to dislike 'Look how many presents my children have' posts?

[LooptheL00p]

I've just seen the first one of the year pop up on Facebook, a picture of a living room absolutely full of toys, not even wrapped yet, captioned 'How am I going to wrap all of this?!'. I feel a (possibly unreasonable) amount of disdain towards these pictures!
I don't really mind how many presents people buy for their children, or if the pictures are more about the pretty wrapping/Christmas magic. But 'Look how much I've bought'?! It just seems common and somewhat of a pointless competition of oneupmanship to post online 🙄. Am I crazy or does this irritate others as well?

malificent7

Me and DP are dyed-in-the-wool working class and yet somehow we manage to not go overboard in showing what amazing parents we are.

It's not a class thing, I just think it's vulgar.

And nope, no wooden toys this year (or ever) - they've got games consoles, bikes and other assorted shite teenagers want.

Do you know. I don't think I've ever heard a person in real life actually use the word vulgar. At least not without taking the piss.

Is tacky better?

wouldnt even consider posting pics of how much I've bought my DD.

Ugh how crass

I've heard people describe glue as tacky. I think you might describe tinsel as 'tacky' (in the best possible way) but probably not present buying tactics.

Crass is another word I see on MN or in the press that no one actually uses in real life.

Yuck, I hate this stuff. Showing off and nothing else

Really? I use it often.
Love a bit of tinsel though

Advertising to burglers. Like when people post their holiday photos and tag themselves at the airport. Just a huge announcement for being burgled

Oh, I love a bit of tinsel too.

Well I am an English teacher so more likely to use flowery words!

But yeah in real life I'd probably call it 'tacky' or 'trashy'.

I don't really like saying tacky though as I love a bit of tack. My tree this year has tinsel on it!

Totally agree, I would never dream of posting pictures of mountains of presents. I do feel though that some people don't really realise that they are showing off, they honestly feel excited and so post a picture. No biggy just don't "like" it and move on.

I think it's fucking disgusting - Aleppo anyone?

I sometimes go a bit overboard (making up for MH issues a psychiatrist would have a field day with me)

I don't post pictures as I wouldn't want other parents to feel bad. I live in a poor area and I save all year to afford them. I'm not talking mountains or piles bigger then the child btw by any stretch.

Also I'm pretty sure my DD's would rather have a more stable mam then extra presents

This is why I don't fb. Full of knobs and show offs. Everything has to be put online

Only if that is the people you add to your facebook! Do people not understand that you CHOOSE who you have on FB, and what you see from them? If you see knobs and show offs, it means you have chosen those knobs and show offs to be your friends.

I don't see this stuff. I don't see any bad stuff at all, because I choose people I actually like to be on my FB. It's not hard.

I only have about 30 friends/family on FB, and I now realise they are all terribly naice and restrained. Just lots of photos of their dog, or their knitting, or their latest home improvement.

I need some tawdry vulgarity to liven things up...

It is terribly crass (sorry - there's no other word for it) but equally I am not keen on the competitive stinginess. I'm on the overboard end of the spectrum, just another one of these Christmas fetishists.

Can I suggest you just get off of Facebook? I was on it briefly about 8 or so years ago and caused me quite a lot of consternation. I love not feeling so interconnected to everyone.

I must admit that, coming from a far poorer country, I do sometimes wince at what to me seems like the rampant consumerism in the UK. People struggling to think what on earth to buy for each other, and spending a lot of money on things that the other person might not even like because that's the done thing. All the weird rubbishy stocking fillers that no-one needs and few people must actually want.
It contrasts too starkly for me with how little so many on this earth have.

I was yesterday looking at pictures of kids in Southern Africa receiving their Shoebox Appeal boxes. Cheap toiletries, cheap stationary, cheap sweeties, and one cheap toy. And oh god the look of joy on their faces....

And even they are the lucky ones, they're not dodging bombs (or failing to) in Aleppo this Christmas.

Yes I must be fun at parties.

It actually doesn't get more crass IMO....
Although if I was on FB I doubt I'd have such Vulgar friends.
Double whammy

Demon

True. But I think in many cases the people that may be slightly less financially secure (the ones that can't get their favourite chocolate or have to tell their child that they can't afford the same backpack 'everybody else has', because they genuinely couldn't buy rent if they did, and not because they just don't want to spoil their kid... which I know, is not comparable to the children you mentioned!) anyhow, I think these families are the ones that sometimes like to go the extra mile on Christmas. When the rest of the year is sometimes difficult then it's imoperant to make Christmas extra special, right?

I'm not trying to be insulting. It's just like this quite often, imo.

Yeah, I have one person who does this on FB and I wish I could not be jealous of how much she can buy for her kids but I totally am. I am trying to rise above it though :)

you could literally give him a cardboard box and some tin foil to play with and he'd be happy

6mo DD was obsessed with tinsel, on her first Christmas. She sat on the floor jiggling a string of tinsel for ages while DS had a go at decorating the tree. I love tinsel.