To wonder if there are any careers you discourage your kids from doing?

[malificent7]

Dd told my dad and i that she wanted to work in Harrods when she grows up... she is 8!
My dad told her she shouldnt work in a shop. She also wants to be a model, pop star, vet... the usual.
My parents basically wanted us to be doctors and duscouraged anytjing else.
I rebelled and did teaching am now a TA.

Aibu to ask how much you want to influence your kids career decisions.

Also aibu to think there is nowt wrong with working in Harrods!

[mudandmayhem01]

My dh is a nurse, loves his job, works in a specialist area, no shifts. Has got a masters degree and is on a pretty high band so I wouldn't discourage dc from this career, he seems less stressed than doctors and hospital based nurses.

[yoyo1234]

Police, anything military, law, nursing

[yoyo1234]

maybe nursing okay after mudandmayhem post

[yoyo1234]

currently wondering if the Playdoh drill and fill would work with influencing DC

[Solasum]

Yoyo, I really recommend it. What could be a nicer play activity than drilling teeth?!

[Violetcharlotte]

My 15 year old came home from school earlier this year saying he'd had a careers meeting and they'd suggested the army to him. I think, as he's not academic and likes sport, they thought it would be a good option, but the thought makes me feel sick. Thankfully he's a very fussy eater and gets travel sick (so hates cars, planes and boats) so I think the idea will probably wear off quite quickly!

[Witchend]

I can't think of anything on the legal side I'd discourage because of the job. I can think of ones I might discourage because I think they really would find it a struggle-can't see dd1 being a politician for example. Not that she can't argue black is white with her family, but she really would find that sort of role stressful. I wouldn't stop her, even if I could, but say things like "have you thought about..." or "what about..."

Ds has wanted to join the RAF for the last 6 years (he's 9yo). Ultimate aim (apparently) is to be a Red Arrows' pilot and then retire and fly the Spitfire in the Battle of Britain Memorial flight. He did have flying Concorde in the list at some point, but has reluctantly decided that won't happen.
I've been surprised at the number of people who he has told who promptly turned to me and said "of course you're discouraging it..."

[yoyo1234]

That Playdoh game looks great. Getting it (and I may even give the DC a chance to play with it!).

[Bodicea]

Anything military, the NHS ( I work for it), retail.

[Yoarchie]

I don't want my kids to do things that I consider dangerous. Potentially that includes the army, being a motorcycle or bike courier.

I also wouldn't want them doing jobs that I consider "bottom feeding" or taking advantage of people or upsetting people.

[bibbitybobbityyhat]

I would strongly discourage modelling as a career.

Or anything vacuous like that.

[bibbitybobbityyhat]

"Whatsername17 Thu 22-Dec-16 18:34:40
I'm a teacher. I love my job."

That is such a refreshing post! I'm glad you enjoy it whatsername .

All of my rl friends who are teachers (and there's loads of them) are also mostly happy in their jobs, despite the Government.

[unlessyousay]

my children look like me, bibbity, so modelling is out!

[Flatcoatfan]

I agree with mudandmayhem. There are some great jobs in nursing.

[elodie2000]

Teaching, NHS, police.

[elodie2000]

Military, Retail, Politics

[vintagesewingmachine]

I am still Nursing but in a specialist field at advanced level with decent money andi ncremental salary scale, no nights, few weekends. It has, however, taken me nearly 20 years to get here. I would not go back to the wards or the District now for all the tea in China. For this reason I will try and discourage my DC from Nursing but then my Mother ( also a nurse) tried to put me off with total lack of success so not sure I'd have any more luck if Nursing is what DC really want to do

[cornflowerblu]

I'd be very upset if they chose the armed forces or the police. I'd like them to earn a lot of money but to also find their work stimulating. One currently wants to be a dancer on strictly, one wants to be a YouTuber and one wants to sell skate gear online so who knows what might happen?

[missyB1]

Yes I was in a specialist nurse role too, and no weekends, no nights etc.. but you are still employed by the Government working for an organisation under austerity measures. The frustrations are the same and the feeling of demoralisation. The job was never the problem, the employer was.

[pinkiponk]

I wouldn't mind my DC joining the armed forces, I'm currently in the armed forces and it's given me the most fantastic opportunities. I would however strongly discourage any children of mine joining the infantry (or equivalent, marines, RAF regiment etc) though, of course if they had their heart set on it I would support them though.
In my time I've noticed it often doesn't matter what the parents say, the armed forces is one of those areas a kid has their heart set on and are often quite passionate about wanting to join.

[Wifflewaffles]

My dc can join the armed forces over my dead body.

[TheCraicDealer]

I wouldn't be too bothered about them being in the forces, depending on what they wanted to do. So long as they were more like DP than me- I'm a sensitive soul, whereas he's more robust and chilled out, not much phases him. He's been in 8 years and has been in a desk job for most of that time, hasn't been deployed. His friend in the RAF is the same, says it's very monotonous for the most part. The majority stay in for a few years and then leave to get a civilian job, so the benefit is even if they don't like it it's no big deal to leave.

I wouldn't want them to go into the civilian police, any retail sector (including banking), law or teaching. The latter two is more to do with the availability of jobs locally, although they are both very demanding roles. I'd also find it quite hard to deal with if they want to do something poorly paid in the arts- I'd worry about how they would cope LT financially, even if they found the job itself fulfilling.

[whattheseithakasmean]

Any thing except the armed forces (like many posters, it seems). Fortunately my little mavericks are not going to choose a uniform job. My older one is currently at uni doing engineering which I think is a pretty good option- especially for a woman.

[lollylou2876]

Any armed forces - I personally think they shouldn't be allowed to join until 21 as I don't feel they new recruits understand the life long effects combat can have. And I don't want my son being used for canon fodder in illegal wars.