Aibu to think there was no need for gp to me feel like a fool for going in?

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I took my dd to the doctors today about her eye it's a long story but I wrote a post on here I can't figure out how to get a link on my phone but I posted a picture (see below)

Anyway I saw my gp and he immediately dismissed it as conjunctivitis and nothing needed to be done which is fine but he was so condescending he started asking me who helped me at home and did I have help with the kids implying that I was wrong to bring her In.

I actually feel quite upset now!

Aibu there was no need for the speech about having help was there?

I shouldn't be made to feel foolish for getting it checked ?

I feel a little less upset now . Dh has come home agreed the gp was a dick and ordered a giant Indian takeaway. I'm still a little worried about her eye tbh but dh has said if it's no better he will take her in tomorrow .

That is a very patronising attitude

Whilst you may suspect conjunctivitis, until it's diagnosed, you don't know it is?

Holy shit rain he sounds like a proper twat!! Get a second opinion if you're concerned!

He didn't look at the patient. That is everything you need to know about this GP.

Not only were you right to take her in I'm surprised he didn't prescribe drops!!!

And how was the OP supposed to know it was conjunctivitis before she saw the GP? And from the sounds of it he didn't even really check properly. Also no reason to condescend because of diagnosis surely? He's a GP... That's what he's there for? If it was A&E then I could understand but a mother taking a child to the GP because she's concerned about swelling on her child's eye?? Where exactly is the problem in that? (and do I need to point out again that not everyone has medical training or personal experience of every common illness... So "she should have known" is a pretty crappy thing to say)

OP went to the GP to ask what was wrong with her child and seems to have been treated as if she was just looking for a prescription to send them back to nursery... But of course the GP said she was Wrong so she must be....

"TBH unless it's something obvious that needs a GP's attention I would go to the pharmacist first."

To be honest, if it concerned my child's eye, I would prefer to see someone with an actual medical degree, Navy.

Glad you are feeling better

As ever, the upset was not in the words, but the attitude. And attitude is part of successful communication, so I am sorry that that was a bit crap.

Also, if that redness/swelling of the eyelid spreads, your DD become unwell or has a fever, I'd take her straight back (or to OOH if at night).
Conjunctivitis is typically a redness to the 'wet' inside of the eye lids with watery or yellow-y discharge. Blepharitis can include the swelling of eye lids.
If it goes beyond that it may be (periorbital) cellulitis which requires systemic antibiotics (and sometimes i.v.).
I am not saying that is what she has (I don't offer an interweb diagnosis service ), but it's worth having her reviewed if anything changes for the worse.

Wishing you a settled night

Oh, 3/4 of what a GP does (or more) is ruling stuff out and reassuring.
That IS part of the job, and a big part.
Never hesitate to get a child checked out if you are worried.
And never hesitate to go back if things change/worsen - babies are scary creatures (I am saying that as a mother AND a dr ) because they change so much, so quickly and sometimes dramatically.
Many conditions only reveal themselves in the fullness of time (which is why it IS well worthwhile to give a dose of Calpol to the feverish child and wait and see for a bit) and all drs worth their salt know that.

Thanks pacific I will keep an eye on her - she normally ends up in our bed sleeping about 3 inches from my face so if it gets worse hopefully I will notice overnight .

Rain, I don't want to give clinical advice with out seeing your little one in person. Is it just the one eye? How much discharge is there?
If it is one eye with minimal discharge and she is sleepy for her, even with no fever I would ring NHS 111 for a review. Best to be checked and all be fine than the opposite. Good luck

I would also get someone to look tomorrow, it could potentially be pre-septal orbital cellulitis. There's a lot more lid chemosis than you would usually get in an infective conjunctivitis.

Although your DD looks a bit like she has a cold, so it could just be a bad viral conjunctivitis. Does she have any discharge either watery or mucousy.

Anyway, I think your GP was an arse and I bet he didn't even examine your daughter correctly.

Oh, if she's physically that close to you, do watch out: gunky eyes are incredibly contagious (which is why nurseries often have Black Dealth-like protocols re. conjunctivitis)
we managed to pass DS2's conjunctivitis to all 6 members of our family once. And then back to him again

Nellie yes just one eye no discharge there's nothing wrong with the eye itself just her eyelid which is why I was worried enough to lug 6 children into the gps

She is snoring away in her cot now so I'm pretty sure it's not sore though. She normally wakes up about midnight (she is in the habit of moving to our bed for snuggles then) so I will have a look at it then and check it's not looking any worse .

She HAS been ill last week we had a gp apptb(different gp) who sent us to get a chest X-ray. As her temp was so high but she had been a lot better the last few days so perhaps that's just coincidence!

I am relaxing enjoying my Indian and browsing the web now so the world doesn't seem to horrific

My Nan swore by cold tea bags for sore eyes and I have to admit they've always worked!

I don't think that looks typical of conjunctivitis, with a red lid - unless she's been rubbing it?

Sounds more like a stye than conjunctivitis but these are normally self-limiting. Does sound like the gp was not on good form, ranting about nurseries Rain. Was it after the rant that he asked you about support at home? If it was I think it may have been an attempt to get back on track...

Not an excuse for being rude. I ask this question a fair bit if I detect anxiety during a consultation.

And looks!

Was the GP mid/late 50s, running late, slightly dishevelled?

This is the modern NHS... that he can't retire from for a while yet

If it's not settling take her somewhere else. My ds had a swollen red eyelid and gp dismissed as conjunctivitis despite, you know, the conjunctival being absolutely clear. One second opinion later and ds was on industrial strength antibiotics under the care of an ophthalmologist.

Furry - he was late 50s but to be fair the appointment was bang on time

I'm another one whose child ended up on IV antibiotics with orbital cellulitis. I'd seen the practice nurse twice and was then told to go to a&e by a consultant we were seeing that day about something else. He had a fever, one swollen eye and no discharge.