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Original poster

DD wants to come home from work, WIBU to not pick her up?

101 replies

Alloo1 · 07/12/2016 15:50

DD works in a supermarket. She started at 2 pm and has until 10 pm to do. She has injured her hand, it got caught between 2 heavy boxes, she says that it isn't broken (obviously she doesn't know) but that the swelling is coming out and so it's aching when she is doing lifting, etc. she spoke to manager on shift and they said that as she is moving it, with little discomfort, they think it's best she stays. We are going on holiday in January and I think it looks bad to come home, especially as her manager has said she won't approve. She phoned me on break and asked me to pick her up she explained what manager has said, so I said why don't you ask to go on tills. She is 16, so they don't like her on the tills as the alcohol has to be approved. AIBU by not picking her up?

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witsender · 07/12/2016 15:52

I would, and her work should be more sympathetic if she injured her hand at work!

Original poster
Alloo1 · 07/12/2016 15:53

Manger has been a bit nasty tbh, said to her that if she would have lifted properly, her hand shouldn't have got caught.

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WaggyMama · 07/12/2016 15:54

She has an injury - I would pick her up.....and make sure it is recorded in the accident book.

She can always work an extra shift in future if it turns out to be nothing.

Iloveswears · 07/12/2016 15:54

How can she do tills with a sore hand? Typical case of work trying to take advantage of a 16 yr old if you ask me. She's old enough to know her own capabilities and she wants to leave work for the day - you should help her if you can.
She should make sure it's been logged as an accident and signed off before she leaves!

Leanback · 07/12/2016 15:54

Yabu and so is her manager. If she stays and it gets worse because of the lifting she has to do then they're going to be in trouble.

OlennasWimple · 07/12/2016 15:55

If work won't authorise her leaving early, presumably it could be gross misconduct to walk off her shift without permission?

How old is she?

Original poster
Alloo1 · 07/12/2016 15:56

It's such a difficult one, as I really don't want her to be in trouble.

She is 16

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NeighTrumpSnort · 07/12/2016 15:57

16

Seeline · 07/12/2016 15:57

Is her manager a qualified first aider?
Do they have one at work - if so they should check her hand. If it's swelling, I would have thought it should be looked at by someone who knows about these things.
HAs it been recorded as an accident?
I think at 16 your DD would know whether it was serious or not, and if she has asked for a lift, I would go and get her.

PuppyMonkey · 07/12/2016 15:57

I'd go there and see just how bad it is tbh.

NeighTrumpSnort · 07/12/2016 15:58

Could she send you a photo of it so you can assess it

Fairylea · 07/12/2016 15:58

Pick her up. She's hurt herself and her manager is being horrid. If it was my dh wanting a lift home and had injured himself at work I wouldn't hesitate to go and get him.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 07/12/2016 15:59

How is she working in a supermarket at 16 - I thought they had to do college or an apprenticeship until 18 now?

LittleMissUpset · 07/12/2016 16:00

Make sure it's in the accident book, and her manager sounds like an arse!

Original poster
Alloo1 · 07/12/2016 16:00

Big, it's part time? She is at college.

A photo is a good idea

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OurBlanche · 07/12/2016 16:02

As Seeline said... has that manager followed all of the accident and injury procedures? It sounds highly unlikely.

Go get her, take her to A+E. Contact Store Manager and report the injury and ask him to check the accident book as you are seriously unimpressed with the actions of the manager!

At 16 she still needs you to parent her when shit likes this happens. And that does not include teaching her that she can be bullied into submission when she is injured at work!

WiseOwlLady · 07/12/2016 16:02

At the very least it should be recorded in the accident book in case she has problems with her hand further down the line. TBH if it is swollen she should be having it xrayed or at least checked out by someone with medical training.

Trifleorbust · 07/12/2016 16:02

You need to separate the two issues. If she walks off her shift because she doesn't feel up to continuing, that's her decision. You are just giving her a lift. Don't get involved in that first part. Don't give her your permission to leave work - she is old enough to make up her own mind.

Trifleorbust · 07/12/2016 16:03

And I would not hire people who has their mums call up about the accident book. They are running a business and their contract is with her, not you.

Original poster
Alloo1 · 07/12/2016 16:04

Could she lose her job?

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OurBlanche · 07/12/2016 16:04

At 16, in her first job, not knowing how it is supposed to work? I'd say she needs someone, like her mum, to support her and explain why the H+S procedures exist.

Trifleorbust · 07/12/2016 16:06

OurBlanche: The company has no obligation whatsoever to take her mum's calls or to act on her mum's opinions. She applied for a job and was hired. She will be treated like an employee, not a schoolchild. Hmm

OurBlanche · 07/12/2016 16:06

Sod off Trifle. If she has damaged her hand at work and the proper procedures have not been followed it doesn't matter who rings... the original manager sounds like an arse. Only OPs daughter knows how badly injured it feels, whether she has been seen by a 1st aider, has had the accident documented etc.

At 16 it wouldn't be at all unusual for a parent to get involved.

Elanrode · 07/12/2016 16:06

She is only sixteen.

Pick her up.

CherrySkull · 07/12/2016 16:07

offs!

She's had an accident at work that is causing swelling. The RIGHT thing to do would have been to have had her checked over by a first aider, then to have them decide it if needs looking at.

She is 16, she will get another job. Go get her and get her hand looked at Angry