Christmas is ruined!

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For Christmas my 2 year old is having a Peppa Pig scooter. Last night I asked DH to put it together, which he did. Excellent. Feeling very smug and organised. I hid the scooter away and thought he'd put the box out in the bin but he put it in the utility room. I didn't realise this and just went out there, followed by my 4 year old. Immediately she spots the box and starts asking about it and wanting to look at it. I told her it was nothing and ushered her out the room, she kept trying to get back in so I ended up getting really cross and sent her to her room. Yes I know not exactly top parenting by me, but I panicked!
She's really inquisitive and remembers everything! I just know as soon as her sister unwraps the scooter she's going to make a comment about that being what she saw. I'm absolutely devastated and feel like at 4 when it should be the most magical it's ruined for her.
DH is now in a strop as I asked him why on earth he left it there on full display.
Merry flipping Christmas

Santa does little gifts here and parents do big stuff. No imaginary beardy guy is stealing my glory. Never get why anyone would say big stuff is from santa.

But also think about Aleppo or Berlin and ask yourself if a box really ruins Christmas.

*'I am sorry for your lost BUT....'

That phase should be made illegal* Namechange absolutely it should be. Really it means I don't give a shit about about loss

This is AIBU, the op asked AIBU and all the posters have done is reply to her question. And yes thank you I know full well it's a chat board and all I don't like every other poster was give my opinion

Why make such a big thing out of a non-issue?

Seriously, get a grip. Your Christmas is very far from ruined. Your DH did nothing wrong and you are being a total drama queen.

Is the kid with the scooter 2 or 4?

Make up a story as someone said say it came with something else in it and make a wish for one just like it, my daughter saw her dolls house by accident the other day by accident I told her it was her cousins and her dad had borrowed it to take a picture to send to Santa to make sure he knew which one she wanted, then hid it better as we should have done in the first place and told her her Uncle had come and taken it away as we were done she is now praying Santa has the time to make one for her she is 5.

Empathy bypass comments .... really? There are people in this world who have nothing, there are children right this minute fearful of their lives, children who have already lost their parents, their homes, everything... and no, this doesn't mean that people don't have a right to have a little moan about every day shit that happens in their lives but to claim their Christmas is ruined by something so trivial is distasteful at this time in my opinion. No wonder people are so fucking miserable in this country, we put too much emphasis on every little thing that goes wrong rather than appreciating everything that goes right.

OP do you have a roof over your head? Food in your fridge? Good health? Family/friends? If you do then you already have way more than millions of people in the world and your Christmas should not hang in the balance over your DH leaving a box out.

EatTheCake, my aunt died at Christmas last year, it was a long time coming and even that being the case, was really upsetting. I don't doubt that there were umpteen posts just like OP's then. I wasn't here posting as it wasn't right for me.

Whether or not you think I was sincere about your loss, I was. I don't think it was fair to bounce on to a thread and lash out at the OP who wasn't to know about your situation anymore than anybody else was. That's my opinion. It still doesn't mean that I'm not very sorry about your loss.

I'm not going to get into it either despite the posturing from other posters.

Too many accidents there :)

Maybe your DD could post on here my Christmas is ruined I just found out my mummy and daddy have lied to me and then mummy lost her temper and daddy got grumpy and I was punished and sent to my room.

It's all about perspective

There's no harm done, OP. Honestly.
She will forget about it. And, if not, have a story ready.

have a

Lying, you've been far more offensive to a poster here than anyone has to the OP. She's making a fuss over something that has zero long-term impact. Nothing bad will come of her particulate situation. Eat and her family, especially her brother's poor children, are actually suffering through something awful that won't be forgotten over a Buck Fizz and presents from Santa.

I'm sure the OP is stressed, but she asked and the consensus is she's being unreasonable. We all reach tipping point this time of year, many of us snap over something silly. No harm in pointing it out when asked.

Holiday, that's fine, I respect your opinion.

Yes, OP is making a big fuss about something that really isn't important in the long term - and she's been told this by lots of posters and when she's less frazzled she'll probably laugh it off.

Find a present for the four year old from the pile and keep that and the scooter separate from the rest. Make them both gifts from mummy and daddy that will be left under the tree, or given on Christmas Eve instead of being put with the stuff Santa brings.

My father died a couple of weeks ago.

Our Christmas will be shit.

Sorry but stop being a drama queen.

Tell her you were helping father christmas out by looking after it. Or the elves dropped it off early because the sleigh was full. Or it was for a friend.

Or more likely she will forget with all the excitement.

Not ruined even if she says was that in the box just feign complete ignorance, I grew up believing all presents were from santa with named presents from parents, I understand why you want to keep the excitement ignore other comments, of course there's plenty of people worse off you are allowed to be miffed she's questioning it. I'm sure it'll be fine

This is light hearted right? Because if not, I was expecting something heartbreaking like eat or thecats have had to deal with.

If you are truly serious, maybe you need to see someone about your anxiety.

tell her there is no Santa, give the scooter to charity. win win.

I agree. Your Christmas is totally ruined now. What on earth are you going to do!

Random that is very naughty

Oh it's ok to have a mini freak out OP

Everyone has different ways of dealing with truly awful things that happen. There's no one view on how to do it.

My view is that other worse things don't invalidate the everyday details that make up people's lives. Otherwise no one would be able to say anything to me as they'd be too busy tiptoeing around my tragedy and pain.

And that happens, usually before they never contact me again because they feel awkward.

I hate it when people have to check themselves and say 'but oh dear, I shouldn't be saying this to you...' as they stop themselves embarking on a thoroughly normal daily moan about bin men or queues.

It puts a big gap between me and the rest of the world, like I'm no longer allowed to exist in the same way others do. When your life is filled with awfulness somehow people think you don't care about their daily lives and I find that so sad and so other-ing . When your tragedy goes on and on you can't wait for it to end and for people to include you again as one of them. That's what I find, anyway.

I am going to have a hideous Christmas and I can't hold it together to keep it from being ruined for DS, and I'm terribly upset about that. But I also know that sudden sinking feeling when it all goes a bit f*cked up with wrapping or accidental peeking etc... and you need to vent, and make it all ok again.

Have a lovely Christmas (& have a good cover up story ready if your 4 yr old asks).

Your Christmas is not ruined! Your kids will love their presents. Just be a bit more laid back about things and you'll enjoy Christmas a lot more.

Remember, the most important thing you can give your kids is your time.