Aibu to think there was no need for gp to me feel like a fool for going in?

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I took my dd to the doctors today about her eye it's a long story but I wrote a post on here I can't figure out how to get a link on my phone but I posted a picture (see below)

Anyway I saw my gp and he immediately dismissed it as conjunctivitis and nothing needed to be done which is fine but he was so condescending he started asking me who helped me at home and did I have help with the kids implying that I was wrong to bring her In.

I actually feel quite upset now!

Aibu there was no need for the speech about having help was there?

I shouldn't be made to feel foolish for getting it checked ?

Moreis what is the conjunctavil

Op You should send an email to the practice manager if you feel GP was rude
Tell them what you've told us - ask them to investigate. Then change doctors

I think there's a distinction to be made here between what the GP said and what you felt about it.

We can sometimes feel people are being condescending when they don't mean to be, and I'd be inclined not to resent someone concerned about you even if you felt they expressed it badly.

With regard to the eye, babies change quickly when they're sick, so if you're worried it's got worse, don't hesitate to go back. I once waited for three weeks for a repeat visit because I was still obeying week one instructions and hadn't taken in the advice to come back if things changed. Sometimes mothers just hear the first message and not the second. Trust your instincts. You know what's normal for your baby and what's worrying.

Same here, swollen eye on my 3mth DD dismissed as conjunctivitis. 24 hours later it had become significantly larger so I trotted off to the eye hospital to be told it was an extremely aggressive birthmark that needed medication for at least 12 months to get it under control so her eyesight wasn't permanently affected.

I would always prefer to look like an hysterical mother than jepardise my kids eyesight.

I'm a GP and I'm quite worried by this! Please go back tomorrow. As others have said , orbital cellulitis is nasty.

I'm not saying it's definitely that, but you don't fuck about with eyes.

Think that is just a typo OP; should read conjunctiva -the membrane lining inside eyelid & outer coating of eyeball.
GP does sound a bit dismissive TBH; trust your maternal instinct & if still worried see another doctor tomorrow.
There's only certain GPs I'll see at our surgery. Funnily enough, they're also the GPs with the huge long waiting times for appointments and the ones that run about an hour behind all day long!! I'm obviously not the only patient that doesn't mind waiting to see a kind & patient GP!

Yes sorry conjunctiva basically the whites of your eyes (it's actually the lining over the top).

I must admit that whilst the first gp my dh took ds to see was thoroughly dismissive, the second GP I spoke to after second opinion was amazing and incredibly helpful.

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If under 5 the HV may be able to help with your DD3 - worth giving them a ring.

Another nurse here who wouldn't fuck about with babies eyes. I've seen too much orbital cellulitis.

Just on a completely different note, some pharmacists are trained to examine and take a medical history from a patient 😊 not relating that to this case but many people under estimate a pharmacists ability. I know a few who have much of the same training I've had ....although of course it depends on who you get!!! Op I hope little one is improved and please please get immediate medical advice if anything g changes for the worse, don't let the experience put you off! I would consider an email to the practice manager, I think the stress on gps is far too much and unfortunately some of the supposedly 'minor ' ailments can be over looked when they can very quickly develop complications

user1471446433 thanks I'll give her a call in the morning, it didn't occur to me as she's involved with DS2 (hearing problems) but not DD.

OP please do let us know the outcome. All the best

How is DD's eye today?

Another here who doesn't think conjunctivitis. My 5th had peri orbital cellulitis at 5 months old. T looks like that. It needed oral and topical antibiotics.

Well done for going in so soon with it. Pity about the rude GP.

I'd go back in for another opinion. Do you have the option of another doctor?

And as first poster said. You don't fuck about with your eyes

Oh this drives me nuts. I don't have a medical degree or more to the point 20 years of experience looking at kids' variously spotty/swollen/sore bits and pieces, that's why when I'm not sure what it is I take them in. Some GPs (and mumsnet posters) act like it's an embarrassing mistake to take your child to the GP and come back without a prescription for antibiotics. I see it as a relief.

Anyway OP I hope your wee one is doing better today.

here is the original thread with some clearer pics. A few of us were worried about periorbital cellulitis.

rain, you did the right thing in going and don't feel daft if you need to get another opinion. Sometimes gps do get it wrong and it may be the case this time.

Our GP always says they'd rather see a "well" baby (that doesn't need any treatment) than for people to keep their child at home for fear of wasting their time who is really poorly and needs medical attention.

And at that age, you'll always be referred to GP (as the walk in centre did). They might well be busy, but you did the right thing. Maybe your GP was genuinely trying to help, maybe they were having a bad day, but I certainly wouldn't worry about it.

Persian no he didn't really even look at her eye he glance at the buggy and then had the nursery rant (while looking on his computer) then printed me out an info sheet on conjunctivitis and called it "mummy's homework
That is absolutely disgusting, change surgeries!!

Can I advise, take her to an optometrist instead? Gp's rarely (ime) know eye diseases as well as an OO would, and they will refer for treatment if it's needed. Gp isn't bothered, and you can be sure your DD is well taken care of.

Just read a bit more, didn't like to diagnose when I'm not really qualified but it does look suspicious and could easily be cellulitis. If you can't get an appointment with gp or OO, I would recommend you take her to a&e.

I wouldn't have felt the GP was implying anything from what you've said, OP. IMO HCPs have a raft of strange and meaningless questions they ask out of nowhere. I had a GP who was intent on 'getting me back to work' for no obvious reason that I could see!

At my post birth checkup I should have added!