To think that most reasonable people have more than 2baths a week?

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Our new house doesn't have a shower, we just have a bath. It's also on a water meter.

Dh has said he wants me to have a shower at the leisure centre, I do an exercise class Monday Thursdays. By Sunday I feel like stuff is growing on me.

AIBU to think this is ridiculous?

If you can afford bi weekly classes, you can afford the cost of washing as often as you want. What else does he dictate?

I can't speak for other people, but I was curious as to whether you bought a house in a relationship you already knew wasn't the best - maybe optimistically hoping it would get better - or issues like the complete unreasonableness over when you're allowed to bathe has been the final straw and you're feeling a bit shit about it all. Of course, if you're renting with him, the situation is slightly more straightforward, if you need to get away from it.

AIBU is a bit harsh, even though you've been told that no, YANBU at all. Maybe you need to start a chat in relationships to help you get your feelings straight in your mind and work out what you're going to do about it.

Ah post half a story. Concentrate on the water side of it in your op and then get grumpy when people offer helpful suggestions on how to minimise your water use, because (for once on mumsnet) they haven't leapt to LTB advice.

Repost in relationships as at least there it is clearly what you want the focus to be on

Sometimes I'm so happy we're not metered. I've been in the bath since 6:30pm. That's almost two hours. I'm a prune right now. When it gets cold I pull the plug a bit and refill with hot. The kids don't bother me when I'm in the bath (I guess it must be boring as I'm physically unable to do all those things like getting the hundredth drink, making the millionth unneeded snack, changing the Xbox game, downloading a new game to the iPad etc.)
I feckin milk the hell out of my bath time.
And now we're in a house with no shower I have the excuse it's to get clean.

I feel for you OP. Have a bath. It's necessity, not luxury. If you're dirty then you need a wash! Tell hubby to kiss your squeaky clean butt.

Between your husband very bizarre ideas and your bad attitude, I sincerely hope you do not have any children.

Twice a week! I'd feel mingling. Must admit to not bathing every day BUT i do wash every day, obviously. At my last house we only had a bath, no shower - we had baths daily and as they were just quick baths to get washed in and not deep baths to relax in we would just have fairly shallow baths, just for ease rather than keeping costs down.

Mingling, not mingling!

Fit a shower mixer tap on the bath and you can choose whether to shower or bathe.
Make sure you know if your system is low or high pressure so it will work, then you're away.

Available from most DIY places, here's just a few.
www.screwfix.com/c/bathrooms-kitchens/bathroom-taps/cat7310006#category=cat7310006&tapproducttypebathrooms=shower_mixer

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OP - AIBU
Everybody - YANBU
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Agree about the attachement so you can have a shower.

As for the relationship... first ease tell him to f**k off and you will wash as and when you think it's necessary.
Ask him when he is planning to wash himself and let him know when he is getting smelly (and he will do)
And please have a look a the whole relationship/tank about LTB if that's what it is about.

A full on bath or shower everyday may not be absolutely vital, but. You could still boil a kettle and wash your equipment, arse hole, under your arms. Groin area and in between your boobs everyday.

Crumbs, tell him where to go! If I want a massive hot bath daily, I damned well will! Alternatively, fit power shower if you're staying with this person, although I don't advise it. Is he actually banning you from having a bath?

Your posted asking about your showering arrangements. MNetters answered your question. You then tell us the problem is your relationship, not your bathing situation. IDK about anyone else, but my telepathic skills start to wane on a Tuesday evening. So don't be so snippy. HTH.

I think anyone still posting plumbing advice hasn't read the whole thread.

I thought this was going to be a thread about a tenant with a dodgy boiler.

OP i had an ex who tried to dictate how often i could shower or bath. We didnt even live together...........i only stayed over there occasionally.

He was a tightwad over other things too so they were all signs of financial abuse.

When he did fit a shower he timed me in it and moaned like hell if i took more than three minutes.

This

My OH tries to get me to wash more often! Swings and roundabouts...!

How bizzare. Really. This is way up there with the neighbours nicking your garden furniture thread.

I mean really, your husband tells you how to bathe and you actually consider it rather than laughing your head off then going for a bath?

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What a miserable situation to have to put up with

Does these same rules apply to him btw?

Holy cats OP.

That escalated quickly.

I've not RTFT but was thinking as I read your original post - do you actually like baths OP? As in maybe your DH means you won't need a shower installed coz you can use the shower at the gym but will have to have a bath on other days in the week?

If he meant that YABU if he meant you literally can only was twice a week then YADNBU and should be freaking screwing! I would have 2 baths a day just to spite him !

I think you need to get this tread removed and post in Relationships.
AIBU is not the placce to discuss a bad marriage

if its obvious why are u asking us

I agree. Two baths a week were the 80,s (early ones). The 70's once a week, on a Sunday after Sing Something Simple.