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To think it's tight as fuck

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Largemelons · 02/12/2016 21:05

To ask my dd to buy her own Christmas present as she gets an employee discount.
Saving max £4
They are not poor just very tight.
Dd their only grandchild.
Not elderly or infirm

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Allthewaves · 02/12/2016 21:36

How old is dd? R grandparents giving her the money?

Thattimeofyearagain · 02/12/2016 21:42

Tight

Sparlklesilverglitter · 02/12/2016 21:44

I don't see the problem.

If she's getting a employee discount she is a working adult I assume, and probably knows what she is getting anyway

DailyMailSucksAss · 02/12/2016 22:34

Maybe they just want her to get something she likes? If they pay what does it matter?

Crunchymum · 02/12/2016 22:41

What a shit employee discount Shock

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RockStonePebble · 02/12/2016 22:43

I think it's fine. Wouldn't bother me. I'd be delighted to be getting something I wanted.

CasperGutman · 02/12/2016 22:45

How do you know it's a shot discount, Crunchymum? Bearing in mind the grandparents are very tight, maybe £4 off represents a discount of 50% or more!

CasperGutman · 02/12/2016 22:46

Shot? Shit! My autocorrect needs training if I'm going to spend time on here.

tiej · 02/12/2016 22:47

The spirit of Christmas should trump a four quid discount.

HermioneJeanGranger · 02/12/2016 22:48

My mum used my employee discount to buy my Christmas present - she did save £100 instead of £4 though!

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Largemelons · 02/12/2016 22:55

Because it spoils the surprise!!
She then has to give said gift to gps to wrap up so she can open it on cd and say thanks.
I totally get it if she wanted some electronics for example. Something really pricey and specific.
But she's said 'make up from x'
X do a lot of things and she kind of wanted a surprise. Staff discount is 10% so potentially saving £2 on a small gift set.
Just seems a bit mean to me.

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LostMyBigGirlPants · 02/12/2016 22:58

caspar. Autocorrect is half the fun - sometimes they're almost Freudian!

Graphista · 02/12/2016 22:59

Tight as fuck!

Minuscule saving especially as you say they're OK financially.

In addition is this even something she wants? Or have they deliberately chosen to get her a gift from where she works (which I also think is naff) just to get the discount?

Doesn't exactly speak to them valuing their granddaughter much.

sirfredfredgeorge · 02/12/2016 23:00

If she wanted a surprise, she should've asked for a surprise, not "make up from x" - YABU, wasting money is not a virtue to aspire too.

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ProudBadMum · 02/12/2016 23:01

I'm bought my birthday present from work. Mum gave me the money back after and wrapped it.

Discount saved like £10 but it's £10 saved.

I don't see the problem

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Leanback · 02/12/2016 23:07

Yeah I don't see the problem at all. My dp has used my student discount to get my Xmas prezzie.

Leanback · 02/12/2016 23:08

Also grandparents probably have no clue what make up would be the best to buy. It's easier to just get her to pick out what she wants exactly.

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Largemelons · 02/12/2016 23:09

Ok maybe I'm being unreasonable.
It's just the tip of the iceberg though. Years of penny pinching which meant if I gave dd money for sweets at the cinema when she went with them (they'd take stuff from home like sandwiches so didn't need to pay), they'd get her to share as they'd paid for the tickets...
When I was dating DDs dad he would never pop in anywhere for a coffee when we were out and about as he could get one at home.
He'd rarely buy me a drink as I could get my own. Etc...

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Casmama · 02/12/2016 23:10

Make up is far to broad a request. The grand parents have probably thought let her choose the colours/ products she wants and it's not about the discount at all.

LewisFanIsBack · 02/12/2016 23:14

I created my present (bespoke art) and bought it... then my mum paid me back Grin

I don't think it's a big deal.

GravyAndShite · 02/12/2016 23:18

I don't see a big problem with this situation but as you've said, you have problems with them since you first met Dd dad.

I hope I'm not being unkind, but it does sound a bit like you treat dd in a precious way. Being upset with her having to share her sweets is strange, or being old enough to work but sad she doesn't get an extra surprise on Xmas day (I assume you will get her a surprise if she likes them), even though she's already specified she wants make up and make up is a hugely personal choice.

I do think YABU, but I think there could be a drip feed coming that might make me see it differently.