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To have a good shag on the company account?

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Raines100 · 07/12/2016 14:45

DH has a work do next Fri in London. By chance, my work do is also in London on the same night. DH's company are paying for a hotel room. Mine aren't (cheapskates Grin ).

We live in Surrey, so I'm going to have to toddle back on the last train all by myself, while he stays out all night, then has a short walk to a Travelodge. It would be oh so tempting to finish up at my do, and then head over to his, carry on with them for a bit, then head back to the hotel with DH. It's especially tempting as we have young children and don't get to go out v often.

But we're both worried it will look like we're taking a massive liberty, and that's not worth it for DH. WWYD?

OP posts:
c3pu · 07/12/2016 14:47

Finish at yours and go back to his room and wait for him if you want it to be a bit less suspicious?

Ellypoo · 07/12/2016 14:50

I don't see the problem - you staying there isn't going to cost any more money, just pay for your own drinks & breakfast.
Enjoy having a night & morning off!!

Costacoffeeplease · 07/12/2016 14:50

I don't see a problem with it

olivesnutsandcheese · 07/12/2016 14:51

I don't even know why you are questioning it. What a happy coincidence. Just enjoy your night out and night away

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 07/12/2016 14:52

Can't he just ask his work if it's ok if you stay too?

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 07/12/2016 14:53

Wouldn't cause me a second thought, go for it!

PenguinsandPebbles · 07/12/2016 14:53

Just do it, makes no difference to the company and I doubt your be the only one doing it :)

sortthetacheoutbernard · 07/12/2016 14:53

There's no problem. Dh needs a room. They're paying for a room.

They won't care who or what goes on in that room

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/12/2016 14:54

He needs to be there, I cant imagine a company would impose a no visitor rule on a room they are paying for. You're his wife, anyway, not some stranger he picked up in a bar.

Sparklingbrook · 07/12/2016 14:55

YY get him to ask his work if it's ok. Is it definitely a double room not a single?

cheekyfunkymonkey · 07/12/2016 14:56

Where I used to work spouse's would regularly tag alone to training courses etc to make use of hotel as long as they paid for their own breakfast I don't see the issue.

PavlovianLunge · 07/12/2016 14:57

If you go to the end of DH's do, I wouldn't have any freebies (are people buying their own drinks?), because it could look like taking liberties.

The room is paid for, so I can't see any problem with you both using it, but if breakfast is included, I think you probably shouldn't have it.

It seems like too good an opportunity for the two of you to have some 'me' time to pass up.

ChasedByBees · 07/12/2016 14:58

Just ask, it'll probably be fine as long as any additional costs are covered by you.

ElleMcElle · 07/12/2016 15:00

This is life throwing you a bone(r) - don't waste it! If you turn up to the very tail end of his party, many people will probably be too drunk to even remember the next morning!

Just one caveat... I'd check with him that the question of partners coming to his work do wasn't a hotly debated topic. Unlikely, but if people were pushing to be able to invite partners, but the decision was made that there would be no +1's, then it might not go down well. But as long as partners coming / not coming wasn't an "issue' in the run up to his party, I'm sure it'll be fine. As others have said, you could always wait at the hotel if you're worried.

juls1888 · 07/12/2016 15:00

My work never had any issue with my husband coming on training trips with me as long as he bought his own meals, they were paying for the same room and mileage as they would have been if I'd gone alone.

hooliodancer · 07/12/2016 15:02

Don't even think twice about it!

Travelodge are all double rooms, just pay for your own breakfast. It won't cost the company a thing.

xStefx · 07/12/2016 15:02

Oh hun your overthinking, they aren't gonna give a shit. Go for it and enjoy xx

GoofyTheHero · 07/12/2016 15:03

Why would it be a problem?

PlumsGalore · 07/12/2016 15:07

I've done similar. If DH is away on business and goes to a nice city near Christmas, I tag along, do some shopping, have dinner with him and share a hotel. We pay for my dinner, he gets his on expenses, his company pay for the hotel. It hasn't cost them a single penny more than it would have done.

JustinOtherdad · 07/12/2016 15:07

Do it. Not like the room is going to cost more with you staying as well.

BadToTheBone · 07/12/2016 15:08

My company are ok with that sort of thing. Dh has stayed with me before.

MissClimpsonsTypingBureau · 07/12/2016 15:09

Why would it be a liberty to sleep in a hotel room that's booked already?

My boss did this with his DW's work do last week (he happened to be in the same city for something else during the day and stuck around). everyone in our office assumed it was normal and presumably her work didn't have a problem with it.

museumum · 07/12/2016 15:10

Maybe don't go to his do if it's a free bar, just meet in a nearby bar after both your dos and go back to the hotel together.

Happyoutlook · 07/12/2016 15:11

Don't see a problem doesn't cost the company anything extra

FannyWisdom · 07/12/2016 15:11

Don't take the piss with any free bar and turn up after food is served.

Bit dissatisfied now I expected a different thread.