago. He had a heart attack a couple of months before we went. So had a lot of medication to take with him. I refused to be responsible for it all. Ds was 18 months old and I had enough shit to cart through customs.

Once we got to the resort dp had 'lost' the bag with his meds in. We had an epic fucking row at 10pm because obviously it was my fault.

We dis find them the next morning in a different bag to the one they had started their journey in. One only dp had access to as it was locked and the key in his wallet.

His 'apology' for shouting the night before included 'that's why I pass everything to you to look after in your bag'. Told him to grow the fuck up.

Give him his things back and suggest he gets his own bag or carries them himself. As you say, you are not his pack horse.

Your husband took a 1100 page book to a lunch date? Doesn't he like his friends?

In future you have 2 options upon discovering the weighty tome in your bag;

1. Force him to carry the bag,
2. Donate the book to a homeless en route.

The only thing il take is his glasses if we're going out for a meal as then I don't have to read the menu out to him.

Other than that no he has pockets or if he has lots of stuff his backpack!

LTB(ag)

Why didn't you just give him the bag on the grounds that you already have a Child to look after??

This is something that I have noticed a lot when we go out. Women loaded with huge bags, children etc... and the the fathers going around empty handed and usually not one look towards the dcs

I'm afraid DH quickly got used to deal with the bag full of nappies and change of clothes and what not. Usually a nice one that I like and not 'manly' at all.
He survived.

Oohthatsme yes, I could see the leather looked a bit distorted where it made it sag!

I only ever take essentials - phone, lip balm, wipes, nappies, sippy cup (toys if we're going for food). Not a huge bag but it all fit perfectly! I've told him I'll make him carry his own shit next time.

Ilostit haha we had an hour long train ride! We were hoping baby would sleep so he would have had time to read.

He also carried baby home.

you are all too soft...

i won't even entertain dh's reading specs in my bag. He must share mine or guess what's on the menu.

That man you saw ordering a scallop and blackpudding starter while wearing floral primark ready readers on was just greedy, not metrosexual. :o

My husband tried to pull this shit too many times so i bought him a leather marvel superheroes satchel a few christmases ago. I wear a cross body bag to keep hands free for dc/shopping and I was getting neck strain the days he'd shove his crap in.

This bugs the life out of me as well!

Another thing guaranteed to make me see red is when we are walking along, maybe on a day trip, and we've got bottles of pop, he'll finish his and try to hand me the empty bottle like I'm his skivvy or I might want to carry it round just for fun while we look for a bin

Drives me fucking mental when my DH puts his bloody keys in mine if we go out. How exactly is that going to help if my bag gets nicked? We'll just sleep on the doorstep shall we?

I hear about this but have never put up with it myself. My DH carries a rucksack if we're going somewhere for the day.

Mine does this all the time - so bloody annoying. If I refuse he then expects me to pay for everything as he can't possibly carry his own wallet & wants to borrow my reading glasses except I've fixed that by having monovision contact lenses so I no longer need them

I'm guilty of the opposite - go out if it's somewhere I need to be dressed up, and load poor DH's suit pockets with tissues, lippy and my phone ! He draws the line at tampax !!!

I don't mind carrying things for my dh in my bag as he helps me by carrying all the shopping

My dh drives me nuts with car keys. Put them in your pocket!!!

Reading back. I wonder if this is another thing that's deemed 'wife work'. Yet another thing men are incapable of doing/the females in their life's just doing it. Incapable of carrying their own stuff.