Or is my DH regarding our son being bitten at Nursery.

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My husband phoned me earlier today after he'd picked DS up from nursery (he's aged 2yr 10m) to says he'd been bitten twice whilst there.

When I came home from work I saw one bite on DS's thumb, which was really red and there was a bruise underneath the nail, and the second bite had left a full on circular mark of the child's mouth on his left arm with some marking that were indentations from the teeth.

The child who did both bites was just under two years old.

My husband was furious about it.

I on the other hand said some young toddlers just go through a biting phase and that's not to say it is acceptable but at the same time it's just something that happened and nobody is culpable I.e it isn't the Nursery's fault.

I said it could just have easily been our son who hurt another child and reminded him that it was only 6/7 months ago that DS's previous childminder had to tell us that he was frequently pushing other children and causing them to fall over and hurt themselves. My DH said, "True, but biting is different."

My DH has said he wants to remove DS from the nursery.

I was upset when I saw the bite marks because I obviously don't like to think of my DS being hurt but I don't think this one off incident justifies pulling DS out of the nursery.

I said to DH that even if we did change Nursery there's no guarantee that DS wouldn't receive a similar injury, or another type of injury inflicted by or caused by another young child.

My husband seems to think I'm not taking it seriously enough whereas I am currently of the thinking that it's unfortunate it happened but as a one off event it's not enough to change childcare setting.

So who is BU?
What would you do?

My niece was a biter. It can be stopped, her mum was vigilant and used to dive across the room when she saw the warning signs. I would be in the same room and miss them completely. DN bit in nursery because the staff weren't as vigilant as her mum (who also had a baby to care for).
My kid was bitten by a child we didn't know at an event, it transpired she was known to be a biter, which is the bit that made me cross as her mum was 100metres away (children's centre playground!) rather than supervising her child who she knew was likely to hurt others.
It's not the incident at nursery so much as the response, which was 'let it happen again'. I'd want to know what they have tried and how they will change it as it didn't work.

They had just said that my DS was winding the biter up by taking his dummy out of his mouth and that's what's led to the bite.

Myself and DH spoke to DS about taking things off other people and that he shouldn't be touching the other boy's dummy but when I was at work yesterday all I kept thinking was: Am I going to get a call from DH to say there's been another bite?

Thankfully there wasn't an incident yesterday as I imagine the nursery are pretty much on high alert to keep my DS and the biter apart.

This needs to be discussed clearly with the manager OP - imagine isn't going to be adequate I'm afraid.
I'm surprised they let them have contact after the way your husband reacted to the previous bite.
They need to be kept separate until this phase passes, and any contact between them should be assumed to be a biting risk.
Agree with PP that removing your DS could cause all sorts of disruption, and he may well be the next one to bite!