Woman moving dirty plates onto MY table...

[elodie2000]

In cafe today (with friend) sat at one side of a table for 4.
There was another table for 4 next to us which had plates/ wrappers/ teacups on it waiting to be cleared.
A woman and her DH came along and cleared the stuff off the table next to us onto the side of ours before sitting down.
AIBU to think WTF? They had a nice clean table for 4 between the two of them and we aquired a load of dirty plates next to us.
was I wrong to get up and put it all back on their table?
Still cross now...

*would, not won

Is this a moan or a stealth boast that you actually did what most of us would have wanted to do but been too scared overly polite to do?grin
YES! Not so much stealth though! I know I'm NBU. Cheeky buggers! I'm waiting for someone to come and tell me IBU so I can tell them I'm not
Just wanted a moan really. You've all made me feel better by agreeing that I wasn't being too much of a cow back!

I'm still pissed off 6 months on about the couple that dumped all their fag ends over onto our terrace on holiday. I swept them up daily until I had s massive pile and then dumped the lot outside their patio doors. Fucking fucker cunts

Worra Strike through on my OP was used because fighting fire with fire is rubbish - I hate being forced into a situation where I have to be a cow. Strike through is me saying I'm embarrassed for being a passive aggressive b*ch.

monkey

I had similar to this a few months back OP. Having dinner with a friend at an Indian buffet place. We were both up getting food. Two pervy blokes had tried to engage us in conversation earlier, which we'd politely rebutted. Anyway, while we were both away from the table, one of them walked past and put his empty beer bottle down there.

I'm so pleased I spotted what he'd done. I walked over there, picked it up and marched over to the group he was with and plonked it down on the middle of their table and went back to mine.

Cock.

Well done OP!

This is one of my pet hates and I always do or say something. So fecking rude.

I think you're entitled to stealth boast after such awesome behaviour. Respect to you from this wimp!!!!

You weren't a cow or passive aggressive.

You simply resolved the situation.

We had a holiday in a row of holiday homes, and one lot pissed everyone else off on day one.
It was so bad the entire row acted as one, turned on them and spent all week getting daily revenge, which included;
a huge sand cock and balls outside their door.
a ha ha full of water.
Bread on the roof every night so they were woken up by Hitchcock style seagull attack.

It was the best holiday ever.

Ooooh! I love a good bad manners outrage thread, especially seeing as the most recent drive parking aibu turned out to be a damp squib!

No, not wrong. I'd have said "Excuse me, I don't think you meant to give us all this stuff. Jolly kind thought, passing all those dirty dishes to us, of course."

The seagull attack is proper class :o

yes putting them back but avoiding eye contact is the proper course of action there.

What happened when you put the stuff back? Did they mutter to each other? Call the attention of JL staff? Explode with fury?

How did you fill their ha ha with water Jelly?

I have reached the conclusion that a hell of a lot of people just float around in their own little bubble,completely oblivious to other people and unaware that their actions may have a negative effect on someone. Well done for not putting up with her entitled shit!

You did the right thing OP. But whilst delivering the used crockery etc. back to them, I might have said (depending on wine imbibed), "Sorry, did you mistake me for PAID staff?"

I have had this done to me, I was waiting for my friend at a pub, nice clean table and the women from the table in front cleared her table and put it on mine. What on earth goes through the mind of someone to think that is okay?

Sometimes when I read things like this I wonder if I really am a psychopath warning, too much wine imbued.

Because to me it makes perfect sense - don't want the rubbish, dump it on someone else's table. 90% of people aren't going to do anything about it. The odd person who does react assertively is going to do what OP did and dump it back, and then you're no worse off than when you started. Calculation = worth a try!

Well done for putting it back. That was exactly what needed to be done.

Do just tell us how they reacted though.

I want to throw used crockery (preferably with leftover spinach and ricotta) onto over entitled salmon/paprika trousered twats now.

Yes, it's late, and I have the Angry Hunger. Sure there's a proper word for it on MN, is it hangry?.

ohohoh I had something similar a few years ago. DH and i met my Mum and Dad at a very busy pub near the British Museum. We were sat at a small table having drinks. Next to us was another small table with 3 Italian tourists eating fish and chips. They finished their food, then one of them piled all the plates on top of each other and just leant across and put them on our table (taking up the whole thing) while still chatting away and not looking remotely sheepish or making any eye contact at all, like this was completely normal. We stopped talking and looked . Mum and Dad's face was as if to say 'did that just happen?'. I was nearest them and reflexively pulled the face spluttered "ERRR NO' and plonked them back on their table and turned back to everyone and we all burst into incredulous laughter. They huffed and tutted and muttered to each other in Italian -I don't speak Italian, but i think it's safe to say it was not complimentary

We have never quite got over the outrage tho and often say to each other in bewilderment 'do you remember that time that...?' As if to confirm it really did happen.

YABU for not boycotting John Lewis, OP, in support of Stop Funding Hate.
But YAabitofaHero for the calm way you dealt with it - I think that was assertiveness, not passive aggression tbh - I'd have been shaking like a leaf, and if my DH had managed it, it would have been in a temper, with aggression. How are people so rude!

a ha ha full of water.

What's a ha ha?