Should I just call it a day and leave

[Starypjs]

My husbands lost his 5th job this year. Is it unreasonable to just pick up pack up and go. I can't take the instability any longer. I go to work, I have a good job, which I hate, but I do it because someone's got to pay the mortgage. I don't understand his total inability to man the fuck up, go to work and be someone I can rely on. I don't understand it where's his pride. I don't know what to do but I can't live like this. I can't even speak at the moment because if I do every single thought is going to come out of my mouth and some are better left unsaid. I just want to go to work come home enjoy myself with someone who does the same.

No its always something different some crap excuse. I just hate the going along thinking everything is ok and then bam it's not. We've been married for 13 yrs and I just dont know how to carry on

How the fuck can you lose FIVE jobs in a year???

Is he high? Does he not turn up? The mind boggles.

I don't see why you should be the one to go anyhoo. Send him packing.

I love him so much but it's so toxic and everyone it damages us.

*everyone bloody phone.

Does he say why he can't hold down these jobs and does he appreciate the affect it has on you?

**fgs time

Tbh I doubt I even cross his mind except for the oh shit I've got to tell her moment

Do you have kids ?

Do you have children with this person?

Why can't he hold on to a job??

If he was high he'd already be gone. He's a lovely bloke he's just sodding crap at going to work. My jobs really hard and I just dont need the stress of him being shit it's like he thinks she's so responsible that it doesn't matter what I do because she'll make sure I have a roof over my head and she loves me so she'll keep doing it

No kids thank god I can't imagine how wed even afford them

I honestly don't know why he's a nice man he's shit hot at his trade and he should be raking it in. It's always him that quits for insert shit reason here

I wouldn't leave him - I'd kick him out. You pay the mortgage and do all the sensible stuff so if he wants to be a total fuckwit let him do it somewhere else. I am very sorry for your trouble.

You mean he simply doesn't turn up on time?

No kids so leave. When you have chldren how mich mat leave could you take with pnly your wage coming in? 6 weeks? Would that be ok?

It's time, call it a day.

Oh, he quits? Without running it by you first??

So basically he's packed in his job five times this year and it's not even December yet? That's about the most irresponsible thing I've heard on here. He can clearly get the jobs - god knows how - but you don't have to wait around to witness him getting another job.

You'd be much happier without him.

In your position I'd end it. Just couldn't cope with the flakiness. And since when is supporting yourself an option not a necessity?

End the relationship, that is. Not anything more drastic - it's not that bad.

Yep you're worth more, so much more!

I think that's it really, he's a dependent not a partner. Unless you're happy to accept that, and his other qualities outweigh his inability to stick at work, it's game over time surely? I couldn't be with anyone that didn't have my back personally. You hate your job - what if you quit to retrain to chase a dream?

He's a contractor so he just walks off the job. Today's one is his leg hurts so he's had the day off to go to the docs it's been hurting for months and he's not bothered to get it looked at but *now it's urgent. It sounds uncharitable to chuck a wobbler about it but it's just another thing in a long line and I'm sick of it he won't talk to me about it just stomps off into the other room like I'm being unreasonable (which I probably am a bit)