Aibu to be fucking furious?

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With ds nursery ? To put you all in the picture ds is 4 and goes to a Sen nursery he's come home with this bruise on his thigh just under his bum I've not been contacted and nothing wrote in his diary I'll be contacting them tomorrow about it but I find it a very strange place for him to get a bruise - also tried asking ds but he has poor understanding so didn't get much out of him

But why are you 'FUCKING furious'? Children get bruises all the time?? Is there some back story to this? It's only a bruise.

You need to calm down. You are massively overreacting. You can't be sure it didn't happen at home - bruises don't appear instantly!

Fucking furious is a lin over reaction.

They may have noticed it when they changed him but assumed it happened at home so not mentioned it?

He could well have walked into the side of the door frame, bounced off it and carried on.

Is there a reason you are so quick to react and feel suspicious of the nursery staff? If there is a bigger picture to all this that needs addressing, then your response is understandable. If not yabu.

Clearly the nursery staff hate children, and want them to be bruised without telling their parents. Why else would they work with children?

I have an identical bruise from walking into the corner of our dining room table...

they normally write up any bangs or bumps that's happened and haven't

Which suggests they don't know about it doesn't it?

He'll have walked into something I'll bet, like a table.
But don't let that stop you from going in there and raising merry hell over nothing.

How can they write upa bruise that hadn't come out yet? They may not see the side of his leg whe changing nappies. That's a really easy place to get a bruise - just walk in to something. I'd calm down. You sound a bit OTT.

Not one person has agreed that been fucking furious is the right reaction. In fact not one has said that being slightly pissed off would be reasonable.

Bumps and bruises happen. He is a young child who will no doubt have many more bruises as he grows.

Let it go.

I get lots of bruises like that, i'm a bit wobbly (ASD, not much of a sense of balance), and knocking against a door frame or something similar can do it easily. I'd ask, but as veteran of many a 1-1 (three kids with autism), things do get missed even by the best support staff in the world.

My DS has been more or less instantly bruised since he started crawling at 4 months old. He's now 9.

I'm sure that the fact that your DS can't tell you how it happened must make you feel a bit anxious but honestly I don't see anything to worry about in that bruise.

Instantly? constantly

My ds used to get worse bruise than that in nursery. He didn't even remember how it happened. He has no known SEN. Can easily fell over into toys etc., not necessarily table or etc. It happens.

Bloody hell, massive overreaction!

Op, better wrap him in cotton wool tomorrow, just in case.

Massive OTT reaction. YABU.

I think you are over reacting. Haven't you ever had a bruise that you didn't remember how you might have done.

YABVVU

If my child was bruised at home I would expect the nursery/school to take a common sense approach and NOT jump to conclusions about how it happened and how negligent I had been.
So I afford schools and nurseries the same courtesy.

How on earth would you feel if you arrived at nursery to pick him up and a furious safeguarding officer was waiting for you before you had a chance to explain?

Its tough handing over your child with SN to others to care for. I understand that.

But you really need to calm down a bit

He's walked into something, that's all. And probably at home before he even went to nursery, by the look of that bruise. Are you sure you're supervising him properly? And it's not under his bum. What a ridiculous way of describing it - you're clearly hinting at abuse. Be very careful there OP, not the kind of accusation to fling around lightly.

You are seriously overreacting.

You cannot possibly know where it happened. It could easily have been at home yesterday. Bruising often does not show instantaneously, it can take hours to come out sometimes.

My kids were constantly getting bruises when they were that age. It is just life. I still get bruises like that sometimes if I bash into a table, chair or cupboard door handle etc.

There really is nothing odd about it. You will look odd though if you go in all guns blazing.

I've always got bruises on the sides of legs and thighs, we have a coffee table that finishes right on your shins, it would be unusual for me not to have a bruise there. My husband had a massive bruise on his thigh, it was huge, he didn't have a clue how he got it. You are being very unreasonable. It's very hard when you love your children so much.

And can you not distinguish his bum from his thigh?

YABU . First of all bruises don't show up straight away. Second they might've seen it and assumed it happened at home. Third there's nothing to be "fucking furious" about.

I'm full of bruises and have no idea from where and I'm an adult. More than likely bumped into/sat on something,didn't actually hurt so he didn't make a fuss and it wasn't visible at the last nappy change which is why you weren't informed.

It takes a few days for bruises to develop. He probably got it on Saturday