To wonder if there are any careers you discourage your kids from doing?

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Dd told my dad and i that she wanted to work in Harrods when she grows up... she is 8!

My dad told her she shouldnt work in a shop. She also wants to be a model, pop star, vet... the usual.
My parents basically wanted us to be doctors and duscouraged anytjing else.
I rebelled and did teaching am now a TA.

Aibu to ask how much you want to influence your kids career decisions.

Also aibu to think there is nowt wrong with working in Harrods!

DD's first expressed job wish (at the age of about 3) was army dog trainer.
Now, I don't even know if they exist - and we don't have a dog - but there you go.

Personally, agree you should aim to have a job that earns plenty in the end, if you can.

I started out, post uni, in retail, but am glad every christmas that I am not doing it now.

Having said that - would go back to it if needed.

Teaching!

Nurse here for 36 years. No way would I like any dc of mine to work in the hell that is now nursing.

Teaching, police, nursing, armed forces.

Teaching or military

@SillySongsWithLarry - just wondering what are the jobs you cannot apply for if you have a diagnosis of autism? I have two boys with ASD but I can't think of any job they would be precluded from applying to (depending on qualifications obviously).

How come your dad told her she shouldn't work in a shop? Does he generally look down on people who work in retail?
If my ds told me he wants to work in a shop then I would never ever shoot him down for it. Even when he is 18 and his mates are training to be Doctors/teachers etc...

But I suppose the downside to him working in retail would be that he has to deal with people like your dad who thinks they are worthless.

Anything to do with the military. Scares the crap out of me.

Teaching, academic, army, police, anything they hated doing however lucrative.

Well pretty much everyone in my family is a lawyer of one sort or another which puts a fair amount of unspoken pressure on the DCs to follow suit.

So if they announced they wanted to go into law I would tell them to really think it through rather than going in that direction just because it is familiar.

Also, I think generally I would tend to steer them away from just going for a job because it is well paid. Long term I think people are much happier doing less well paid jobs they actually enjoy/find rewarding than earning shed loads doing something they have no passion for.

Sad to say, teaching.

My dad was a teacher for many years. He was made redundant twenty-odd years ago, and started his own business.

He now earns a multiple of what he would have earned had he been a teacher, and he has less stress. He's actually quite bitter about having spent all that time on it.

Really, though, it's not about money. I think the pressure young people are under to find a job is so cruel. Very few people should know what they want to do for a living when they are 14.

I would bite the bullet and support a DC in whatever they wanted to do.

But did privately heave a sigh of relief when one of them decided that medicine was not for him.

I wouldn't want DD to join the armed forces.

Teaching or the army.

I've discouraged my eldest from teaching and encouraged her to do stem subjects because that's a far more lucrative career pathway than the arts.(I speak as an Arts graduate!)

Nursing

Knitpicker they are excluded from all military roles.

Are those discouraging their children from teaching teachers themselves?

Being a doctor. I'm a nurse and I think medicine is a terrible, stressful, thankless career. I would support my DC if that's the route they wanted to go down but I would genuinely sit down and talk it through with them.

Strongly discourage nursing in any capacity.
It's shit and not going to improve...ever.

Another nurse saying don't do it.
Un-family friendly shifts, poor pay for the level of responsibility and mentally and physically draining.
As are a lot of jobs I'm sure.

I'd discourage my DD from doing any job where she'd be low paid or where she wouldn't need many/any qualifications - she has more potential than that.

Other than that, I don't really have a preference. Maybe public sector as there's more job security, better holidays, unions etc.

At the moment she's thinking of teaching or jewelry designer. She's only 8 though.

Vet. DH and I are both vets so our kids are often asked if they are going to follow us into the profession. I hope not.
I think we have the highest rate of suicide of any job, astronomical rates of depression, crappy working hours and an enormous disparity between actual salary and public perception of what we earn. I worked so hard to get into vet medicine and really regret it now I have a family. Speaking to friends and colleagues a lot of us wouldn't do it again.