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To have a good shag on the company account?

60 replies

Raines100 · 07/12/2016 14:45

DH has a work do next Fri in London. By chance, my work do is also in London on the same night. DH's company are paying for a hotel room. Mine aren't (cheapskates Grin ).

We live in Surrey, so I'm going to have to toddle back on the last train all by myself, while he stays out all night, then has a short walk to a Travelodge. It would be oh so tempting to finish up at my do, and then head over to his, carry on with them for a bit, then head back to the hotel with DH. It's especially tempting as we have young children and don't get to go out v often.

But we're both worried it will look like we're taking a massive liberty, and that's not worth it for DH. WWYD?

OP posts:
HoopsandEverything · 07/12/2016 15:18

Why doesn't he ask if you can stay? Make sure he offers to pay for your breakfast and pick up the room service bill if there is one.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 07/12/2016 15:18

I think the only truly immoral thing is that your dh's company have booked him into a Travel Lodge.

Anywhere that makes you pay a deposit to borrow a hair dryer that you have to collect from reception is a lot bit grim.

Jackiebrambles · 07/12/2016 15:21

LOL at life throwing you a bone(r), that's made me chuckle Grin

Judydreamsofhorses · 07/12/2016 15:24

I used to travel loads for work, and often my boyfriend came with me - the hotel is booked and paid for. The only bit I'd be dubious of would be going to the work do unless I was specifically invited.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 07/12/2016 15:27

I would - but I wouldn't go to the party bit - I'd be in the room, having a luxurious bath, enjoying the peace and greeting my husband/boyfriend, lying on the bed naked with a big smile... :)

carabos · 07/12/2016 15:28

I think it's a bit cheeky to go to his work do if other spouses aren't invited. I'd plan for you both to finish your work things at the same time then meet back at the hotel Travel Lodge.

TheNaze73 · 07/12/2016 15:30

I don't see a problem. Go for it.

Scribblegirl · 07/12/2016 15:34

Yeah, I agree - wouldn't go to the 'do' but wouldn't have any truck with sharing the room! DP has some work travel next year and you've all given me some fantastic ideas (although sadly they only put them up because they work evenings, so I'd be on my own - the bath and peace and quiet bit sounds good though!)

VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 07/12/2016 15:35

Do it. My boss positively encourages us to take a loved one with us if we are away for work overnight, as long at it doesn't interfere with the day job.

MyBonnieLiesOverTheOcean · 07/12/2016 15:38

Don't see a problem with sharing the room (however I am the type of person who occasionally accompanies their DH on work trips abroad Grin)

DixieWishbone · 07/12/2016 15:55

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Spam88 · 07/12/2016 15:56

I've stayed in hotels with my DH when his company have booked them for him. Doesn't cost any more so I don't see the problem.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 07/12/2016 15:59

I go with DP and he comes with me all the time. Just pay for your own breakfast and it's usually fine.

PensionOutOfReach · 07/12/2016 16:00

I would and I did. The price for the room will be exactely the same for the company so you aren't ripping them off.
YY about them not paying for your B'fast.

IJustWantABrew · 07/12/2016 16:03

Providing he's not expected to share the room with another colleague feel free to have sex on the company hotel bill Smile.
As long as your not adding additional stuff to the bill, so additional breakfast etc I doubt very much they would care what goes on.

irregularegular · 07/12/2016 16:08

What they said. I'd check before attending his work do (might not be the done thing) but I wouldn't think twice about sharing the hotel room.

Liiinoo · 07/12/2016 16:19

If it is like most office parties I have attended I am sure many people will have unscheduled companions in their rooms that night. You might be unusual in that you will still want to see each other the next day!

sonjadog · 07/12/2016 16:23

This is very common where I work. Just ask if it is okay and make it clear you will be covering any extra costs yourselves.

howabout · 07/12/2016 16:26

DH and I have both done this but never at a Travel Lodge.

The only time I had work go in a huff was when I chose to travel home rather than stay over in a hotel by myself. That was the same work which queried me missing a do because I was at home with violent food poisoning - I nearly turned up and puked all over them just to spite them and unsurprisingly we have since parted company.

Hissy · 07/12/2016 16:30

Do it!

Christ, a child free evening with your husband in London with room paid?

Jump at it!

And if you don't, I don't live far from Surrey, I'll come and give you a well-meaning slap... Smile

StealthPolarBear · 07/12/2016 16:32

Bear in mind if you turn up at the hotel before him you won't be able to check in! He'll have to get the key to you if you'll get back earlier

mygorgeousmilo · 07/12/2016 16:35

Don't see a problem, and as pp have said, you're his wife not some random that he's shacked up with. It'll cost them nothing and also, rooms usually come with 2 breakfasts as standard (if it's included) so having a fry up in the morning shouldn't be an issue either. Go for it Wink

Beeziekn33ze · 07/12/2016 16:35

I stayed (alone!) in a Travel Lodge last year and the bed was the best I've ever slept in, enjoy!!

Briette · 07/12/2016 16:36

I'm always allowed to come when DH is invited to a work party. They'll even pay for me to go on his overseas trips if he requests it (though I've never accepted). Spouses are welcome at my work parties as well, so definitely ask about the party and take advantage of the good fortune with the hotel room afterwards!

BratFarrarsPony · 07/12/2016 16:37

I have no idea why you are even hesitating!