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To be hurt by this comment?

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Evennumberonthevolume · 18/12/2016 11:39

I might be being too sensitive.

Texting a friend and catching up.

She had a new baby (she's around 3/4 months) and said what a challenge it is but it's also the best thing ever!

I don't even have a boyfriend so who knows if this will ever happen for me. Just felt like same in the wound.

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HardLightHologram · 18/12/2016 11:40

You sound quite over sensitive. She didn't say anything wrong.

cherrycrumblecustard · 18/12/2016 11:41

Aw, I think you are being a little sensitive Flowers how old are you?

Fruitcocktail6 · 18/12/2016 11:41

What?

If I understood correctly yabu and far too sensitive

SaucyJack · 18/12/2016 11:42

Please don't be that person.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee · 18/12/2016 11:43

Your looking for stuff that just isn't there.

CalmItKermitt · 18/12/2016 11:44

Get a grip.

NiceFalafels · 18/12/2016 11:44

You should be happy for your friend. Aren't you glad something good is happening for her? The reality is you're jealous. That's the issue. Not your friend saying how she's finding parenthood as s new parent.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 18/12/2016 11:44

YABU

PeachBellini123 · 18/12/2016 11:45

Yes YABU sorry. Is there a back story here?

Slackalice42 · 18/12/2016 11:45

Yes you are being unreasonable, take a deep breath and send your friend a nice text back.

AllPizzasGreatAndSmall · 18/12/2016 11:45

If she had added something along the lines of "you should have a baby" then yes it would be insensitive of her, otherwise there is nothing in what she said to be upset by.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 18/12/2016 11:47

What?! Confused

Please don't be that person who makes everything about themselves fgs!

SandysMam · 18/12/2016 11:49

She sounds like she's struggling and trying to convince herself it's the best thing ever (around 3 months it really isn't!). This probably isn't about you at all OP but about her. Roll up your sleeves and help her as much as you can!

LotsOfShoes · 18/12/2016 11:51

YABVU. There is literally nothing in that text about you. I understand that these things make you think about your own situation but she made NO comment about you. And people who've just had a baby always say how wonderful but hard having one is...she's allowed to express her feelings, you know.

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Evennumberonthevolume · 18/12/2016 11:51

I never said I wasn't happy for her, and what am I suppose to be jealous of? Confused

Of course I've already text her back.

I guess there is more of a beck story but I don't want to drop feed so I'll just accept I'm being too sensitive.

(Also to point out I would NEVER say anything to her, it's just my own private thoughts that I shared with no one until posting)

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Evennumberonthevolume · 18/12/2016 11:52

Hmm that makes perfect sense Sandys, thank you

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Temporaryname137 · 18/12/2016 11:53

This is all about you and nothing about her, unless there is a backstory. It is hard if you are getting to a certain age and want a baby and there is nobody on the horizon with whom you want to do it. But that shouldn't take the shine off your happiness for your friend, sorry!

CalmItKermitt · 18/12/2016 11:56

Sandys - but that's not necessarily true at all, is it?

I would have said the same when mine were 3 months. I loved my life and my babies and was perfectly happy.

Interesting to see how the OP seems to perk up at the thought of her friend struggling though 🤔

NoelHeadbands · 18/12/2016 11:57

It really doesn't sound like she's struggling to me...

OP yes yabu but it's natural to have little prickles of 'something' every now and then

Floggingmolly · 18/12/2016 11:58

Sweet Jesus, it wasn't about you! What is wrong with you? Hmm

HaveNoSocks · 18/12/2016 11:58
Flowers

Ignore the comments from unkind posters. You probably are being a bit sensitive but we all have sore spots, as long as you're not being unkind to your friend YANBU.

angstybaby · 18/12/2016 12:01

i kinda get it. it's like being the only single person at the wedding. it doesn't mean you're not happy for your friend but that you feel a bit left out/like everyone's looking/that it's never going to happen for you. it's not easy and it's ok to feel the way you do about it, but it''s definitely one for the internal monologue. she wasn't trying to be mean

Trifleorbust · 18/12/2016 12:02

I don't get how you think this is anything to do with her. You are envious (nothing wrong with that - perfectly natural) but she isn't in control of that and there was nothing insensitive in what she said.

Ahickiefromkinickie · 18/12/2016 12:02

I never said I wasn't happy for her, and what am I suppose to be jealous of Confused

So her saying having a baby is the best thing ever is like rubbing 'salt in the wound' but you're not jealous? Ok.

SaucyJack · 18/12/2016 12:02

I think you're projecting somewhat Sandys. Lots of people quite like small babies as it happens.

And yes OP- it is interesting that SandysMam's post is the one comment on this thread that you related to.

Bitterness can eat a person up inside if they're not careful.

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