AIBU by letting DD sleep in my bed every night?

[SofaBed05]

DD is 4, she often prefers sleeping in my bed. It's just me and her so no issues with space, I know it's something she'll grow out of. I used to get in with my dad at 2 am until I woke up. Stopped at around 9.

My mum says I should follow the Supernanny technique... WWYD?

[Ilovewillow]

If it works for you go with it, they aren't little for long! My two (8&3) always start in their own beds but every other night my three yr old son invariable ends up with us, he's not a great sleeper! Our 8 yr old occasionally joins us too but not usually until about 5.30. If my husbands away it's quite often both of them. My son will bunk with his sister too if she lets him.? The only rule we have is no messing about - messing about and it's back to their own room!

[WeedlesHatOfDisappointment]

This is why we bought a king size bed. 4 year old Ds comes in, as he wakes and is terrified of being alone. So he comes in with us. Seems mean to keep him out, especially as we have 3 month old ds next to us on his basket.

[SpookyPotato]

I love sleeping with DS all snuggly.. these years aren't forever. Sod what anyone says!

[Sallystyle]

My nearly 8 year old still sleeps with me most nights.

I don't care what anyone thinks, it works for us.

[TheEagle]

My 3 are 3yo and 1.5yo and I never watched tv or used my phone for the endless night feeds because it would have woken me up too much.

If you and she are happy with co-sleeping then go for it. No-one else's business.

My 3yo would sleep next to DH and I till the cows come home (he doesn't anymore but given half the chance he would) but my 1.5yo twins haven't liked sleeping in our bed since they were about 13 months. However, they love the company of each other in their bedroom and they'll only lie down to sleep when they're both in there.

I love the reassurance of DH next to me in the bed so I think it's natural for a child to feel reassured next to a parent too.

[Cguk81]

I love it when my 3 year old DS comes in to my bed. He comes through most nights at some point in the night and just snuggles right in. When he wakes he always gives me a big cuddle and it's fab. I would never turn him away or make him upset by saying no. He will grow out of it as some point. So I would say enjoy all the cuddles and ignore your mum's advice.

[Spottytop1]

Never had my children sleep with me and never would have wanted to. They slept in their own Moses baskets/cord/beds from birth. To me there has to be some area that is 'my' space- that was my bedroom.


But each to their own...

[Mum2jenny]

My adult daughter sometimes sleeps with me, it's not a problem. However each to their own preferences.

[Mindtrope]

Never had my children sleep with me and never would have wanted to.

[OvO]

My youngest is 9 on Tuesday and we still co-sleep.

He's perfectly able to sleep in his own bed and will if needed. But I'm happy to share so we do. I'd miss out on his mad sleep ramblings if we didn't, always makes me laugh!

If you're both happy why would you stop? Ignore interfering people.

[cosytoaster]

Both mine slept in with me on and off when they were younger (also a lone parent), I found it quite comforting and it meant we all got a good nights sleep. They both stopped somewhere in the primary school years naturally. I sleep with the dog now

[Thegiantofillinois]

I hate it, hate it, hate it. Dh and I are tall and have normal size double. But the alternative is having dd scream the place down-and I'm up for work at 6. She goes to sleep in her own bed but ends up in ours, has since about 2. Her brother never did it. She said she'd stop when she was 5, but she hasn't.

[HaPPy8]

I think its lovely.

[Enjoythelittlethings]

My nearly five year old is in with us most nights. He is a fidgety little thing but gives the loveliest cuddles. In, ten years time I know I will look back and totally miss moments like these, so I say make the most of them. It's not for everyone, but if you're both happy there's no reason to stop.

[Booboostwo]

We sleep with 5yo DD and 2yo DS. Watching the two DCs cuddle up is wonderful and hearing DD telling DS not to worry she is there for him over the monitor (while we watch TV for a bit longer) is just lovely.

[GabsViolet]

YANBU - she will grow out of it. I did it, but grew out of it... You'll soon miss it!

[Touchmybum]

DS slept in with me until he was heading off to school, and he got his own bedroom decorated for him. I was heartbroken. There is nothing lovelier than waking up to that little face first thing in the morning, and he usually uttered gibberish before he woke up properly so it was funny too.

He went through phases of coming in for the odd night(s) - if he wasn't asleep when I went to bed, I would call him in. He will be 13 soon, and he hasn't been in for a while, so I asked him about it recently, and he broke my heart when he said, "mum I think I am getting too big"!!!

Enjoy it as long as it lasts. I listened to the nay-sayers with my elder two, with all the dire warnings that we'd never get them out.

[budgiegirl]

Do whatever suits you. I've always put mine to bed in their own rooms (except when they were tiny babies), and the younger two have always slept in their own beds. But my eldest would regularly creep into our bed sometime in the night. Our bed is huge, and he could get in without me really noticing. I loved waking up next to him, and he grew out of it at about 7 years old. I might have felt differently if the bed was smaller though, as he was bit of a wriggler.

[peggyundercrackers]

i couldn't do it, our 2 thrash around like a fish out of water - I don't think we would get any sleep.

our DD wont come into our bed anyway, even if she comes through in the morning she wont come in to snuggle up - she wants everyone to get up and play with her, if you don't she goes off to play on her own.

[JacquesHammer]

Mine still co-sleeps with me at 10.

Doesn't bother me in the slightest - she is happy to sleep in her own bed elsewhere/on residentials/at friends so...

I'm enjoying the closeness whilst I can

[MauiWest]

meh, the most important thing is that you sleep. I encourage mine to sleep in their own bed, but sometimes one comes with us, big deal. It's quicker to grab a little one who had a nightmare and fall asleep together in your bed than comfort them and waiting for them to go back to sleep.

If when they trash to much, hubby or I just go and sleep somewhere else.