Breast cancer results tomorrow, scared witless

[WorriedWife2016]

So seven months ago hubbie left,after 25 yr together
He now has stopped contact with kids both teens
Two weeks after he left dad had radical cancer surgery needing lots of care
Fast forward to October I got invited for a mamogram as a routine sepcreening of woman between 47/50
I was scared when I got called back last week
They found a lump
Took biopsy and loads of other mammograms
I go back for results tomorrow
I feel sick as a dog and scared stiff
What the hell am I going to do if it's cancer😢😢😢how can I tell the kids they have been through so much already.i feel like I have literally got the weight of the world on my shoulders to top it all off dad went for more surgery last week with even more planned ....daughter due in hossi for tonsillectomy on Friday and hubbie is just being absolutely feckless and not making contact or signing anything off for the divorce 😩😩😩

Thinking of you xx

Still finger-crossing for you, Worried, hoping it's good news so we can all celebrate with you on the thread.

Wishing you great good luck for tomorrow also, TimeForTea

OP hope your sister was able to accompany you.

Thinking of you too, Timeforteaplease.

Thanks all....it's cancer
Absolutely any advice is appreciated.
I see a specialist on Friday and hoping for lumpectomy next Wednesday then radio therapy next year
Dreading telling the kids

worried so sorry to read this thread and hear your news, have they given you any further information? Or will you have to wait for further tests?

Your head must be all over the place right now 😞

OP . Do you know any more details or do you have to wait to see the specialist?
You will get through this and get the support you need, take care of yourself. Hugs to you

I'm just sending you support and
And keep talking. It will help.

Just wanted you to know, I'm thinking of you - thought I was stressed out but this post just put it all into perspective. Focus on you and your kids, nothing else matters - reach out to friends, let them support you

YOu poor thing what a complete bugger.. just what you don't need. Mn is here for you and I hope you have some good friends xxxxx

Sorry to hear you are going through all this, its such a tough time for you. I cant say much to make it better but wanted you to know that we are all here for you for hand holding and support. How old are you DC's? Is there anyone who can help out with your fathers care? Please dont worry about putting your friends out I'm sure they will want to help and support you too. And if your DC's are old enough then they will want to support you too. I understand how it might be difficult to tel them especially as their father is being such a shit. But really, you will have to tell them and take things one step at a time. I wish you all the best and hope you have a good outcome.

I am so sorry to hear this.

The only advice I can give is that I am pretty sure McMillan nurses will help you find a way to tell your kids.

Accept and use any help offered to you.

Please come over to the Lacies thread in health. There are some amazing women on there and their knowledge and support has been a lifeline since my diagnosis with breast cancer in September. X

So very sorry to hear this, Worried.

So sorry to hear this your kids will surprise you with how tough they can be. Take lots of care of yourself xxxx

So sorry worried

I had treatment for breast cancer two years ago, so I know how devastating it is to hear that diagnosis. Your mind goes to very dark places. But please believe me when I say that was the absolute worst part of the whole process for me. Once I had a treatment plan in place things began to make sense, I felt a lot more in control, and a lot more positive. And so did the vast majority of women I met who were going through the same thing. Two years on I'm doing absolutely fine, and it's becoming a distant memory. Breast cancer is sadly very common, but also very treatable. Trust in your team, and try and take comfort from the fact it's been discovered, and is being dealt with. It's also a positive I'd have said that it was picked up by routine screening - means it's far more likely to be at an early stage.

A few other things that helped me were to stay away from Google - there's a lot of out of date, scary rubbish there, that won't help you. Also - try and take someone with you to appointments, especially if you're getting results - there's often a lot to take in, and a second pair of ears is very useful. There's a great online community of women facing breast cancer at the Breast Cancer Care website - they also have a helpline staffed by breast care nurses to have a chat to if you're having a wobble. There's also a good community on the health board here on mumsnet - I can't remember the name, but it should be easy enough to find.

Also - there's no right or wrong way to handle this diagnosis. How you feel is how you feel, so be kind to yourself.

You're not alone

Have a handhold

Sorry to hear this OP - best of luck with your treatment

They must have caught it relatively early?

OP, thinking of you. A friend of mine went through this a few years ago and she has a really strong group of friends on Facebook that were all going through it together, she said they helped her sanity. When you have time to find that sort of group, it might help.

All the very very best with the treatment.

Sorry to read this when I came on just now but you've got lovely comments from people on here and threads advised are worth reading as everyone's so supportive. I remember recently someone advising to contact Breast Cancer Care (I think) who seen to be brilliant at giving sensible advice and support.

Wishing you lots of luck for the lumpectomy x

I'm so sorry to hear your news today :( I was just coming on to wish you luck!

I won't lie, I have absolutely no words of advice apart from agreeing with the previous ladies posts.

I have my fingers crossed for you that this has been caught early ! I can't begin to imagine what's going round your mind at the moment, but if second all the advice about contacting some support services so you atleast know you have support on stand by as and when you need it !

I send you all my love! You will get through this! And you have all our support take care and look into the support services !

Xx

oh that's awful - I'm so sorry x

Lots of love and strength for the coming months - keep posting x

Good luck I will be thinking of you. Im glad your sister will be there, you may not be close but shes going to be there for you so that says something. Whatever the results tomorrow you will get through and be ok. Its nearly one year since my diagnosis and ten months since my mastectomy, I wont deny its been a tough year but its amazing what us ladies cope with and how much stronger we are than we think!

I hope its all good news (and it probably will be).

So sorry Worried, sending lots of love and good thoughts

Sorry to hear this. It is scary.

After a routine mammogram in January I was called back for further mammograms and a biopsy. I was diagnosed with Ductal Carcinoma In Situ (DCIS) which hadn't spread but was classed as high grade and aggressive. I had surgery and then a further surgery as they didn't quite get enough of the surrounding tissue. I then had three weeks of radiotherapy. The initial diagnosis was scary and a real shock but after that I just got through each stage as it came.

It all went fine and I had no issues although was a bit tired during the radiotherapy.

I found that once you talk about it you find out so many women have had it. And are still here. My hairdresser's mum was diagnosed at 40. She is now 80!

I know it's hard not to think the worst but these days the treatment is very very good. I will be thinking of you.

So sorry to read your update.