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He didn't pick me up

57 replies

Brokenhobit · 13/12/2016 20:15

Was out having drinks arranged to finish around 7.30 .partner said he would pick me up, I offered to go for dinner with him after but he said he would see how he felt he wasn't hungry. At 5.55 I text to say I was on my way to drinks but where having dinner. I could pick you up a meal to take home when you pick me up, he then got grumpy and said thanks for letting him no earlier. me and my friend hasn't realised how hungry we where. at 6.45 texted him about where to meet as I was finishing up early. there was no reply so I started to walk to his office which is across town he wasn't in. It was now around seven so I waited till 725 thinking i did say 7.30 I'm the early one. he then rings saying he's having dinner will meet me at home and that he texted me. I got no text until 7.16 I just hadn't seen it I got in a taxi to go home which I couldn't really afford he had promised he would pick up tonight as he knew I hadn't seen this friend for months and really wanted to see her dinner was taste card so buy one get one free and I had tap water I also rang him a few times am I in the wrong

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ilovesooty · 13/12/2016 21:23

Sestra me too. I'm also trying to get the reference to the taste card and the tap water.

likepeasandcarrots · 13/12/2016 21:24

That was the first thing I thought of ahickie, it's very similar to that post about meeting at a gig and written in a very similar garbled confusing manner. If I recall that was all down to changing plans and times and general mix ups.

MsMarvel · 13/12/2016 21:25

I don't really get what your dp has done wrong? You had originally said you would go for dinner with him, and then changed the plans and told him you would bring you a doggy bag...? If my dp did that to me I would be pissed off tbh.

Unless I've missed something in that incredibly confusing op?

PNGirl · 13/12/2016 21:27

I don't get it. Where was he having dinner?

I can sort of see both sides - you'd said you'd eat with him after then said you wouldn't any more, but he should have confirmed that with you when you suggested it instead of being all "meh" and noncommittal. If you waited til 7.30 and he decided he wasn't hungry you'd have been starving by the time you got home.

PNGirl · 13/12/2016 21:28

Reading it back to me it sounds like you are nervous about his reaction to you going out hence the babble about only having tap water and offering to spend part of the evening with him as some sort of compromise.

Original poster
Brokenhobit · 13/12/2016 21:29

He told me he wasn't hungry and probably wouldn't be after my drinks I wasn't going to wait till 7.30 for him to say I'm actually not hungry you could of eaten with your friend

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likepeasandcarrots · 13/12/2016 21:31

Are you the same person who posted about the mix up with your bf at a gig?

Mindtrope · 13/12/2016 21:51

I can't understand a word of that OP, I'm not surprised your partner didn't get it.

It sounds gibberish.

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Brokenhobit · 13/12/2016 22:07

1.00 I text to say did you want to get dinner after my drinks he said I probably won't be hungry let's see (he's never hungry after work and normally says no to eating out)
5.45 I text to say where both hungry so getting dinner I can bring you take away or go get dinner after would happily have a pudding while you eat dinner
6.00 meeting friend
7.00 we finish dinner half hour early so I ring him
7.05 no answer so walk to his office
7.10 he's not in and answering so decide to wait till 7.30 but text asking where he is
7.15 I get a sorry no signal text saying he's having dinner and to make my own way home

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Brokenhobit · 13/12/2016 22:08

He said he assumed I would take longer and not be done by 7.30 but he also knew my friend had to leave and be back for 8

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LIZS · 13/12/2016 22:13

Was it you posting similar last week, he had changed his mind a out joining you last minute after you met a friend beforehand. Tbh it all sounds rather playground and suggests he isn't that bothered about you.

Crunchymum · 13/12/2016 22:48

he's never hungry after work and normally says no to eating out

He sounds joyless!!!

Look I can't decipher what has actually gone on here? But if you had told him 7.30 then you can't expect him to be ready to collect you at 7pm or whatever time....basically you kept moving the times OP. Although he sounds difficult!!

Mindtrope · 13/12/2016 22:52

Poor guy.

VoodooPeople · 13/12/2016 22:56

Look I can't decipher what has actually gone on here?

Join the club. I get the Twilight Zone music playing in my head every time I re-read the OP.

DrunkenMissOrderly · 13/12/2016 22:56

You went out for drinks of tap water?

elQuintoConyo · 13/12/2016 23:00

I. Am. Lost.

GabsAlot · 13/12/2016 23:20

im getting deja vu

you dont seem to be answring so im assuming its same op as boyfriend didnt turn up to a gig the other week

BakeOffBiscuits · 13/12/2016 23:26

There was a time when all these difficulties didn't occur. It was before the advent of mobile phones. In those days.......
1.you talked to each other and made a PLAN
2.you stuck to it.

Those were the days.....

LittleBooInABox · 13/12/2016 23:39

YANBU- sounds like he had a massive sulk because you had dinner out.

kali110 · 14/12/2016 02:56

I am so confused Confused

Bogeyface · 14/12/2016 03:16

Whats confusing about it?!

OP was meeting a mate for drinks, OH says he will pick her up (he works nearby), she says "Shall we go for dinner when you meet me?", he is flakey and says he doesnt know, might not be hungry, refuses to pin down plans. She meets friend, they both want dinner so she informs OH and asks if he wants a takeaway, no answer. Finshes earlier than expected, texts, no answer. Rings him, no answer. He isnt at work, he doesnt meet her as arranged and finally he tells her to get herself home as he is now eating the dinner he didnt think he would be hungry for.

Sounds like an asshole who resents your social life to me.

Bogeyface · 14/12/2016 03:18

Bakeoff she tried to make a plan but he wouldnt, so she ate her dinner on the basis that he wouldnt commit to eating with her, and in the knowledge that he often isnt hungry at that time of night. He then didnt pick her up as promised.

If anyone is being a dick about making plans, it isnt the OP.

Kiwiinkits · 14/12/2016 03:41

We are = we're

Hope that helps.

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Brokenhobit · 14/12/2016 09:34

Thank you bogeyface that's exactly it

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GabsAlot · 14/12/2016 10:03

but u still wont answer the question if its the same person when u postde a few weeks ago about a very similar prob only u went to a gig and he didnt turn up

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