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He didn't pick me up

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Brokenhobit · 13/12/2016 20:15

Was out having drinks arranged to finish around 7.30 .partner said he would pick me up, I offered to go for dinner with him after but he said he would see how he felt he wasn't hungry. At 5.55 I text to say I was on my way to drinks but where having dinner. I could pick you up a meal to take home when you pick me up, he then got grumpy and said thanks for letting him no earlier. me and my friend hasn't realised how hungry we where. at 6.45 texted him about where to meet as I was finishing up early. there was no reply so I started to walk to his office which is across town he wasn't in. It was now around seven so I waited till 725 thinking i did say 7.30 I'm the early one. he then rings saying he's having dinner will meet me at home and that he texted me. I got no text until 7.16 I just hadn't seen it I got in a taxi to go home which I couldn't really afford he had promised he would pick up tonight as he knew I hadn't seen this friend for months and really wanted to see her dinner was taste card so buy one get one free and I had tap water I also rang him a few times am I in the wrong

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KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 13/12/2016 20:20

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He didn't pick me up
Crunchymum · 13/12/2016 20:24

Does he do this often when you go out?

AyeAmarok · 13/12/2016 20:24

Sounds like a big case of miscommunication and too much changing plans.

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Brokenhobit · 13/12/2016 20:27

i only changed plans from drinks to dinner

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Crunchymum · 13/12/2016 20:28

Your poor friend if you a) rushed your drinks / dinner and b) spent half your time calling / messaging your DP!!

Sounds like your DP is a cunt. My ex used to be like this - he would ruin any social outing I had in one way or another.

ilovesooty · 13/12/2016 20:31

Perhaps you should plan more carefully and communicate more clearly. Does your area not have any public transport?

LagunaBubbles · 13/12/2016 20:34

Miscommunication by the sounds of it

RebelRogue · 13/12/2016 20:35

Does he have for, for this or was it miscommunication/him getting the hump over something ?

anothermalteserplease · 13/12/2016 20:37

Why not just have one night out at a time? Next time enjoy your night with your friend instead of rushing that and then trying to fit in a night with your partner too.

eddielizzard · 13/12/2016 20:37

in isolation - miscommunication. if a pattern - you have a problem.

MadHattersWineParty · 13/12/2016 20:37

Miscommunication! Annoying but not the end of the world. Was taxi to his the only option?

MadHattersWineParty · 13/12/2016 20:39

Yeah I probably would have just enjoyed an evening with my mate and left hanging out with him for another night!

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Brokenhobit · 13/12/2016 20:39

It was back to ours I could of got bus but it's hourly involves a walk down a long dark road and I wasn't wearing sensible shoes or have anything reflective

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Brokenhobit · 13/12/2016 20:42

My friend could only meet for an hour I didnt ring till she had left and texted while she was having a wee

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Justaboy · 13/12/2016 20:52

Try talking rather then texting sometime, much better comms:)

Toohardtofindaproperusername · 13/12/2016 20:53

He wanted to leave his options open, but didn't want you to. He's an ass . Yanbu.

daisychain01 · 13/12/2016 20:53

Ever thought of phoning up for a chat?

1horatio · 13/12/2016 20:54

If he knew what was going on (and it sounds like he did) then he's an arse.

Ahickiefromkinickie · 13/12/2016 21:00

Didn't you post something similar a couple of weeks ago?

You met a friend at a gig and your DP was supposed to join you a bit later. Can't remember the rest.

It sounds exhausting.

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 13/12/2016 21:03

I couldn't be doing with someone who turned frumpy easily and let me down.

VoodooPeople · 13/12/2016 21:06

Maybe he didn't understand your texts?

Try calling and speaking to him next time.

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Brokenhobit · 13/12/2016 21:10

I tried to call he wouldn't answer

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Brokenhobit · 13/12/2016 21:10

Kept saying he had no signal so fb him

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MoodyOne · 13/12/2016 21:12

He sounds abit controlling to be honest ... plans change, things happen ... if it was a one off maybe it is fine but if he does it often I think you have a bigger problem Confused

SestraClone · 13/12/2016 21:21

Am I the only one really confused by that story? I have no idea what the plans were or what happened or who was meeting who and when ...