I must admit I don't get how people can stick their heads in the sand, spend thousands on their kids and not even do a fucking shoebox for those less fortunate.
Tbh, those Shoebox things are just about the worst way to give to charity for numerous reasons. First off, apart from emergency supplies, you should never, ever, ever send goods into a fragile economic system. There will be be local workers producing and selling toys, toiletries, etc and by bringing in and handing out Western goods you put them out of business. In an economy where being in business is literally a matter of life and death. Imagine that you had just donated money and the money had been used to make an order for toys with a local producer. Now that money has been used to boost their business and the livelihoods of the people who supply them with raw materials. Those suppliers and producers now have money to spend in their economy and boost other businesses around them. The children have still gotten toys and the local businesses are thriving.
Secondly, the Shoebox appeals are nearly always run by religious evangelists who only give the toys to children who agree to pray to their version of Jesus in exchange for gifts. In many cases the children have hours of sermons to sit through for weeks on end before they are rewarded for their new religious devotion with a box of cheap western bits and bobs and loads of added leaflets about how it's all from Jesus. It's really disgusting.
And lastly, there is also an environmental cost of sending these boxes across the world. Fair enough if it's emergency supplies or medicine. But when it's just unnecessary tat that's been used to undermine the local cultural mores with fundamentalist Western religious ideas while potentially destroying parts of a local economy. It's a bad, bad idea.
The only genuinely effective way to donate is to research the best charity working in the are you want to give to. And then give them cold hard cash. It mightn't give you the warm and fuzzies in the same way as buying a bunch of items with generous intent does. But it lets you help without harming.