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Christmas is ruined!

213 replies

Mollmoo · 23/12/2016 12:46

For Christmas my 2 year old is having a Peppa Pig scooter. Last night I asked DH to put it together, which he did. Excellent. Feeling very smug and organised. I hid the scooter away and thought he'd put the box out in the bin but he put it in the utility room. I didn't realise this and just went out there, followed by my 4 year old. Immediately she spots the box and starts asking about it and wanting to look at it. I told her it was nothing and ushered her out the room, she kept trying to get back in so I ended up getting really cross and sent her to her room. Yes I know not exactly top parenting by me, but I panicked!
She's really inquisitive and remembers everything! I just know as soon as her sister unwraps the scooter she's going to make a comment about that being what she saw. I'm absolutely devastated and feel like at 4 when it should be the most magical it's ruined for her.
DH is now in a strop as I asked him why on earth he left it there on full display.
Merry flipping Christmas Sad

OP posts:
QueenMortificado · 23/12/2016 20:40

Kudos to you for coming back OP and posting as you have, hope you have a lovely Christmas

susieqoo · 23/12/2016 20:48

Mollmoo. Kids in bed? Time for feet up, glass of wine and switching off mumsnet, both literally and in your head Smile

Alachia · 23/12/2016 21:39

If she brings it up tell her something like "Santa delivered it early so Daddy could put it together in time for Christmas. All his elves were busy wrapping so Daddy offered to help Santa out.

Hope you have a good day

Squiff85 · 23/12/2016 21:43

I can see why you'd be upset, its the kind of thing my husband would do! But breathe, it'll be ok :)

GeillisTheWitch · 23/12/2016 21:45

Don't worry about it OP, the MN flaming is a rite of passage Wink.

Have a good Christmas, hopefully the venting has helped get it out your system and it'll be plain sailing now.

PiratePete1 · 23/12/2016 22:06

This is a Christmas ruined.....

Sitting in hospital on Christmas Eve with your younger sister who is going through chemo for stage 4 cancer and who now has sepsis, fully expecting her to die on Christmas Day. That was my life a few years ago.

Get a grip

Philoslothy · 23/12/2016 22:22

I am glad that you are feeling better about everything Op, it was just a throwaway phrase and I think you have shown real grace in returning to this thread.

fliptopbin · 23/12/2016 22:28

Aleppo, Berlin, Nice..and your fucking Christmas is ruined. Get a fucking grip!

GeillisTheWitch · 23/12/2016 22:32

OP has got a fucking grip, read her updates.

No, I really don't think my little problem compares with death, illness and all the terrible things going on in the world. It was meant to be quite lighthearted. Again I apologise for any upset and my heart does go out to those of you who are going through something serious

DollyPlastic · 23/12/2016 22:35

The OP has explained that she didn't really mean her Christmas was ruined.

I've had a shit shit year but don't think kicking her arse over and over again is really on.

Loungingbutnotforlong · 23/12/2016 22:37

Sorry haven't read the full thread- I won't, it looks as though some people have been unnecessarily mean to the OP. We've all had our troubles to bare, but surely we can have sympathy for a mum who is trying her best and worries that the 'magic' might already be gone.

OP- if she does remember tell her Santa dropped it off early as he didn't have room on the sleigh Xmas Wink

Hope you have a lovely Christmas!

susieqoo · 23/12/2016 22:38

OP there are dozens of threads a day where MNetters post 'crisis' issues such as yours. Generally, people respond in a lighthearted way and offer advice. I can only assume there are lots of frazzled mums out there today who have chosen to interpret your lighthearted post in a way you had not intended. Of course there are thousands of worse situations to be in. Even the awful ones listed here could have someone else pipe up and say "well, it's worse for me because blah blah blah". I am really saddened that people have interpreted your original post in the way they did. I guess it just takes one or two and then others jump on the 'bash the OP bandwagon'. You have explained yourself twice and still the nasty posts continue. Please don't read further ones and just enjoy your time with your family. Don't let comments today put a cloud over anything x

EveOnline2016 · 23/12/2016 22:57

I find with ds being 10 and has gone pass the santa stage Christmas is a lot more enjoyable.

