Be honest, would you be annoyed if I brought this for your child?

[ChocolateRice]

My friend's son has a birthday party coming up, we are kind of close (work together) and my son is in his class at school. I asked for gift ideas from his mum (so things he likes, so not exact gifts) and she said Finding Dory.

There's an amazing sale in the Disney store for a giant Large Dory Soft Toy! It's half price. Would it piss you off? it's not huge, but it's big enough, see, I love soft toys so it wouldn't bother me, but DS doesn't have a lot in his room so keeps them all in a corner.

Not another fucking soft toy!

The present is for a child. The joy it would give far outweighs what adults think.

What about a dory rucksack or dory pencil case with pens

My kids wouldn't be that impressed.

He will love it then. Dds school sometimes has charity events and bring soft toys in. Children love doing swaps. I'd just buy it. But I do understand the thanks but no thanks attitude. Dd will be 9 next birthday. Soft toy gifts have stopped.

I think thats fine OP, I would love it, however I suppose it depends on the parent and how much space they have, e.g if they live in a bedsit or a tiny flat it might not be such a good idea.

I do love soft toys though, as did DD and always played with them (more than the likes of Barbie). DD has fucking great Christmas bear sitting on top of her wardrobe that was bought over a decade ago and a big soft toy elephant still lies on her bed (she's 17!) - both of which I had no problems buying.

That said, in my world I do think £20 is a bit OTT to buy for a friend's child. (But I would never have that money to spend on someone unless they were extremely close).

Absolute fantastic, mum told you he likes Findind Dorey.

Wouldn annoy me but my children would like it and that's more important: I'd be grateful on balance and so would they.

cheekyfunkymonkey

"sexualised dolls" Crack whore barbie now with pole dancing pole?

Do we live in the same universe?

Also, why not just ask the mum what she thinks?

I think someone who gets pissed off by buying a nice gift is not a real friend.

I ive in an extraordinarily small house. Storage space is premiu, every item must be pretty damn special to take up any valuable shelf/toybox space. If my kid really loved it and thought it was the best toy ever, then yeah, maybe I'd let it stay (but something else would probably have to go), but if he ignored it in favour of other things, it'd be charity shopped.

Depends on the age of the kid, too. If you're in the under-5 kind of age they might still play with them, but over that they become ornaments.

Oh my god I just looked at the picture, that is LUDICROUS! I would turn you around and march you back to the car. I have items of furniture and shelving smaller than that thing.

Hate soft toys. Completely pointless and my child would not be impressed.

I would be fine with it. However i would be agog at anyone spending £20 on my son who was not his grandparents or us.

I wouldn't mind the size, but the expense would make me feel a bit awkward. £5-10 a gift is norm for school parties here.

Also, why not just ask the mum what she thinks?

OP did - and was told "Finding Dory".

OP I think he's fab, but I'd add the personalisation and probably go to great lengths to explain he was on special offer 'cause I hate people thinking I'm being flash.

Must resist buying for DD

Hell no! Soft toys are nice in theory but what exactly are they for?

How old is he? I wouldn't care if my DS liked it.

Plus, the good thing about Dory is that he's good at getting 'lost'....

I mean, I wouldn't care about the size of the toy as long as he liked it.

Not that I wouldn't care if he liked it, I'd still get rid of it! I'm not THAT horrible.

It depends on the child doesn't it?
Dc2 would have loved that and has several big soft toys that still live with him in his bed.
Dc1 couldn't be bothered.

I find it sad that some people say it would find its way to the charity shop. Surely that's for the child to decide??

I think that looks great it's not too big & as you know Finding Dory is a favourite it should be a hit. The bonus for me would be it doesn't make noise or excess mess

That's lovely. I opened this expecting to read about a drum kit or a keyboard. Those are the presents you give to a child whose parents you hate.

I would also assume that, as the OP asked the mum, if space was at a premium, the other mum would have said so.
Something along the lines of 'yes but nothing too big as we have little space'

I think £20 is a lot for a friend's child. I spend about a tenner. But it's a nice present.

My kids played with soft toys way beyond 5! Including at 13. They have voices, personalities, and are very good at quietly accepting the blame when something goes wrong.

InTheDessert We have 'Sharky' too. Had him for years - don't know if he's been available all the time. He's still very popular. It was just a bit much when Sharky had to come into our bed in the night as well as his small owner ...