Colleague's speech patterns annoying me

[cardboardPeony]

I think I probably ABU but I have a colleague who uses phrases like "X is going toilet". This really grates on me but I don't know how to say that it does or if I'm just being unreasonable and it's a regional thing.

Also we work with children and therefore should be using the language we want them to use, especially as lots of them are just learning English, but I think I am going to sound like a major pedant bringing it up.

Haha ''doing the toilet''

My DD has picked up 'we was' from the childminder. It grates, but the CM is absolutely lovely and much better at full-time childcare than I would ever be, so I just have to hope DD will grow out of it in time.

I think so - not sure. I certainly remember when people would claim 'if I was' was regional (the implication being people who spoke proper-like, standard English with a RP accent, wouldn't say it). I don't know that it genuinely is - it might just be variation - but there is a strong tendency for people to blame either regionalism or Americanism for variations in spoken language.

I have heard worse. I think it was exMIL, talking about DD....
"She has just gone toilet in her nappy"

I think the point made about being able to switch between types of speech is very relevant here. Fine to use informal speech patterns but there are times it isn't appropriate. When people are unaware that things they say are not 'correct' and use them in writing (in situations where it matters- not forums!) or when teaching children to speak or write formally, I see that as more of a problem. Given a choice between 2 similar candidates at interview, one able to speak correctly or one not, I'd guess most of the time the more correct one will get the job.

The subjunctive is more standard in the US.

Britishers using "if I was" would get a sneer if Americans were half as snooty about their English as English people tend to be.

Doin - I know. I wasn't suggesting Americanisms are why the changes happen, I was suggesting it's common for people to make that assumption.

I know. I was adding to your point, not disagreeing with it.

Sorry!

Oh this grates on me to, in my experience it's a London/ south East thing. I hadn't heard it before I moved here from Wales. I correct my children every time they do it, 'I went tuck shop today' .

Saying that, I'm sure being Welsh, I have plenty of similar colloquialisms that drive people bonkers.

My MIL says "going a walk". She's from the East Midlands.

"Regional variation" no, it's just grammatically incorrect.

You'd all die if you came to Cornwall.

YSB I have already said so maid

portia

I went shop the other day and there was a Welsh woman trying to a Cornish accent. When she left she went "see you all DIRECTLY!" And cackled furiously. It was so funny

Going a walk ❤

But we all know she meant dreckly YSB so she was teasy

''Twas all squalling laughter.

Does dreckly come from directly?

I have never been to Cornwall.

But I have seen Poldark.

No
She just got it horrendously wrong.

Sort of
It means doing something later or in the future.

www.bbcamerica.com/anglophenia/2015/08/20-cornish-slang-terms-that-require-translation

Between now and infinity

That's about it

I can't believe the snobbery on this thread.

I get the impression that anyone who speaks in a dialect besides Southern, middle-class RP sounds "lazy and uneducated" to most MNers here...

DD has started copying DP's relatives and saying 'going up London' or 'going down Wales'. I have to keep saying 'No, you're going TO London or TO Wales' - really winds me up!!!