AIBU to send Christmas card back to DM with not known at this address

[Jessesbitch]

DM has sent a Christmas card to Mr & Mrs Hisname. I don't use his name and I've told her countless times not to do this. She says she's just being respectful to him. But she's disrespecting me! The kids have my name too. Aghhhhh.

Not as bad as Mr and Mrs HisFirstName HisSurname I get that!! In my birthday cards, dh's elderly relative address me as Mrs Hisname Oursurname.

Makes me rage.