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Original poster

Husband got me a f**king chopping board for Xmas!!!

79 replies

Loubymoo27 · 25/12/2016 15:57

That's it really. Some perfume and a chopping board because I've mentioned a few times that we need one for the kitchen!! I feel a little hurt to be honest but he thinks it's hilarious!

He's also buggered off for a nap while I'm sat with my Dd and Dm watching frigging Frozen for the gazilionth time.

Xmas is a bit shit really isn't it!

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MarjorieSimpson · 25/12/2016 17:05

It's wrong when it's in the middle of what is supposed to be a family celebration and you are leaving people you invited, your dcs and youR dw.

Even more so when it means that it's your dw that has to look after your dc, because you can't be bothered to spend what is THE one important day in the year with your child.

KnittedBlanketHoles · 25/12/2016 17:06

Wake him up to watch DD and go out. Go anywhere, for a walk, just away from his thoughtlessness.

Ellisandra · 25/12/2016 17:08

It's all so personal!

Here is one person saying that their birthstone as a necklace shows effort - yet to me I'd consider it really unimaginative and lazy!

Surely effort/thought is "I know you birthstone is red but I chose blue because your favourite dress has blue flowers on it and 5 years ago you happened to show me an old picture of your grandmother and mentioned in passing that you always loved her necklace and would ask to wear it - and I remember that it was blue".

Lorelei76 · 25/12/2016 17:10

Well maybe op can have nap time too?

Ye gads, family time.

LobsterQuadrille · 25/12/2016 17:14

DD bought me a frying pan and I am really pleased with it - I needed one and it's much nicer then I'd have bought for myself. Last year I had a DP and he bought me some nice saucepans (same reaction, same reasons) - I tend to go with very low expectations and then you can't fail to be pleased. OK, one year ex H bought me bathroom scales (I was underweight at the time and trying not to stress about it) - I admit I wasn't too happy with those, but was told I was most ungrateful!

StrangeLookingParasite · 25/12/2016 17:15

Yes you do sound like a spoiled, entitled brat. As if today is all about you

Oh look, another martyrish post from California25.

Cheerybigbottom · 25/12/2016 17:15

I got an impulse 4 pack mini deodorant set, and a hair care sos celeb set thing. Ok, I have been trying to improve my hair quality, but I know what's really happened is a panic buy in Asda on Friday.

Fortunately, I've realised the man loves me but has been bogged down at work to the point of exhaustion, and bought myself some nice stuff. He'll treat me in the sales anyway, and spent 3 hours on Xmas eve making wooden stands for two real Christmas trees I got at the local market for free that morning.

Shite gifts can say a lot, if you know what the reason for them being shite is.

Iflyaway · 25/12/2016 17:17

Give him a hoover for his birthday.

Sorted.

Wolpertinger · 25/12/2016 17:35

We agreed present buying rules a long time ago - if it's worn out/needs replacing it's not a present, kitchen items are only a present if I specifically ask, both of us exchange lists.

Saves a lot of heartache as due to a combination of allergies ruling out most toiletries/perfume, and obsessional levels of interests in our hobbies we are both really difficult to buy for.

Ellisandra is so right about personal taste making the perfect gift for one person, awful for another. I could see the RIGHT chopping board as a great gift - but I suspect this one wasn't it.

derxa · 25/12/2016 17:40

I got perfume but DH is going to get me an eternity ring for our anniversary.
He got a wallet and 3 history books but he has bought a lot of boys toys this year. I have had a lovely day. That's how it works in our house. We chat about things.

Ellisandra · 25/12/2016 18:16

Depends as well on the state of your relationship.
Last year my then new boyfriend bought me 2 candles.
I think candles are the laziest most useless go to "woman" gift on the planet.

  1. He uses them all the time - not a lazy woman-go to for him
  2. One was fig because I love figs
  3. The other was the perfect shade of blue for my kitchen and I'd been a bit accessory obsessed about it Xmas Blush

So I thought they were wonderfully thoughtful (even though one is unlit a year later - I really don't care about them!)

But had my relationship been poor - I'd have been posting:

  1. He chose what he likes, not what I like that
  2. Fucksake, I like figs. To EAT
  3. It's not the right shade of blue and FFS, who lights a candle in their kitchen?

It's all context Xmas Grin

I'm off now to see what he's got me this year... he's thoughtful all year, so whatever it is I'll see the positive interpretation.

maddiemookins16mum · 25/12/2016 18:22

A chopping board, a feckin chopping board!!!! YANBU. Know what, open more wine, open whatever chocs you've got and settle down and watch Call The Midwife. Happy Christmas (as I type this my DP has fallen asleep on the sofa during Dr Who and I'm sneakily opening more wine).

YelloDraw · 25/12/2016 18:30

A plastic £2 chopping board from ikea? Not a gift.

The lovely multicoloured Joseph Joseph set = good gift.
A lovely olive wood board with beautiful grain = good gift.

Stingray2008 · 25/12/2016 18:40

I got a top i wanted and a pair of slippers which where both handed to dp by his mum as she walked in the door and he pretended hed been hiding them for later!

At least she knew what i like as last time he bought things i got a jar of nutella ( ive never liked or eaten in the 10yrs weve been together) and an old ladies nighty. Did make me laugh

PurpleMinionMummy · 25/12/2016 18:45

Yanbu. What did you get him? It's not selfish to expect the same effort in return.

Brewdolf · 25/12/2016 19:01

I got a tortilla press from DH. However it was something I was after and am very pleased with. It also came with some fancy gin.

I think household items as gifts are only good as long as the person receiving them is happy to get them. I don't mind. DM hates them.

Original poster
Loubymoo27 · 25/12/2016 19:49

Thanks for all the replies! I'm nice and merry after a few glasses of bubbly and feeling much better!! Xmas Wink

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UnderbeneathsiesTheMistletoe · 25/12/2016 19:58

Oh good I'm glad you're feeling more relaxed Xmas Grin

Fwiw,I got my mum a collection of new wooden spoons this year, for the pantry and kitchen- different lengths and sizes. She has horrid ones whittled out wood from the ark, that make her soup taste like stairs in boys' boarding schools.

I also got her some art supplies and some smellies from loccitaine- her face when she opened the spoons was funny though as I gave her that present first.

Enjoy your wine! And have a blow out at the sales Wine

AnyFucker · 25/12/2016 19:58

Enjoy the rest of your day Smile

Bringmewineandcake · 25/12/2016 20:38

I got some wellie socks...he bought them 2 days ago, even though 3 days ago he asked if I needed wellie socks and I said no as I have 4 pairs already and I don't live on a farm

Isyss · 25/12/2016 22:13

Op i dont see the issue tbh you got a gift. My partner LIED about getting me a gift! He got me NOTHING!

TheoriginalLEM · 25/12/2016 22:20

i got my dp an espresso kettle and a set of coffee cups Xmas Blush i couldn't think of anything else.

LaurieMarlow · 25/12/2016 22:22

I got a loo seat.Blush

TheoriginalLEM · 25/12/2016 22:26

he got me (from dd) slippers and a lovely candle. we have had years we have spent ££££ and years we have brought nothing. I enjoyed our token pressies this year. although the coffee cups wrre ridiculously expensive Xmas Blush

TheoriginalLEM · 25/12/2016 22:27

Laurie - you win the thread!