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to want to kill anyone that uses the word hygge

101 replies

roseshippy · 07/12/2016 14:54

Just browsing books on Amazon. All this fucking hygge bollocks.

Fuck the fuck off.

Absolutely bollocks.

OP posts:
LisaMed1 · 08/12/2016 00:15

I've been having a mental rant about the whole hygge business and I think I've found the British, or English, equivalent.

A Nice Cup of Tea and a Sit Down.

That's what hygge is round here.

AtMyHouse · 08/12/2016 00:27

The Norwegian version is koselig (not hyggelig!)

GameofPhones · 08/12/2016 01:40

AtMyHouse, 'cosy' is derived from 'koselig' (I looked up the etymology).

parrots · 08/12/2016 06:20

With several Danish relatives and having spent quite a lot of time in Norway, it strikes me that the famous Scandi 'happiness' is somewhat overstated. I'm very fond of them, but I do find that they can be a dour lot, prone to negativity and quite judgemental. Just my take.

Itisnoteasybeingdifferent · 08/12/2016 07:39

It is a slightly different interpretation of hygge..

Killing people .. in a self contented and at peace with the world (because I just kill people I don't like) sort of way. Hmm....

GreatFuckability · 08/12/2016 07:50

iklboo hiraeth is pronounced hir (i like in bit, rolled r) aye (like why) th (like in thing).

Cwtsh should be spelled with an S not a C.

dementedma · 08/12/2016 08:02

Ach, here in Scotland we just coorie in.

BigGreenOlives · 08/12/2016 08:04

The previous thread on hygge mentioned 'cummenroond'. This is a British style - tea, digestives, drafty house, dog/cat hair on sofa, quality street in tin on coffee table etc.

AtMyHouse · 08/12/2016 08:29

You can't generalise a whole population (in any country) plus different areas can be very different.

To generalise (!!) Norwegians and a very warm and welcoming people... if you can crack them Grin. I've found it easier to make friends in Norway than England, but you have to be patient and willing to join in with them.

If you keep a distance, they will let you do your own thing without bothering you... but they will be distant.

I've heard it said so many times that to be happy in Norway (I can't speak for Sweden or Denmark) you need to make friends.

I'm lucky to have. Norwegian relatives, which makes life easier! I know people have struggled to fit in in Norway - it takes effort.

Anyway, this is OT.

iklboo · 08/12/2016 08:42

Thank you Great. Gotcha.

glueandstick · 08/12/2016 08:48

Very annoying. Especially when it has been a part of your life forever without actually being a thing. Now you're seen as following a trend. Quite odd.

sparklybluelights · 08/12/2016 09:07

Surely a British winter is all about sitting in a drafty house enduring freezing temperatures and saying 'nah, no need to put the heating on'. Even when there are icicles hanging from your nipples and your spirit has been crushed.
Like a hardass un-hygge motherfucker.

Absolutely. Grin

SuburbanRhonda · 08/12/2016 09:17

sparkly

That's exactly what's going on in my house right now. Boiler packed up Monday morning and after a no-show from British fucking Gas on Tuesday I'm hoping an engineer can fix it today. I haven't had a bath since Tuesday.

Could do with a bit of hygge right now.

cantpickusername · 08/12/2016 09:30

I agree with a PP, you need mys/hygge in the Nordic countries to survive the winter!

The swedes have got a day for it, every Friday is Fredagsmys day. You eat tacos (did you know that tacos is a important part of the mys/hygge), light candles and watch telly together.

If they didn't have mys/hygge, the suicide rates would probably be even higher.

StGeorgina · 08/12/2016 09:48

"Interesting about the Tall Poppy Syndrome aspect though. I think the UK can be like that too but in a different way."

I would say that the tall poppy syndrome wrt education and successful careers is rampant in England.

On the other hand people here are more than happy to brag about their BMW, cost of their home "oh, we got it down to 800K, we were soo lucky", and their costly extensions, Tag watches, diamond stuff etc.

thefairyfellersmasterstroke · 08/12/2016 10:30

'cosy' is derived from 'koselig'

Is it not the other way round?

Cosy is a Scots word of unknown origin, an adjective from the noun cosh (pronounced coash). The older Scots form 'coslie' has been around longer than the modern Norwegian language.

Either way, it doesn't really indicate a lifestyle like 'hygge' apparently does, does it!

AtMyHouse · 08/12/2016 10:37

I don't think it's meant to be a lifestyle... just a feeling (don't know about hygge).

Interestingly, I asked my husband what koselig was in English (I speak Norwegian but I'm not a native) and he translated it as 'snuggly'. I asked him what cosy was in Norwegian and he said 'koselig'. They are obviously related, but just don't have that literal translation.

You can 'kos' with a book etc.

It's just another fashion that has become bigger than it is, yet loses something by becoming so fashionable.

MargotLovedTom · 08/12/2016 10:42

Denmark gave us Peter Schmeichel; Norway gave us Morten Harket. I know which one I'd rather get hygge with.

UnoriginalNN · 08/12/2016 10:49

#hygge #lifechanging accompanied by a filtered picture of the Hygge book on a blanket.

It's when I see that shit on my Facebook or Instagram that I'm glad I am in my own little bubble and I am NEVER coming out Grin

MsHooliesCardigan · 08/12/2016 10:53

I have very fond memories of being cwtched by my gran. So, if I wear a onesie with big fluffy slippers and lie by the fire all day reading high quality fiction and eating herrings, do I qualify for Hygee thing?
BTW, my DB has travelled extensively for his work and maintains that Denmark is the most depressing country he's visited with the exception of Kuwait which basically consists of shops, desert and a temperature that gets close to 50• C in the summer. Oh, and there's no alcohol.

LunaLoveg00d · 08/12/2016 10:58

It is about savouring and treasuring the moment and eachother

Surely this is the antithesis of the current UK Christmas obsession though - starting in October, November ceases to exist, elf on the fecking shelf, always looking forward, building up, #makingmemories, buying more, present mountains, a whole year's planning focused on Dec 25th.

NEVER living in the moment and enjoying small pleasures.

Wonderflonium · 08/12/2016 14:35

Luna It's funny you should say that. I've found Danish Christmas to be like that! It starts in October and it gets competitive as all get out. It's all about making the right impression with lights, decorations etc.

Adults distribute very detailed wishlists to each other, and woe betide anyone that goes off-list. In the absence of this, all presents are handed over with "this can be swapped if you don't like it" and December 26th isn't a sales day, it's the day everyone does just that. Why didn't they just hand over 200 DKK and have done with it? Handmade presents can destroy family relations.

Children have advent calendars (sometimes just a sock), that Santa himself puts a new present in every night of advent. There is an aisle of every supermarket that has a big trough of plastic shit that I mistook as being stocking fillers when I was fresh of the boat. (Some parents restrict the advent gifts to just the Sundays). As if Santa didn't have enough to do at this time of year!

The only difference is the Elf on the Shelf. Here, the elf/elves plays pranks on the adults (using the children as catspaws), with such hilarious happenings as adding food colouring to milk or spilling flour. Sometimes leaving treats, depending.

Anyway, it's all about performing hygge now, not about feeling hyggelig.

ItalianWiking84 · 08/12/2016 15:04

I'm Danish, I'll use the word just as I like Hmm and no it's not the same as cosy...

Wonderflonium · 08/12/2016 15:12

It also means "convivial"

VioletRoar · 08/12/2016 15:15

This thread is my happy place. 😂