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AIBU To think that if dp has enough money to go to the pub they should have enough money to contribute to food and living expenses?

Well ok then that kind of changes it. Highly unreasonable to resent someone going for a drink, a cola at that , at a local pub.

Not keen on this financial situation either, it's fine to keep seperate over previous credit issues, but the whole paying for the car and being ok with uou having three quid is highly controlling.

I also wonder why he hid he was a man. Something not right there.

Re the car.
It's my car, as in the big family mum bus. I can't even remember what needed doing now, discs and pads I think. He took it to quickfit or some where for a free winter check and they advised it needed doing. I said I'd get the local garage to do it as would be cheaper. He didn't gI've me the chance to book it in and took back to quickfit and paid for it. Then used it against me.

The car needed doing, weird to even mention it, it's simply a family life expense. You kids for gods sake.

I suspect uou both need to sit down and talk, clearly there is , amongst other things, financial issues but things like a cola down the pub and the car aren't the excesses.

If my husband posted what your partner did he'd be out on his ear.

Yes he does. Maybe also as others have said should be looking for a more secure and better paid job, not that given the increasing use of zero hours contracts that is easy.

Ummmmmm... Ok....

He wouldn't leave when I asked him to. Which has been several times over the last year.

He's masturbated over me while I slept - after trawling through my phone at emails from ex friends and ex lovers and telling me that from now on I would do as I'm told.

I came home late from work and he threw the photos and pictures off our bedroom walls at me out of the window.

Told his family that I'm mentally ill (bipolar)

Last weekend I discovered he's set up an online dating profile.

Since I've confronted him with the last one he's told me he may lose his Job and he's depressed and suicidal.

Oh and I start a full time job next week plus still being a self employed wedding photographer and an on call fire fighter so any illusions he presented about me being unwilling to work are laughable.

Oh um.....

Can you leave. Seriously.

Oh dear.

I think , if this is real and I hope it's not as it's so fucked up, that you need to seek legal advice. See a solicitor, not your husband clearly, and understand the legal position you are in.

I think it might be time to leave OnlyWantsOne. Not read your other posts but it wouldn't surprise me if you've been given advice in them.

Only wants one,how did you find this thread as it was running in November...also mantroll...is that a man that's a troll?

Sounds like you're getting your ducks lined up.
You've got a lot on your plate, especially with him being a Solicitor, I imagine.

If this is real, he sounds abusive and you need to be careful about posting on his thread. Make sure you are safe and then stop him treating you like this!

I found it genuinely at the time by being an active poster.

I've sought legal advice. He knows this.

Oh my gawd....

Also, this is why AIBU isn't reliable for anything.

Wtf. This is the first time I've ever seen the subject of an aibu post on the thread

This is horrible for you. He's an arsehole, I've read your other posts.

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I've seen it happen before, there's rarely only one side to the story.

Dear god! This thread is batshit.