48hr rule

[GizmoFrisby]

My little boy 7 came home yesterday to tell me a little girl 6 at his school got sent home for pooing all over a chair (diarrhoea) he said it was awful and her dad had to collect her. Went to school this morning and she's in school. AIBU to think this is totally wrong. She was sent in a few months ago with norovirus and the whole school was off due to it spreading.
What would u do? Complain to school or AIBU ???

YANBU to be cheesed off however I wouldn't complain to the school. If the child is being sent in when they shouldn't the teachers are not going to be pleased, and would be taking whatever action was necessary (if there was any for the latest incident). Even without ill kids being sent in viruses decimate schools- 1/5 of my kids school was off this week. Norovirus bugs can live on for weeks on surfaces. So even if kid hadn't been sent in the next day, it would be very likely many others would have caught it.

Poor girl though.

As others have said you do not know the background. The 48h rule applies to a sickness bug but there can be other reasons for that poor child to have had an accident.
I'd simply ask the teachers if they are comfortable the child isn't going to pass some sickness bug to others. They may reassure you as they may be privy to information you wouldn't be privy to yourself!

What if she just had IBS or something like a nervous tummy. My ds 5 sometimes has loose poo if he's eaten a lot of fruit or too much chocolate.

Sickness and diarrhoea together is certainly a bug but either on its own may not be. Diarrhoea could be a reaction to certain foods or a bowel problem, though I concede that it's likely to be a bug.

My eldest vomits in response to pain. She's done that since she was a baby. It used to frustrate me no end that if she had an ear infection, or stubbed her toe and vomited once, the school would insist on two days off. She took full advantage of this, and despite the school being concerned about her attendance would adhere strictly to this rule.

Their primary school took the best course when norovirus appeared in the school, they put hand sanitiser by the doors and made the kids use it on their way in and throughout the day. Very sensible.

Btw hand sanitiser doesnt usually kill vomiting viruses. So it looks good but probably not a good idea as it means people in general wash their hands less ( and soap and water does get rid of it).

Antibacterial hand sanitiser = useless

Antiviral + antibacterial hand sanitiser = correct

Thanks to a fellow germophobe on MN I've invested heavily (maybe why it's OOS!) in the following as extra insurance and it's long lasting too:

www.boots.com/en/Boots-Advanced-First-Aid-Anti-Viral-Hand-Foam-200ml_1036207/

Ffs who reported me because I put my child's name in my post?!
The massively identifiable name Ella, she's the only one in the country with that name.

Tired
Sorry I'm quite new to Mumsnet. Wasn't me. Thanks for advice. She was sent home again today. Stupid parents

Poor girl.

She threw up at school. Was sent home again. Why on earth would you send them in. Strange really.

I had bowel problems growing up, so there were times I got ill at school, but would be well enough to go in the next day. But if it is a virus the 48hr rule is in place for a reason, it's not fair on the child, or the teachers and other kids, and its a massive worry for parents with children poor immune systems etc.

I doubt it is a bowel/medical problem as she is usually very well at school however on the occasion she is ill they send her in anyways. It's really weird. He tried to send her in today and she threw up in the school yard again. Why not just keep them at home, medical or not if they are ill they are ill

"I doubt it is a bowel/medical problem as she is usually very well at school"

My kids are usually very well at school, but have an underlying genetic condition that you can't see. I could've written this post in reverse.

My dd is frequently sick, so this complaint happened at her previous school:
"a girl in my son's class was sick all over the pavement outside school yesterday afternoon and today she's back in, I can't believe they let her, now the whole class will get ill. I've told him not to go near her"

She had a reflux attack caused by what she ate at lunch, no bug or anything and nothing that another parent can see, but that parent not only chose to judge me and my dd, but even told her child not to go near her- and all her delightful mummy friends and their kids too. My daughter was devastated.

At her new school she was ill with a migraine a few weeks ago (first time at the new school) and was utterly terrified about going back because she thought she was going to be shunned again. Thank God that didn't happen and the first person that greeted her in the playground was over the moon to see her and concerned about her.

Feel free to call the school to double check that they're applying the 48hr rule correctly, but please don't accuse this specific family, you have no idea what might be happening.

I think personally I believe this is a bug. As it was last time. I take on board what your saying but how do you know that it isn't a bug and are sending your child into school on the off chance?? Reflux attack is totally different, this little girl wouldn't of been sent home in the first place if it was just an accident. If they knew of a medical issue they would clean her up and keep her in school. I am slating the parents yes. Because big or medical problem other kids and staff should not be put in this situation over and over. If your child is ill being sick wether it be a bug or not agreeing with a certain food I believe they should be at home. It's not a teachers job to clean up children's shit and sick. They should be at home

A few years ago DS used to go to a child minder. One day I arrived to pick him up in time to see another child puking his guts up. I was rather surprised to see this child back at the minders the next day but didn't say anything. However, I was straight on the phone to the CM the next evening when my son became violently ill. I asked why she'd accepted the child back and she said the mum was a GP so didn't like to challenge her. Next day I left a message on the school answer phone to say DS was sick and I believed he'd caught it from a child who'd been sent back to school too soon. I went on to say that perhaps it would be an idea to remind parents about the 48 hour rule. I kind of hoped school would call to ask who the child was as I was very happy to tell them. They didn't and nor did they send out a note about the 48 hour rule so assume they weren't too bothered. I actually posted about it on a parenting forum at the time (Not mn) and was absolutely flamed by certain people who said schools take a dim view of busybodies like me! That would surely never happen on AIBU - would It?!?!

Sorry hyper don't quite get what your post means? Are you saying I'm a busy body?

DS had food allergies and intolerances that wrecked havoc on his digestive system. Fortunately he grew out of them prior to starting school, but at nursery he had to have a baby bath for his use in the aftermath of a poo which would inevitably burst the nappy from neck to knee. This continued long after he went onto exclusion diets. Fortunately the sickness ended with the diet change.

It may well be a parent sending a child in with a bug, but you cannot know if there is a medical, non contagious reason either. The school is obviously aware of the incident, so it falls between the school and the parents, not to others to police.

Gizmo - no I certainly wasn't implying that you were a busybody (?!). I said that I had a similar situation and DID complain to the school and was flamed by other posters who called ME a busybody. I've not rtft but don't see anyone flaming you and hope they don't.

Oh right sorry I'm a bit new to MN. It's a tricky one. I'm still sticking to my guns medical or non medical sickness and diarrhoea should stay at home.

I didn't complain, but when I picked my son up he informed me they tried to send her in and she threw up before class started and she was sent home again. Poor kid.

I am furious, my son has come home throwing up all over the place. The 48 hours is there for a reason! Tomorrow is a very nice day which he is now missing out on with his mates due to the irresponsible parents who let their child go to school.

Hope your son is ok. My son will be soon I imagine. He is due to go on a school trip tomorrow and I could bet my bottom dollar they try and send her in again. It's awful. Hope your son feels better soon

Ok so it does sound like a bug and the parents are being dicks and very unfair on their own child as well as everyone else's. The 48 hour rule is regularly flouted at my school - two of my closest friends do it and it drives me crazy (they know not to tell me now). It would be worth asking the school to remind parents of the rule but i don't think there is much else you can do.

It would be worth asking the school to remind parents of the rule but i don't think there is much else you can do
^ i agree with this and with you OP-it makes me very cross.

If they dare to send her in tomorrow after one day of shitting herself in front of a class, and another of vomiting, then her parents are utterly heartless. I hope for her sake that she can just have a full day at home to get better.