To not send an anniversary card to my parents every year

[ElleMcElle]

I made a fuss for my parents' Silver wedding anniversary and will do the same for Gold in a few years, but I don't send them an anniversary card every year. I have just discovered that my Mum thinks this is terrible and feels neglected by me. I think wedding anniversaries are a nice celebration for the couple, but nobody else's business. I do remember it and wish them happy anniversary when I speak to them on the phone near the time / ask them if they're going out to dinner etc. But no card.

My Mum does send us an anniversary card each year - but my DH and I have always found this a bit odd! I guess you do see 'To my parents on their Wedding Anniversary' cards in shops, so perhaps it isn't that unusual...

AIBU to say happy anniversary on the phone, but not send a card? And if U, how U?

Or maybe not all elderly people are the same and aren't sharing a card hive mind?

Good grief, I'm not that far off 60 and really don't need to be seen as an alien species thank you! Some people over 60 like cards, some people over 60 don't.
Just like people over 30 or under 47 or between 15 and 18.

I'm also not sure resting's conflation of over 60 and elderly would be appreciated by many of the younger members of that demographic! My parents aren't 60 yet but they're not far off, perhaps around your age fuzzy, and I have a feeling my mother would spiflicate you backwards for daring to suggest she was approaching elderly! My dad wouldn't give a shit, but then he's also not one for commercial greetings cards: perhaps he'll magically change his mind on his 60th birthday?

I never send my parents anniversary cards. They never send us anniversary cards. We're lucky if DH remembers to give me one and vice versa. I actually can't remember the date we got married, just that it was late August, so it catches me by surprise every year. I remember my parents because it is the same as my mums birthday, but the idea that anyone expects this day marked every single year is weird to me.