Aibu to be fucking furious?

[chocolatecakemakesmefat]

With ds nursery ? To put you all in the picture ds is 4 and goes to a Sen nursery he's come home with this bruise on his thigh just under his bum I've not been contacted and nothing wrote in his diary I'll be contacting them tomorrow about it but I find it a very strange place for him to get a bruise - also tried asking ds but he has poor understanding so didn't get much out of him

I'm not defining them as 'Sen kids' I was trying to put everyone in the picture ds goes to an additional needs nursery obviously him and all his other class mates will have sen of some kind or they wouldn't have been placed there in the first place would they?

"SEN" is not a derogatory term. It simply explains why the children might have mobility or communication difficulties in this instance.
I'm not sure how else you could phrase it?

Unnecessary Poptart

There's always fucking one.

Don't panic ! It looks no worse that the bruising my boisterous 6 year old gets just doing his day to day thing

It's easy to overreact when you're tired. Try not to let the psych flip flopping opinion change your relationship with the nursery in general as it'll be better for you and ds if you are able to feel like you're both on the same side, wanting what is best for ds.

YABU - sorry but kids get bumps and bruises all the time and if this was below his thigh and he had trousers on, i don't know why the would have noticed. he could have got this in any number of ways and if he was not upset when it happened, staff would not have needed to react. I would simply mention the bruise next time he's in and ask if they know how he may have gotten it.
Maybe you are struggling with the lack of control, its easy to be when you have a sen child ( i have three) when you are used to being so in control.

Well I am glad you cleared that op you might have been all night thinking about it.

Chocolate - it is wise to note bruises you don't recognise in a home/school diary if you have one. You will find as your son grown the school/nursery may well do the same (or they may ring you or fill in body map forms). It's also fine to say you don't know how they happened.

(My eldest is severely disabled & I have years of bruise swapping info behind me).

Poptart what no apologies for passing judgement. Shame on you.

My dd used to come home constantly with bruises, still does from school. Ask them tmrw.