To think that most reasonable people have more than 2baths a week?

[tartan19]

Our new house doesn't have a shower, we just have a bath. It's also on a water meter.

Dh has said he wants me to have a shower at the leisure centre, I do an exercise class Monday Thursdays. By Sunday I feel like stuff is growing on me.

AIBU to think this is ridiculous?

So weird.

Ask us if your husband is being unreasonable to ask you to shower twice a week / or / only shower at the gym. MN says yes, you can do x and y to solve this.

You: omg so obvious it's my marriage that's the problem, why can't you understand me ugh not gonna bother with this, and flounce.

I find it weird that people were linking me to shower heads when I hadn't indicated I had an issue with having a bath - DH does.

I thought it was obvious from that information that I was struggling in my marriage.

Anyway it really doesn't matter. Why you bumped up this thread just to say I am 'weird' I don't know.

To be honest, no it wasn't obvious from your OP. You focussed on the bath/shower issue, so the initial replies did too.
If I were you I'd repost in relationships with more focus on your marriage (if you want advice that is!). Hope you sort things.

No I don't really tbh its fine.

I didn't once ask advice on fitting a shower by the way.

Not once.

I'm not surprised there are communication issues.

Getting people to second guess, assume we know what you're thinking & to know your marriage is in trouble is all very odd

Tartan you asked about the bath/shower issue. People assumed this was either because your DH wanted to save money buy you not having a bath because of water or because maybe you don't like baths and he didn't feel the need to install one as you can shower at the gym.

That is why people have understandably suggested ways you could bring a shower into the home with minimal expense.

My advice: if you want to talk about your relationship, talk about it. Don't post something passive about baths and then be annoyed people have replied about baths.

Your op didn't mention anything about a struggling marriage. The title didn't either. It was based on a bath

Well I'm not. I am fine. Clearly I just hate baths and my husband doesn't want me to have them as he knows I hate them I am fine.

*I didn't once ask advice on fitting a shower by the way.

Not once*

No you didn't. People were just trying to help with what it appeared the issue was in the OP.

We used to live in a house with no shower. I bathed once or twice a week but used to have a full strip wash daily.

I don't feel like I get the soap off and my hair feels limp and greasy

I suspect he is controlling in other ways too. You've asked this in AIBU. The answer is no you're not.
I would go into relationships. State that your husband is controlling and lit the other things he does. There are people there who have been or are going through similar situations. They have advice, contact numbers, support etc.
Something about what you're writing and how defensive you are suggests you might be dealing with a hell of a lot more than a bath/shower issue.

I'm not really sure what's happened here op or why you're upset with the responses? Getting a shower head is a good idea if the issue was the cost of running baths, which your comment on the water meter indicated it was. I also thought he was telling you not to have a bath due to the cost.

It seems your post was a code to tell people your husband is controlling you in a wider context, but you don't wish to discuss it. Being upset with people trying to help simply because they didn't understand is a bit pointless. I'm sure lots of people will try to help, so maybe articulate what the problem is? Why are you struggling in your marriage? It's more than just the bath issue it seems?

we had no shower in my current house, i put my foot down and got a plug in on the tops jobby, then eventually dh installed a shower. we do have mould now as the house wasnt designed for it but i clean that off..

but you cant have a proper shower at the leisure centre.

I am fine

Clearly not OP.

Take the good advice of starting a new thread in relationships, tell people the background and what is happening and you will receive good support and advice.

FWIW, I assumed your DH was trying to save money

i find it totally ridiculous that they build houses Without showers for families

He is. He is trying to save money.

and what do you want to do op?

Well tbf I would be a bit prickly if I had actually come out I was struggling in my marriage and STILL people meep on poking pointy sticks.

OP post in relationships, people are just going to read a page and think the tone of the thread has been set.

NoahVale

We have a randomly huge shower and no bath :(

they need both rose, a bath with a shower attached.

op do you want to have a bath, have a bath.

NoahVale totally in agreement there! I love a bath and miss it so much that I sometimes sneak into my parents house and have one hahaha!

Does worry me about when we have dc though, will have to piss about with one of those box things!

do your parents know rose