Breast cancer results tomorrow, scared witless

[WorriedWife2016]

So seven months ago hubbie left,after 25 yr together
He now has stopped contact with kids both teens
Two weeks after he left dad had radical cancer surgery needing lots of care
Fast forward to October I got invited for a mamogram as a routine sepcreening of woman between 47/50
I was scared when I got called back last week
They found a lump
Took biopsy and loads of other mammograms
I go back for results tomorrow
I feel sick as a dog and scared stiff
What the hell am I going to do if it's cancer😢😢😢how can I tell the kids they have been through so much already.i feel like I have literally got the weight of the world on my shoulders to top it all off dad went for more surgery last week with even more planned ....daughter due in hossi for tonsillectomy on Friday and hubbie is just being absolutely feckless and not making contact or signing anything off for the divorce 😩😩😩

I was diagnosed with a particularly aggressive breast cancer just over 10 years ago and here I am to tell you about it! These days it is rarely a death sentence, you might not even need chemo though I did. There is a wonderful support thread under General Health (Lacies I think) and you should maybe pop along there too. Please pm me if there is anything you want to know. Every bc is different but there are many many effective treatments. Please get in touch if you need to .

Thank you it's so reassuring to hear others stories
It is stage one and measured 15 mm on mamogram 10mm on ultrasound
It is 101mm from nipple.
I just told dd she's 18 and upstairs on phone to boyfriend now, I was very honest and positive, I will tell ds 15 tomorrow he's the big worry
I am utterly drained but determined, I have told work and cleared my diary
They have been very supportive

Read this thread yesterday and hoped to find nothing sinister, but bastard cancer has got to another person.

Really hope the treatment works.

If you can, try to take things one moment at a time, no more than a day at a time.

When my DH was diagnosed 4 years ago, my mind did terrible things to me and I catastophised a lot. Don't think beyond now! Speak to the professionals to get help with visualisations and meditation, they are amazingly helpful techniques to keep you strong and centred on the immediate.

DH is fine now. Treatments are so much more successful nowadays, just keep that in mind. xxx

Been thinking of you lass. Was hoping for the best news. Sending you hugs xx

I'm sorry OP. Please believe you're not alone, reach out to others who can advise you.

One of my friends was honest with her DCs to a level they could understand. When they asked something she didn't know, she wrote it down and told tell them she'd ask the doctor for them.
It is a worrying time but once you get your treatment plan you will feel so much better and more in control. Never feel a nuisance for asking the healh team questions.

UK-wide charity breast cancer care support has a free phone service, (times below),

Tel 0808 800 6000
Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm
Late opening Wednesday, 5pm-7pm
Saturday, 9am-1pm

Sorry to hear that op! Was thinking of you today.
Don't have much advice except to be honest with your kids.
( not in depth) just so they know what's going on.
The worst for me was not knowing and reading on the internet what was going to happen.
Your dd sounds like she has support

No cancer is good but if there is cancer, stage one is very very good indeed.

Sorry you are going through this, relieved it's stage one.

You sound very strong... I wish you well xx

Aw Worried, saying that I'm so sorry you've had this diagnosis just doesn't hack it - you must be devastated and it's so unfair that this burden has been added to the already very heavy load you're carrying.

I expect your head is spinning and you will need time to process the shock of this most unwelcome news and all of the dark thoughts that have undoubtedly accompanied it.

What used to be the Tamoxifen thread on the General Health board has become the 'Lacies'. It's an invaluable source of support and advice for those who are undergoing or facing treatment for any type of cancer, as well as those who are waiting on results.

Your world has been turned upside down yet again this year and you may be struggling to find the floor, but please know that others have been where you are now and they'll hold your hand and help you get through this latest trial by ordeal that has been visited on you.

Join the thread when you feel up to it - it's been, and remains, a godsend for many and there are a number of posters who've had exactly the same treatment that is being proposed for you:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/2744689-Lacies-elephants-potato-based-snacks-Whatever-we-are-this-is-our-57th-CANCER-SUPPORT-THREAD

So sorry you have received bad news. my thoughts are with you.

so sorry to hear your news.

Three friends of mine have had stage one breast cancer in the past two years. All of them have had treatment and are "back to normal", healthy and happy.

It is a worrying time but try to stay as positive as possible because you have every right to be positive.x

Best of luck and strength to get through it.

sorry to read you're going thru this.

May I ask some questions? 10cm from the nipple -- so can you feel it at all externally? It sounds like it's very deep inside your breast. which of these areas is it in? Don't answer if you don't want to.

Hugs OP.

My dsis has just gone through breaking cancer news to her teens. She did get a few leaflets and prepared herself for a few days. She was surprised how well they took it. Lots of questions from 1 and a few tears from the other. And they were a bit unsettled for a week but they both seemed to cope really well.

She also felt less anxious once she had told them. And more in control.

So sorry to hear this Worried

So sorry to hear this. Telling your children must be horrendous.
It does sound like it's been caught early which is a very very good thing.
If it helps I know two ladies who were diagnosed last year and both had lumpectomies and not too bad treatment cycles after that. They're both absolutely fine now. They both follow found the nhs absolutely terrific in sorting them out.

Sorry to hear this - like many I was thinking if you today - but as others have said there are excellent treatments available and very good outcomes.

...of you

That was my story. Lumpectomy followed by radio therapy. They are pretty sure they got it all but I'm on tamoxifan and will need regular mammograms.

Signed off for a year last week.

Good luck, OP.

Bastard cancer!

I am sorry about your diagnosis, it's not fair is it. Look how strong you are, now you take the support offered to you and believe me, so many people will want to help.

Thinking of you now. Keep posting,

Thank you, I think it's in the 25% area, I am worried it's so deep

Sorry meant 45%

Stage one has an almost 100% 5 and 10 year survival rate. That's phenomenal.

I know you are scared. And I can guess where your thoughts are going, but you are so far from alone. You will be posting in 15 years time about your grandkids