When staying as a guest, your room is your room until you leave?

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Just come back from a weekend with the IL's who I generally like and get on well with. But one thing really niggles me every single time we stay.

DH and I share a fairly small room with very little space to put our things, so I tend to just live out of a wheely suitcase and leave things on the bed as I take them out. The room does look a mess with both our combined junk, hair dryers, make up, shoes, pyjamas etc...but I make sure that the room is absolutely spotless when we leave (everything back in its place, bed made, no rubbish)

But every time, without fail, MIL will 'tidy' the room when we go out - folding clothes, repacking my makeup bag, making the bed).

AIBU to think that when you have guests, the room is their room and their domain until they depart? And regardless of whether it's a bit of a pigsty when you're in it, as long as it's returned to its original state on departure, you should ignore the mess?

It's incredibly bloody rude of here to go in and tidy up your stuff!
I don't see how it is disrespectful to the host if you have left some clothes out and the bed isn't perfectly made!
As long as you leave it tidy when you leave, it should be yours for the duration of your stay.

off topic and I rarely make any comment on the british class system but whether if this story is true or apocryphal, it is such a comment on how the middle class in the UK are viewed.

The story was from Cherie's memoir Pallisers. I read it years ago.

I can't find the exact text, but I have found the following. Got some details wrong but the gist is there:

Cherie Blair has revealed that her
son Leo was conceived while she and
her husband were staying with the
Queen because she had left her contraception at home.
She says she became pregnant with her
fourth child in September 1999, during the
annual Prime Ministerial visit to Balmoral.
The previous year, Mrs Blair writes in her
autobiography, she had been horrified to find
all her belongings unpacked, including the
contents of her toilet bag.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-565884/I-got-pregnant-Leo-I-embarrassed-contraception-Balmoral--Cherie.html

Haha, of course the comms director is blaming Tony!

www.theguardian.com/politics/2008/may/15/cherieblair.labour

Why is there a hairdryer if you're only there over night?

Presumably so OP can dry her hair, wild stab in the dark

When we have guests I don't even look in the guest room while they're here. We have an en suite so they have the main bathroom to themselves as it's next to guest bedroom, I even feel bad taking DD in there for bath time (as en suite doesn't have a tub) and ask guests if it's ok to use their bathroom

Clearly I'm far too good a hostess and should be rifling through my guests' suitcases