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48hr rule

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 09:07

My little boy 7 came home yesterday to tell me a little girl 6 at his school got sent home for pooing all over a chair (diarrhoea) he said it was awful and her dad had to collect her. Went to school this morning and she's in school. AIBU to think this is totally wrong. She was sent in a few months ago with norovirus and the whole school was off due to it spreading.
What would u do? Complain to school or AIBU ???

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 09:09

Oh her father is a school governor too so should know better IMO

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idontlikealdi · 14/12/2016 09:22

You are mostly not BU but do you know she's ill as in contagious or has some kind of bowel condition? I did when I was at school and got sent home a few times but I wasn't ill.

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 09:26

She's generally ok at school however she had norovirus a few months ago, being sick at school and was sent in the following day and then the whole school near enough was off (small village school) I have only been told of this one poo occasion so doubt it. Her younger sister had worms and was still sent in to school. I think they are taking the piss a bit.

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 09:28

Basically would the school think I'm an interfering old bat if I rang or actually concerned as I am Hmm

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PurpleMinionMummy · 14/12/2016 09:35

Yanbu IF she she's ill and contagious. You can't keep a kid off school for worms though Hmm

Notonthestairs · 14/12/2016 09:35

You might not be unreasonable however... My DD has had weeks of constipation and we've just been advised to give her movicol and are tinkering with the doses to get it right - so there is chance she'll have an accident (I really really hope not). So it's possible it might be something other than a bug (possible - I don't say likely!)
Also I think the norovirus is easily spread in the hours up to actually being sick so I think you need to let that one go.

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 09:35

So don't ring? Hmm

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Jellybean83 · 14/12/2016 09:39

Are you supposed to keep wormy kids off school? I give Ovex, cut his nails, hammer home the importance of scrubbing hands regularly, clean then Vaseline around his bum and send him to school..... it is more than likely where he caught them from. Shit, didn't know you were supposed to keep them home. Confused

baconandeggies · 14/12/2016 09:40

It's most likely gastroenteritis on the balance of probabilities so do ring if you're concerned.

baconandeggies · 14/12/2016 09:41

She'd get sent straight home again if it was our school - school governor or not.

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 09:42

I'm totally not sure about the worms thing but I know it is wrong for a child to be sick at school actually vomiting on the carpet, then sent in the next day, and to have diarrhoea at school then to be sent in the next day. If I thought my child was slightly unwell, complaining of feeling sick/pesky I would keep them off. If my child shut on the chair at school and it was diarrhoea I would keep them off. Maybe I'm in the minority

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c3pu · 14/12/2016 09:43

YANBU to be annoyed, but unless you know the child's medical history then there is no point in phoning up.

As an aside, illness is a fact of life and by the time the kid is unwell enough to be kept off school they have normally been contagious for long enough beforehand to spread it about anyway. I don't lose sleep over it.

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 09:44

baconandeggies

I would of hoped my school would do the same however when I left she was in the playground. And I didn't want to make a fuss with the teachers incase her father took her home, however I heard from another parent she was not taken home.

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NiceFalafels · 14/12/2016 09:46

Why wouldn't a child with worms go to school?

Sickness - yes 48 hour rule.

Diarrhoea - depends on reason for it.

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 09:48

c3pu

I know that, I know it's part of life but it seems to be reoccurring that they send this child in whatever. So yes it might be medical but would it not be more often accidents if it was a bowel problem? Maybe IABU and should forget about it. If she is there this afternoon I will have a word with one of the teachers possibly. The last thing I want is my kids getting a bug before Christmas

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HaveNoSocks · 14/12/2016 09:48

Unless she has some kind of bowel issue that means this rely happens without being sick she should definitely be at home. For her own sake as well as the other children, how humiliating for her if it should happen again!

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 09:54

Totally agree, more the reason to keep her at home incase it happens again. My son said she pumped and out it came. Sounds like a bug to me. Obviously I'm the minority though

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TiredBefuddledRose · 14/12/2016 09:57

I wouldn't ring in as the school will already be aware of the situation.
I feel your pain though, I was picking my 7 year old twins up from school yesterday and there was a mum in Ella's class in the playground saying she hoped her daughter had been okay as she'd been up in the night being sick. And yes 11.30 last night Ella recreates that scene from the exorcist in her bedroom.
It drives me nuts when parents ignore the 48 hour rule. I've seen parents whose kids have been sent home from school ill the day before bring them in, shove them through the classroom door and just walk off before the teacher can say anything.

Whatever Ella catches her twin sister normally gets the next day so I might have it all again tonight.
It's the school nativity tomorrow grrr

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 10:06

I just think it's totally wrong. If my child had shit in the classroom I would keep them off regardless for the humility of my child if nothing else. It really winds me up

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NiceFalafels · 14/12/2016 10:09

Poor staff cleaning up that shit and sick also.

Poor unwell child having to keep going when they should be laying on the sofa

Poor children and staff who will have an increased chance of catching the illness

Selfish parents

ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual · 14/12/2016 10:12

Obviously with diarrhoea there can conceivably be other, non contagious, reasons for this. Though based on what happened when she was sick previously, I'll admit I'd certainly be Hmm about her being back in school again so soon. Having such uncontrollable diarrhoea that you soil a chair in a classroom sounds pretty awful, poor child.

I'm not sure I'd call up but if I was able to have a quiet word with the teacher this afternoon, I would query it. Less accusatory on the child/parent but more that you were surprised that the school themselves were not adhering to the 48 hour rule. They really should be.

People who flout the 48 hour rule are saying that their day, and their plans, are more important than the health of their peers or children. It's as simple as that.

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 10:13

Exactly. I feel I may need to comment if the girl is there this afternoon when I collect my son. Hmm

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NiceFalafels · 14/12/2016 10:14

Just mention it to the teacher at pick up.

If it happens again with a sickness bug speak to the head in passing as that's more clear cut.

miserablesod · 14/12/2016 10:20

Illness might be a fact of life but parents acting like selfish bastards ain't.

Its very simple. If your kid is ill keep it at home. We don't all want your fucking germs thanks. Esp when some of us have a child with a low inmune system.

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GizmoFrisby · 14/12/2016 12:15

Totally agree miserable

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