To be so hurt?

[amammabear]

I've had quite a week so I'm feeling low to start with, but then something has really hurt me tonight.

Earlier in the week, the STBXH posted something on Facebook about his biggest regret being not dumping me "before the relationship really took off and asking out a girl at university". Now this has hurt me immensely, not least because he's basically saying he wishes our children didn't exist either, but of course it's really damaged my self esteem which is pretty crap to begin with. I feel like my whole life is a lie if I'm honest, and I've done so much for him over the years and then it's all completely wasted.

Then tonight I've been to a local event. Spent the evening sat with friends, then come home on my own. But the thing is, they haven't. They've all gone out for a meal together. Not only has nobody invited me, but the whole time I was with them, no mention of it was made at all, and they're clearly trying to deliberately hide it from me as they did mention it when they thought I was out of earshot, but I was actually just the other side of a door.

Now I know I'm already fragile because of what my ex did, but AIBU to be so upset by this? I'm absolutely devastated, I would try so hard not to exclude someone like that, and am often known to invite people to things they're not likely to want to do anyway so that they know they were welcome even though it's not really their thing.

He's a Prick and you know he had no reason or need to put that up other than he's trying the Oh Look At Me I Haven't Just Fucked Up The Best Thing That Ever Happened To Me Oh No Not Me!

He's trying to convince himself OP you know you've had a lucky escape and so does he!

As for your friends honestly I'd let them know that you know and then walk away,you didn't need his crap and you don't need they're crap!

You can ask your friends why they excluded you, it would kill me not to know. I think they've been really nasty.

Damn amamabear, that's low. It's not just you he's screwed, it's his kids too.

I'd have to let them know you know. People deserve to be called on shit behaviour.

Exactly pklme, but of course it's me that had to deal with the consequences to ensure that it DOESN'T affect them, because that's what we do isn't it.

It is an unpleasant situation. Block your ex, to be honest I'm not all that surprised about his comments - your relationship is over, is messy, and it's normal for him to wish it had never got to this stage.

I don't actually think he wishes the children did not exist. Men don't see it like that. Yes it's "obvious" that they wouldn't have been born if you didn't have a relationship, but he's not complaining about them, he's complaining about not having the foresight to know the relationship would fail further down the line.

With your friends, either they are a bit crap or they are uncomfortable around you. Unfortunately when someone is stressed or upset (even with very good reason), some people find it easier to not be around them. That way they can't say the wrong thing. Of course it doesn't make it easier for you. If I were to give them the benefit of the doubt, I would say they were thoughtless rather than mean.