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Original poster

AIBU workman and poo!

131 replies

JustDontGetIt · 16/12/2016 23:29

I had a job done to my roof. it was literally a mornings work. The work was done last Tues so it's been over a week. One of the lads on the job asked to use the loo. The others never did. But he did a poo. I could smell it so badly when he left. He did open the window. We live 2 mins walk from a good sized Tesco with 4 loos. Why couldn't he go there? It's been ten days now and the smell keeps flooding back and he left the loo clean but I've been traumatised. I had a year of builders using my loo but I wasn't living in the house so I wasn't to know. I feel like I can't shift the smell out of my memory. AIBU?!

OP posts:
wineusuallyhelps · 17/12/2016 19:23

I didn't mind when a workman used my bathroom. What I did mind was that he sat there for 20 minutes reading The Sun and didn't flush till the end Hmm. Eye-watering.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 17/12/2016 19:30

What I did mind was that he sat there for 20 minutes reading The Sun and didn't flush till the end
Hmm
WTF
Have I missed some pooing rule somewhere? Are we supposed to flush mid-poo? Did you have a camera in the loo? And why we're you timing him? Or is it the choice of paper that's pissed you off - a Guardian would've been a much naicer choice of reading?

I agree with PP that there's an air of snobbishness about workmen. And like a PP said their poo is no less offensive than that of a doctor!

UnicornInDMboots · 17/12/2016 19:33

^wss!
Poo is poo. Your bowels are no different to anyone elses regardless of what job you do or don't do.

Unless you have IBD. In which case they don't work and seeing people post stuff like this makes me even more self conscious about not having any choice in where I poo

wineusuallyhelps · 17/12/2016 19:36

Ha ha, I can just see it vividly which is why I remember which newspaper it was! [Actually the Sun is excellent journalism because they have to achieve the full story in so few words - seriously.]. Just having a craic at an old memory of mine - no need for the WTFs GrinGrin

user1471545174 · 17/12/2016 19:36

I can't believe people are sympathising with this OP. This is how civilisations die.

Twogoats · 17/12/2016 19:38

Oh no! Maybe it's stuck in the pipes OP?!? Sad

Best move house so that you can truly move on from this misfortune.

Topseyt · 17/12/2016 21:57

Would a copy of The Sun newspaper not make decent toilet paper?

LuluJakey1 · 17/12/2016 22:19

I hate anyone using our loo. What I would like is a loo of my own that even DH did not use. We have just mved and now have an ensuite but he uses the loo in there when there is another bathroom just yards away. I don't mind him using it for wees but I hate anyone else pooing in my loo.
Call me anything you like. That is just how I am. Grin

Herschellmum · 17/12/2016 22:24

Traumatised?

Seriously? Your trumastised that someone did a poo? I'm sorry I find that quiet disrespectful, people who gave been raped or involved in serious accidents are traumatised, no one is traumatised by someone else taking a poo, in private!

Boomerwang · 19/12/2016 08:23

Just to clarify, the complaint to BT wasn't about him using the loo, it was about spending over half an hour sitting and stinking after less than a five minute observation of our broadband problem and leaving without actually doing anything about it.

A few of you are being rather hysterical about this. I personally haven't been traumatised over such things but I definitely feel uncomfortable about it and have said so. Stranger poo evidence is not the same as family poo evidence. I don't mind if my daughter dribbles on me but if someone else's kid did I'd want to retch.

UnconventionalWarfare · 19/12/2016 09:12

I sincerely hope many of you are recieving a "grip" for Christmas this year

MrsMattBomer · 19/12/2016 16:55

I guarantee you that OP is the type of person who would like the workman to make his own drinks thank you very much, and if he could plug the kettle in outside and use his own supplies, even better. She might stretch to letting him borrow a mug, but not a nice one, only one specially reserved for the lower classes.

I think she'd faint at the fact that I... make workmen things to eat if they're here for a big job. I let them come and go to the loo AS MUCH AS THEY PLEASE!

JustDontGetIt · 19/12/2016 21:12

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Original poster
JustDontGetIt · 19/12/2016 22:10

So you delete that MNHQ but allow the personal attacks on me?

OP posts:
Boomerwang · 20/12/2016 08:27

I can't believe some of the accusations of being 'mentally unstable' or looking down on the workers being thrown about. Why can't people be civil?

Original poster
JustDontGetIt · 20/12/2016 08:34

Everyone seems to want to be cruel to others rather than offer kind words.

OP posts:
Laiste · 20/12/2016 08:49

You posted an OP practically designed to trigger all the old MN cliches to the point of it sounding like a wind up.

Then you give enough drips with all your other posts to show not only that you already know full well that this is odd - but you are fully aware you suffer from anxiety and are saving up for counseling!

What's the hinting at the OCD for? What do you want us to say? Confused

BarbaraofSeville · 20/12/2016 17:43

Agree that the OP sounded like a wind up. Fuck knows how the OP and others similarly toilet obsessed would cope in countries without first world sanitation.

Even in other parts of Europe you can't flush toilet paper down the toilet so you have to put it in a bin instead. We've just come back from holiday where the main bin was about 200 yards down the road and we made several trips to take the bag full of used toilet paper to the bin and I often thought of threads like this one. And do you know what? The bag didn't actually smell at all, probably because I didn't stick my head in it.

Lilmisskittykat · 20/12/2016 17:46

You can still smell it in the bathroom 10 days later?

You sure he didn't shit under the floorboards?! Grin seriously just get some air freshener

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 20/12/2016 18:16

I agree it sounded like a MN satire thread at first.

I was thinking today how much I go against the MN grain when it comes to builders in my home. Currently getting our garage converted and not only do i make our workmen cups of tea, I even made them a sandwich platter today when I was making my own lunch, as they hadn't eaten by 1.30pm and I was getting worried. They can also shit all they like in my loo Grin

Original poster
JustDontGetIt · 20/12/2016 21:43

What I don't like about most MN people on this thread that they assume they know someone's life inside out on the basis of one thread. Their values and feel happy to be so judgemental. If I was in a worst state of mind it could make me really depressed and feel attacked.

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 20/12/2016 21:45

An AIBU about workmen and poo. What could possibly go wrong? Grin

laureywilliams · 20/12/2016 21:48

Cherry yes you should do a 'courtesy flush' mid poo. If you think its particularly smelly, lenghty or in a small enclosed bathroom for example.

laureywilliams · 20/12/2016 21:53

OP you are obviously being totally U there's no way he could or should have gone to Tesco.

However, I agree that all poos are not equal. 'Stranger' poos are worse than family poos (just like our own farts smell ok). If someone is unwell they can be extra vile. A very smelly one would probably haunt me for a while.

Hope you soon manage to put it behind you.

Hope some of the over reactors on the thread manage to calm down a bit.

namedaccount · 20/12/2016 21:55

YABU. Nature called and he had to take action. No big deal.

Hope you get a fucking grip for xmas

This made me roar. Sorry Grin