I would apologise to your child about losing your temper. I think it's important that adults apologise to children when they are in the wrong.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 23/12/2016 23:59

I'm glad I read your updates OP but I hate the whole Santa thing for exactly the reason below.

I REALLY do not understand why some people claim that everything comes from Santa? What, so Santa likes rich kids more??! Seriously not on for those who don't have the money

My own Christmases as a child were fine but the main present was always from my family , not Santa and I did the same with my son.

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/12/2016 05:40

OP. The trick is not to post them bugger off for hours. Otherwise you will get AIBUed.

If your DH is a numpty, you can talk about that. Had a shit year, ditto.

SatsukiKusakabe · 24/12/2016 09:43

She can talk about whatever she likes, mrsterrypratchett, including scooters and Santa Claus.

intheknickersoftime · 24/12/2016 10:02

If that was me, it would take me a while to recover from a flaming like that and a few hours to respond. Christmas is enough to push anyone over the edge. Having said all that I long for the days of buying Peppa Pig scooters. My DD is getting an iPhone. This is all down to her Dad doing a stupid a pint of overtime. I don't begrudge it at all, she's 14 but at nearly £400 it just seems crazy. However my DSs have had Xboxes and PlayStation s in past so it's her turn. But I really enjoyed the shopping for toys when they were little and the whole Santa thing. You do want to make it special and we were really broke when the kids were small.

Branleuse · 24/12/2016 10:06

oh for gods sake. Christmas ruined? Really?

dowhatnow · 24/12/2016 10:19

Oh ffs people, give the op a break. It's perfectly reasonable to be disappointed that a small child may possibly get suspicious. If you can't moan about first world problems, then the majority of threads wouldn't exist on this site. Lighten up people.

And it's sad that a lot of posters are dealing with real shit in their lives at the moment, but I think it's inappropriate to post them on this particular thread. It's not necessary. The op isn't so stupid as to not realise that the things don't compare.

YouOKHun · 24/12/2016 10:32

I'm sorry you felt you got flamed OP for your original post that you now describe as being lighthearted. I just can't see anything lighthearted about it and I read it as a bit hysterical TBH. I do understand about wanting to make Christmas magical while they're small though and I'm sure you have. I put stockings the end of my children's beds for years past the point they still believed, we all avoided any discussion about it because even my cynical teenagers wanted to hang on to the magic and so did I.

Mindtrope · 24/12/2016 10:41

In fact I am going to withdraw my harsh words and say sorry to the OP.

Just because some of us have experienced greater hardship at christmas time does not invalidate the OPs right to her feelings,
My OH died on christmas eve some years ago, but I too get stressed and upset and far more trival things sometimes.
That's part of being human.

The OP has her heart in a good place, she is trying to make another person happy.

I am sure all will be smoothed over OP. Have a good christmas. X

TiggyD · 24/12/2016 10:43

Yup, ruined.

Sell your 'D'H and children, take everything you own to the tip, burn your house down, change your name and move to a different country to start again. It's the only solution.

Bettyspants · 24/12/2016 10:51

Oh op I'm afraid I would have been one of those giving examples of a Christmas ruined had I not read your updates...I think at this time of year tensions can run very high and a lot of people truely are have a horrendous time so the lightheartedness was lost. Don't worry 2&4 are ages you can tell a magical story that they will completely believe. My own children have bits and bobs in a stocking from mr fc then main pressies from us. However at age 2 my daughter had a lovely stocking unwrapped the first present which was a tiny Thomas the tank train and was so amazed she opened nothing else all day. Don't stress all will be fine x

Cab65 · 24/12/2016 17:28

Having carefully wrapped the presents from us for under the tree and the ones for Santa by the bed the first thing my four year old DD said was Why has santa got the same wrapping paper as you.

ERRitsFTR · 24/12/2016 18:17

I think you've been treated very unfairly here OP, all of us at one point have probably gone through difficult, stressful and sometimes just totally shit miserable unfair things however I doubt there's a single person who hasn't overreacted at something that's basically trivial because we're all human, some people need to be careful getting down of their damn high horses.
In the grand scheme of things you know your Christmas isn't ruined but I totally understand why you're upset, I adore Christmas and part of it is the magic of Santa. Hopefully you've found a way to side step any questions from DD and all will be well by morning.
Have a great Christmas OP Xmas Smile