To not have entitled children...

[FearandLoathinginLasVegas]

Looking at the over indulged 'grown up children' thread, and feeling them same with lots of family friends having grown up children living at home, makes me want to make sure I don't do too much for my primary aged children, and how I need to make sure they are independent .. What do yours do and AIBU?

Mine are KS1 atm & they do:
Make beds
Tidy Room
Stack diswasher (with their stuff)
Set table (for all of us)
Tidy up their own mess
Put dirty uniform in washing bin and put next days clothes out

(massive amounts of winging (from kids) - but i'm hoping its worth it in the end)
btw - i'm the worst mummy in the world when i ask them to do this....

One of my DCs flat mates grew up with maids and cook his whole life right up to moving to the U.K. for Uni. He is also very well off and has lots of cash. According to DS he is the perfect housemate as he is super clean and happily takes turns cooking for the house. He is also brilliant at organizing the house bills etc. (I jokingly suggested that DS set him up with a date with one of my DDs 😂)
You don't have to be taught to clean or cook. Neither is difficult and there are millions of simple cookbooks and YouTube videos if needed.

"You don't have to be taught to clean or cook. Neither is difficult and there are millions of simple cookbooks and YouTube videos if needed."

Christ, mine do, the little buggers can at least learn to cook me a decent meal before they swan off to be perfect and domesticated elsewhere!

Yabu, getting your children to do chores does not make them entitied, neither does not getting your children to do chores makes them entitled either.

I know many children who do other things around a home that does not involve housework.

wookie totally agree. Not having the lazy so and so's lolling around, while I'm doing all the jobs wishing i could have a quick loll...

Really pleased there's so many posters of similar aged children who are doing more or less the same thing. Going to get them doing some of the washing too!

I don't think there's a simple single correlation between doing jobs and being entitled, but it seems like its a factor.
We have family coming at christmas their teenagers never do anything (not even get their own cereal in the mornings) but they didn't when they were younger either. So its going to be really hard work! (maybe i'm just workshy)

PhilODox you don't know what you are missing! you can do without, but they are a lifesaver, it saves so much time, water and energy.

Hermione I agree that little ones and young adults cannot be compared, however the way you are when they are little determine how they will behave when they are older. You can act without going to the extreme of chucking them out. (and why should a healthy young adult receive any help from the government?)

Oh wookie I love your teenagers bedroom, does she have to take a running leap & do a barrel roll to get to the bed?!

I would almost get the wastepaper bin for her out of pure curiosity to see if she'll keep it tidy just to prove you wrong about that not being the actual issue (which would be a brilliant cunning plan if it did work, everyone's a winner!).

Guess what is going under the christmas tree chips?

And god knows how she gets to bed, I have even wondered if she is sneakily sleeping in the spare bedroom to be honest!

Doing too much for them, to make sure it's done properly, if I could go back, I'd let them make mistakes, that's how they learn.

dingdong I'm sure they're fab (almost everyone has one these days) but we have nowhere to put one! (and those counter-top types wouldn't fit my plates in)