To think that most reasonable people have more than 2baths a week?

[tartan19]

Our new house doesn't have a shower, we just have a bath. It's also on a water meter.

Dh has said he wants me to have a shower at the leisure centre, I do an exercise class Monday Thursdays. By Sunday I feel like stuff is growing on me.

AIBU to think this is ridiculous?

Do you want to talk about any other issues?

NoahVale haven't been caught yet!

Noah honestly it doesn't matter I wasn't going to reply but someone bumped it

Is he actually stopping you from bathing at home or installing a shower then?

Please the shower is not the point it really is not.

RoseGoldHippie we used a large baby bath on a stand and then in the shower. DS 4 and 7 have stopped using it now. I thought I'd miss a bath, but when I visit my mother's house I can't bothered with the hassle of a bath anymore. The children prefer showers as well.

Jabuticaba thank you :) Im sure it will be fine :) just need that pink line haha! (TTC and its driving me nuts!)

tartan19

Everyone has figured that out. No one can help, know, advise unless you say what the problem is.

I say, go to relationships, tell people, talk about it, get advice. Call women's aid. Take action, you've made the first step with this thread. Don't run away from it now. Perhaps you're not ready yet to talk, to write it down. I'mean sure it's hard to do but I really urge you to do it. Whatever he has done or does it highlights that he's crazy/abusive etc, no one will know until you tell them.

I don't want any help I just wanted people to stop being so rude to me because I didn't want shower advice.

I didn't once ask advice on fitting a shower by the way.

Not once.

Then what was it you DID want, because I honestly don't have a clue? Do you want to have a shower at home instead? Do you want to just have baths at home every day? Do you want to leave your marriage, because if so, I'm pretty sure "how often reasonable people bathe" isn't the point? Do you want to stop replying, in which case you should probably just stop replying, and stop posting about how you don't want to post any more?

This may be the weirdest thread I've ever read.

What I want now is for people to stop and leave me alone

"tartan,do talk about what you want to talk about - people are going on about bath/ shower solutions because they thought that was what you wanted,but there is support and help for pretty much everything on MN."

Is what I was going to post.... but now want to say why don't you name change and start another thread with the real issue in it?
If you were a RL friend or DD I'd be feeling the need to hug you and find out what was really going on,but don't think that'll help here.
People are going on cos you are still here and....
Ok,stepping away.
Seriously,think about name changing and starting again?

Report the thread ask for it to be deleted

Or just ignore it. It is words on a computer screen. Neither meant to hurt you nor capable of it if you close it down

The OP doesn't need to name change. People just need to stop banging on about baths and showers.

OP I think maybe ask for this thread to be deleted, and if you don't want to talk and don't want help maybe think about what you do want from a thread and then repost in relationships? Because nobody is going to know what you want if you don't tell them so it's pointless being rude to people who are trying to help based on the very limited info you have given.

Well,I would,gamerchick - not in a negative way but just in a fresh start kind of way.Just a suggestion though.

I think you've missed your mark a bit here OP, you need to be quite clear what you're asking on here, and as others have said Relationships is the best place to talk about problems in relationships as it's less er punchy than AIBU. When my head was in a mess from my sister and family issues they helped me see the wood from the trees and helped a lot, so I can recommend.

If you want the thread to stop, ask MN to delete it and they'll do it.

I think the moments passed (even though I agree).

OP come back when you're ready.

Op. people are only trying to help. On one hand you say you're struggling, but you won't tell why and when pushed say your husband is trying to do no more than save money.

If you don't want help, advice or a shoulder to cry on, fair enough, but please don't be upset that people don't understand the issue or are trying to help with the issue put forward, which is limited baths due to water costs.

Are you ok? I suspect not, you will find a lot of support on here if you want it.

What else is there to bang on about, though? Literally the only other thing we know is 'the problem is my relationship'. I don't know if the OP''s (apparently not D)H is controlling or really tight or just has really low standards of personal hygiene.

I'm happy to help, but we genuinely have nowhere to start.

OP, he sounds controlling. Start a new thread in relationships and be a little less cryptic and you will get lots of good advice and empathy.

Take care.

Most confusing thread Ive read in a while..

feel like things are growing on me

Excellent description of feeling dirty.

You're not being unreasonable to think that most reasonable people have more than 2 baths a week - I shower every day, I couldn't not start the day with a shower because I'd feel urrgh. If your partner is saying that you can only have a max of 2 baths a week or, worse still you can't have any because you can shower at the leisure centre and that should be enough, then he's being completely unreasonable.