To think that maybe my mum should be a bit more caring

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Currently living situation is far from ideal but it's a roof over my head.
Had to move back in with my mum & family in September. All was ok until mid November when my grandparents came back. Since then I've been on an air bed in the lounge with my stuff scattered all over the house as no where really to put it.

Today I come home to find my mums rearranged the lounge so my air bed doesn't fit and all my stuff is in the porch way as she's fed up of it all over the place.

The worst bit is my brothers who never pay their rent on time, one is a drug addict and never help around the house practically get their arses licked.
I just feel so pushed out, and like I'm not welcome here

I can't afford to rent anywhere on my own

I suppose it depends on the circumstances... could your mother reasonably think you are taking advantage of her generosity, or is she uncaring or disinterested in your situation and just wants you to go.

There is no way I'm taking advantage of her generosity as I've done everything she's asked of and kept quiet up until now.

Why do you 'have' to live there?

I get it's annoying that your brothers are favoured and the way your Mum has gone about it is really horrble, but there comes a time when you just have to stand on your own two feet. Why can't you do that?

Yanbu

If your brothers are there, I don't understand how she won't offer you a place to stay. Children should be treated equally even when they are adults.

I think we'd need quite a bit more information before we can tell if YBU. How old are you? What is preventing you from moving out? How much do you contribute to the housework/cost of running the home etc?

I've no choice really but to be here as can't afford rent around here alone as it's ridiculously expensive and no one else I could live with

Is your mother putting your brothers, your grandparents and you up? I'd say she's at the end of her teather.

How old are you? Is this a temporary situation? Have you thought of moving away?

I do agree that favouring your brothers seems very off, just wondering if this situation is tenable in the long run.

Technically it's my grandparents house but they are out of the country for 3-4 months at a time.

Are you an adult? Are you working? Do you have to work and live in this expensive area?

I'm 23 soon, had previously moved out with an ex but it wasn't doable on my own.

Moving away isn't really an option due to work

What about a rented house share? Is this house really large enough to accommodate your grandparents, your mother, your brothers and you?

Did you post a few days ago about living with your drug addicted brother with a new born?

The house is big enough just about, just not enough bedrooms.

No not me with a new born

Lodger or house-share somewhere else, if you're working. Your current situation doesn't sound sustainable long-term.

Rented house shares round here are still about £600 a month in a rough area

Ah sorry sounded like the same situation so thought it may have been same poster.

What about renting a room in a houseshare ? Much cheaper than renting a flat and at least you will have your own room.

Do you have a long-term plan for how this might be sorted- sounds like a very stressful situation for all of you? Will you earn more eventually or could you find a job that would enable you to move away?

Does your mother agree that the house is big enough?

This definitely isn't long term, am saving for a deposit to hopefully find somewhere to rent that isn't going to break the bank. But that's looking like it could take months.

Mum thinks the house is crowded and it's driving her mad which is why she moved all my stuff today!

How much is your mum charging you? It sounds crazy that rented house-shares are £600 a month in a 'rough' area! You can get that around that price or slightly cheaper here in a very nice area of South West London!

It sounds like it's a really rough situation on everyone, OP.

Unless there are long running issues apart from this, I'd put it down to insanity due to overcrowding and try to detach. With yoga.

I can see it from your mums POV. It would drive me nuts to have someone sleeping on the living room floor and having their stuff all over the place. Even for a limited period e.g. Xmas holidays I would find this hard and without an end in sight it would be impossible. I don't know what you expect her to do really. Clearly the house is overcrowded - she can't magic up a space from nowhere.

I don't think you've looked very carefully. House shares in expensive parts of London are less expensive than that, in nice areas, you just need to be prepared to share with 3 or 4 others (with your own bedroom).

I've lived all over the UK and have seen adverts for lodgers & flat shares.

As I say, I think your Mum has gone about this is a horrible way, but your brothers obviously had the room/s when you didn't live there and you knew your grandparents were coming back - you should have moved out of your own accord before they got back.