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AIBU workman and poo!

131 replies

JustDontGetIt · 16/12/2016 23:29

I had a job done to my roof. it was literally a mornings work. The work was done last Tues so it's been over a week. One of the lads on the job asked to use the loo. The others never did. But he did a poo. I could smell it so badly when he left. He did open the window. We live 2 mins walk from a good sized Tesco with 4 loos. Why couldn't he go there? It's been ten days now and the smell keeps flooding back and he left the loo clean but I've been traumatised. I had a year of builders using my loo but I wasn't living in the house so I wasn't to know. I feel like I can't shift the smell out of my memory. AIBU?!

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baconandeggies · 17/12/2016 15:54

I'm shocked at the mocking responses you've received OP.

Patriciathestripper1 · 17/12/2016 15:55

Thought that's what toilets were for???
Dosnt your poo smell then?
Ask one of the builders if they have a candle......
(One of other posters had a builder nick a posh one from her loo) Xmas Grin

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 17/12/2016 15:57

Perhaps you could ensure that you don't engage workmen in your house if you are so delicate that you are traumatised by the smell of their shit?

Original poster
JustDontGetIt · 17/12/2016 15:58

This is just turning into a post to insult me. Season of goodwill and all that.

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baconandeggies · 17/12/2016 16:00

Some people are just ignorant about anxiety OP - don't take it to heart Flowers

baconandeggies · 17/12/2016 16:02

You've acknowledged that these thoughts are perhaps not helpful - now you need a solution x

Original poster
JustDontGetIt · 17/12/2016 16:05

I have actually set up funding for counselling for anxiety and I'm finding it tough to find a suitable counsellor but also the time around having a young family and a husband who works long hours.

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baconandeggies · 17/12/2016 16:11

Something simple and practical might be better than counselling - if you can find a hypnotherapist who has trained in cbt this could be sorted in 2-3 sessions.

MrsMattBomer · 17/12/2016 16:23

Excuse my French, but are you fucking insane? It's a fucking toilet - people do generally shit and piss in them, you know? It's not like he smeared it all over the walls is it? He left it clean and even opened the window - was there any air freshener available to him? I'm guessing not, seeing as you obviously treat the toilet like it's a holy place.

I can't believe you would have the audacity to suggest a workman isn't good enough to use your toilet and should go to a fucking supermarket. How snobbish, disgusting and, frankly, rude you are.

MrsMattBomer · 17/12/2016 16:24

If she has anxiety, maybe she shouldn't be inviting workmen to her house at all? Just a suggestion. This isn't anxiety though, it's pure rudeness.

MagicMarkers · 17/12/2016 16:32

Her Majesty used my toilet the other day and the room now smells like roses.

Why is it always workmen in these posts? It's never a doctor or lawyer, the vicar or the poster's friend.

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JustDontGetIt · 17/12/2016 16:37

I didn't say he wasn't good enough. I personally don't poo in strangers houses I don't think it's polite.

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MrsMattBomer · 17/12/2016 16:42

Do you still poo at all, or does a a man come twice a week to surgically remove it for you?

I can't believe you're describing a very important bodily function as not polite. I have crohn's - does that mean I should shit myself? Is that more polite? It's not like he wanked onto your toothbrush, is it? Everybody shits. If the need strikes you, you've got to go. End of story.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 17/12/2016 16:42

Maybe because workmen eat more due to their physical job and therefore do more hefty poor?

A lawyer just periodically hits a table with a tiny hammer and can therefore get through the day on a salad.

TheFairyCaravan · 17/12/2016 16:50

Having lives with someone with OCD, and still seeing the effects of that almost 10 years later, I don't think you have it. I think you like things clean, and germ free, and are precious about who uses your facilities, I can relate to that, however I wouldn't be traumatised by a stranger having had a shit in my toilet 10 days ago.

I think you need to try to put this incident behind you. The poo has gone, the smell has gone, the germs are gone and the man has gone. Don't give it another thought.

Trifleorbust · 17/12/2016 18:02

You can't expect someone to work all day in your home without access to a toilet, OP.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 17/12/2016 18:22

It really tickles me that people are actually offended by people pooing....in a TOILET OF ALL PLACES. I mean FFS what isn't the world coming to Grin

TMI ALERT

We are currently having our garage converted into a 'snug' (builders words not mine, but sounds naicer than 'office' doncha think Wink) so lots of random men in and out the house over the last few weeks. The only smelly poo that truly reeked out the house has come from me Blush the workers have been extremely courteous and have left the loo as fresh as a daisy. In my defence, I'm 8 months pregnant and constipated to hell due to high dose iron tablets, so my deliverance (first in 5 days) was like a monster from the deep lagoon. Sorry builders!

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 17/12/2016 18:23

I personally don't poo in strangers houses I don't think it's polite.

See this baffles me! A woman I used to work with could never bring herself to poo in the office toilets so held it in til she got home. HOW?! When I do need to go, I couldn't for the life of me hold it in! We're talking T minus 3 minutes from feeling the need to go to actually needing to go

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 17/12/2016 18:29

I can't believe someone actually complained to BT about their worker having a poo Shock WTF get a grip!!

cardibach · 17/12/2016 18:30

Tesco toilets are for customers. He wasn't a Tesco customer, he was working in your house. Get a grip.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 17/12/2016 18:31

A lawyer just periodically hits a table with a tiny hammer and can therefore get through the day on a salad

Arf!

Looks like someone's been watching too much Judge Rinder Joff GrinWink

Sparklingbrook · 17/12/2016 18:34

Your user name is very apt OP, as it's what I am thinking having read the thread.

LagunaBubbles · 17/12/2016 18:43

Not polite to poo in a strangers toilet? You sound odd OP and that doesn't sound as if it has anything to do with anxiety! All humans have to pass our waste products - we aren't robots. Toilets have been invented for this purpose.

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 17/12/2016 19:02

Since it's Christmas and the season of good will, I'm going to give OP the benefit of the doubt. Xmas Smile

Are you on any medications at the moment, Justdontgetit? I was on medication years ago that seemed to trigger my gag reflex at things that never otherwise bothered me, or bothered me only slightly.

So for instance, I'm a bit phobic about bananas, but would not normally gag at the sight of one. With the medication I was on, catching sight of a banana had me dry heaving.

Normal service was resumed when I came off the meds.

UnicornInDMboots · 17/12/2016 19:16

I totally understand you have anxiety but just to put another perspective on it.
I have IBD (inflammatory bowel disease) yes that's fairly rare but conditions like IBS aren't.
If I need the toilet I can't go down the road to a tesco or anywhere other than where I am right at the second of needing it. I can't hold it in or wait. IBS is the same - if you have to go you cannot wait or go elsewhere.
Perhaps the workman had no choice, perhaps he was as mortified as I would be when I have had to go in peoples houses!