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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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I know IABU.

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Mooey89 · 04/12/2016 07:26

And this is totally petty and ridiculous.
BUT.
Every single fucking Sunday DP watches match of the day at 7.30am.
This means that the TV is taken for hours.
We have a 3 year old, who wakes up at 6am.
DS asks to watch his programme. Every Sunday DP refuses to watch MOTD on his laptop. DS can't do this because it's a laptop and an adult can sit in the dining room watching it but not a three year old!

It drives me crazy that we have the same thing every week. This morning DS and DP were in bed drinking milk/tea, I had set my alarm so I could do my exercise DVD, to be told he will need the Tv on half an hour and I can do it at any time.

I'm grumpy, I'm being Unreasonable I know. But I fucking hate the fucking football.
Our lives don't revolve around the TV - just that 7.30 in the morning is prime time for toddler distraction while I do housework/have a shower/whatever.

OP posts:
pictish · 04/12/2016 10:05

"I've seen too many 1950s households where mens viewing habits take precedent. It's simply how I choose not to love."

But there's nothing to suggest that's the case here. You're just imagining it like that then posting as though your daydream is fact. To the point you feel entitled to insult him. You are silly.

WorraLiberty · 04/12/2016 10:09

I don't understand why the 3yr old can't play with his toys. Surely that's what they're for Confused

SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed · 04/12/2016 10:18

I feel really sorry for the poor chap. Maybe he should post here and we can all tell him to LTB.

Original poster
Mooey89 · 04/12/2016 10:35

Wooah woah woah.
I posted this morning because I was grumpy. Even I knew I was being unreasonable!
My child can entertain himself without me throwing a screen at him, my partner is not a 1950s bully.
I am not a selfish nagger who nags every time he dares to watch football - we compromise. He has his shows, I have mine, we compromise.

Thank you for all helping me to see rationally.

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verytiredmummy1 · 04/12/2016 10:36

I misread the original post. So this is just once a week?! I that case sorry YABU. Get DS to play with toys instead!

klassykringle · 04/12/2016 10:41

Seriously though ... second tv. Small one which you can move to the kitchen when you want it or something! Or to kid's room when he's much older Smile

FrancisCrawford · 04/12/2016 11:33

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 04/12/2016 11:36

Maybe he should post here and we can all tell him to LTB Grin

supermoon100 · 04/12/2016 12:25

I don't think people who are obsessive about sport are very loving

FrancisCrawford · 04/12/2016 12:32

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littlesallyracket · 04/12/2016 12:41

I don't think people who are obsessive about sport are very loving

  1. That is an insane generalisation. Millions of people are passionate about their hobbies or interests, whether it's sport or birdwatching or stamp collecting or their favourite band or making model ships out of bloody matchsticks or something. It doesn't stop them being loving and it doesn't mean it's more important to them than their family.
  1. He wants to watch one programme, for 90 minutes, once a week. Hardly 'obsessive'.
klassykringle · 04/12/2016 12:44

I guess some people who are obsessed with sport (or anything) can be less than loving in their treatment of others because that thing is a priority. But then again so can people without any special interests at all.

What experiences have you had that make you feel that way supermoon?

RhiWrites · 04/12/2016 12:48

OP, your problem is that you are too keen! Up doing exercise at 7am on Sunday? You are doing this all wrong. Stay in bed until 9am while your DP watches DS and the TV and then get up and have a fry up. Grin

littlesallyracket · 04/12/2016 12:51

Am I the only woman on here who likes football?! I don't watch MOTD on Sunday morning because I'm still asleep at 7.30am, but it's required viewing on a Saturday night in our house! Grin

Nobody seems to be considering that it might actually be nice for the OP's son to be interested in football one day. My nephew started getting interested in football when he was about 4 or 5 by being in the room while his Dad was watching and now he's a huge fan, really knowledgeable about football across the world (and as a result, has amazing knowledge of geography too) and plays for his school team. It's a really positive thing for him.

Sixisthemagicnumber · 04/12/2016 12:53

think people who are obsessive about sport are very loving

Hahahahaha, one of the funniest things I have read all week.
A man wanting to watch a 90 minute programme once a week is now obsessed about sport.
My definition of obsessed about sport would be a man who spends every moment that he is not at work or sleeping either playing sport or watching sport. A man who has no interest in anything else except sport. A man who stays up until the wee hours every single night watching endless sport.
A man who barely finds time to wash himself due to his need to play / watch sport.

A man who watches a 90 minute sport programme once a week and perhaps a live game on his laptop once a week is hardly obsessed about sport.
But if you really want to believe that he is obsessed and therefore not living please make sure that you never get together with a man who has even a mild desire to watch any sport or follow any other hobby as clearly you won't be able to cope with him having another interest in his life.
Fortunately the OP seems to have seen sense and realised she was being unreasonable and therefore doesn't need to listen to your nonsense about liking sport correlating to not being very loving Hmm

DailyMailSucksAss · 04/12/2016 13:04

In my house adults get prioty over kids when it comes to the TV. Dh watches the football first thing too & during that time if dsd doesn't want to watch it I'll take her for a walk or we'll do other things like baking etc.

derxa · 04/12/2016 13:05

I'm always amazed by how much some Mumsnet posters seem to hate sport and think it's beneath them to be with a man who watches it, either that or they are typing bollocks. Agreed. MOTD on a Sunday in my house is essential viewing. I'm probably 1960s throwback but I couldn't care less.
Would it be different if he insisted on watching politics or cookery programmes at that time every Sunday? But football is the work of the devil. My teeth have never been so gnashed. Grin

YelloDraw · 04/12/2016 13:09

Why can't DP entertain the toddler whilst he watches MOTD?

WorraLiberty · 04/12/2016 14:23

I don't think people who are obsessive about sport are very loving

That ^^ has truly restored my faith in Mumsnet.

There was I thinking I'd seen it all over the years, and then I happen to spot that little crazy nugget Xmas Grin Xmas Grin

BeingATinselTwatItsABingThing · 05/12/2016 18:23

I have found that my rugby watching DP is very loving. Or is it only people who watch football who are unloving?

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Mooey89 · 05/12/2016 19:06

DP is extremely loving. Maybe it's down to particular team allegiance?

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junebirthdaygirl · 05/12/2016 19:44

Wait another year or two and your ds will be stuck in the football and you will never have to worry about Saturday morning again. Himself and dh will text each other results, transfers highlights, go to matches together. You will love it. So hang in there just another little while.

scottishdiem · 05/12/2016 20:04

I don't think people who are obsessive about sport are very loving

Do you apply that view to both sexes? And to the parents of children who obsess about their sports...

Qwertie · 05/12/2016 20:24

Can you make Sunday mornings a special time for you & DS? Do not do any chores for that 90 minutes & sit in bed with DS watching cbeebies or a film on the laptop & have a lovely relaxing time & much more fun than the Lord and master of the remote control is having.Grin

Qwertie · 05/12/2016 20:25

Also include some outrageous breakfast that must be eaten in bed. E.g waffles & Nutella.

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