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Colleague's speech patterns annoying me

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cardboardPeony · 20/11/2016 18:46

I think I probably ABU but I have a colleague who uses phrases like "X is going toilet". This really grates on me but I don't know how to say that it does or if I'm just being unreasonable and it's a regional thing.

Also we work with children and therefore should be using the language we want them to use, especially as lots of them are just learning English, but I think I am going to sound like a major pedant bringing it up.

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OrangeKitchen · 20/11/2016 18:54

Honestly have never heard 'going toilet' before but YANBU, it's awful.

happypoobum · 20/11/2016 18:54

This would really grate on me too. I am not sure I would be able to bring it up though................

I also get stabby when I hear people say "It cost twenty pound" It's pounds FFS!!! Or, "he lived there for thirty year" ARRRGGGGGHHHH!!!

Clayhead · 20/11/2016 18:55

I would say "Going toilet".

It's a regional thing.

Jinglebellsandv0dka · 20/11/2016 18:56

Defo regional! Grin

Clayhead · 20/11/2016 18:56

Maybe I'm the annoying colleague? Wink

hazeyjane · 20/11/2016 19:00

How are you going to bring it up?! You can't just say, 'the way you speak really grinds my nuts, could you change the way you speak,please'!!

IEatCannibals · 20/11/2016 19:02

In what region do people talk like that?

IEatCannibals · 20/11/2016 19:02

Is it a south west thing?

DoinItFine · 20/11/2016 19:03

YABU

Far better for the children to learn that English is a language with lots of regional variations that that it is acceptable to think the way you speak makes you better than other people.

PalcumTowder · 20/11/2016 19:04

Midlands here and people would say "going toilet". I don't think you can say anything, really.

Flowerpower321 · 20/11/2016 19:04

That would annoy me too, particularly if you work with children- it's not regional, it's wrong and makes you sound uneducated.

cardboardPeony · 20/11/2016 19:04

Exactly hazey how do I bring it up without sounding strange?!
I always say oh X went to the toilet but never explicitly mention the lack of "to"

In terms of region I'm London.

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YoScienceBitch · 20/11/2016 19:04

Definitely a south west thing!
Going toilet, going shop, going pub...

BratFarrarsPony · 20/11/2016 19:05

"Going toilet"- Grin - oh no, do people really use the word 'toilet' in company?
Horrendous.

IEatCannibals · 20/11/2016 19:05

Well I'm in the midlands and Ive never heard it. Must be very regional.

cardboardPeony · 20/11/2016 19:05

Doin i don't think I'm better than anyone else it's just I genuinely hadn't heard anyone say it before (and I used to live in the south west! So I probably did but i don't know why I didn't notice it)

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BratFarrarsPony · 20/11/2016 19:05

Why do you have to talk about people going to the 'toilet' anyway? or am I missing the point?

Edhilaria · 20/11/2016 19:06

It's a Bromley, Bexley thing too, they all do it, 'I'm going Bluewater' is a regularly used phrase in my office.

DoinItFine · 20/11/2016 19:06

What makes you sound uneducated is thinking standard English dialects are "wrong".

cardboardPeony · 20/11/2016 19:06

Brat what do you say instead of toilet? If the children need to go to the toilet they ask to go to the toilet. What are they meant to say? Can I go relieve myself?

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hazeyjane · 20/11/2016 19:06

I really don't think you should mention it, it's just the way this person speaks.

Children will come across all sorts of different ways of speaking.

Cloudhopping · 20/11/2016 19:06

YABU. Maybe the way you speak annoys someone else. We are a country of many accents, regional variations etc I think you need to get over yourself.

IEatCannibals · 20/11/2016 19:06

I used to know someone from Bristol who would say "going Asda". And I would look at him like Hmm

YoScienceBitch · 20/11/2016 19:07

You can't really say anything though even if it annoys you. It would be like you asking me to stop being Cornish.

cardboardPeony · 20/11/2016 19:07

I'm more than willing to accept ABU. I genuinely didn't realise it was a regional thing rather than a grammatical thing. I'm sure people find some of my speech patterns annoying too!

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