AIBU by letting DD sleep in my bed every night?

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DD is 4, she often prefers sleeping in my bed. It's just me and her so no issues with space, I know it's something she'll grow out of. I used to get in with my dad at 2 am until I woke up. Stopped at around 9.

My mum says I should follow the Supernanny technique... WWYD?

Blimey my four year old likes to sleep with people and not alone so he's Often in bed with us or his 8 year old sister

I didn't fear anything. Just that psychologically I needed that 10-12 hour break (especially when DC were little). Luckily they were good sleepers and we weren't in and out of their rooms all night though.

navy I have a king size so don't notice dd in there. She doesn't fidget at all, thank god. Only time she doesn't now I think about it .

My DS mostly co slpet when young..He thinks he is a starfish when he is asleep, kicks me in his sleep so now I avoid at most costs...Nighmare is my only exception..Sickness bugs...His room closer to toilet, temp don't share body heat...

When he was 18 months though he always started off in his own room..

However so long as you are both happy its your business.

Slept with my mum till I was 13. Loved it we are incredibly close and I sleep with my kids now which we all love. Currently have 1 year old with me and 4 year old with dad.

Horses for courses...

But my huge, comfy king size bed is fucking sacrosanct. Invitation only.

Dd and ds 3 and 2 both end up in our bed every night . I don't think it's unreasonable to not want to sleep by yourself however ... I do hope they grow out of it soon. No judgement here!

If it works for you then why not? Dd2 would still sleep with me every night if I let her. I like some me-time (LP) bit let her occasionally. DD is v sophisticated and mature (11 ) bit she slept in my bed one night when she was having a horrible time at school thanks to a little cowbag queen bee-type.

Unless the person judging you is your P then I think they can be told to butt out. She won't still be in your bed at 13.

DD1 is 5 and lovely to have in with me now as long as she brings her own blanket but is only allowed in all night at the weekends. We all sleep better when she is in her own room because Dd2 is only 2 but is horrendous to co-sleep with and rocks up every night around midnight.
Do whatever suits you - almost everyone I know has co slept at one stage or another

But my huge, comfy king size bed is fucking sacrosanct. Invitation only.

Good for you. Glad it works.

Now that my children are adults I think about the most precious times of the early years.
And many of them are night time moments.

Of breastfeeding and watching the stars and listening to silence.
Of feeling little toddlers cold feet pressing into my belly and hugging my face.
Of having my ill 8 year old needing human comfort and wanting the close human touch of someone who cares
Of having my 12 year old wanting to sleep close to me in pain after surgery and feeling privileged and having no hang ups to admit that I was his best shot.

Whatever works. Ours were in with us full time until around 2 ish, now they have their own beds. At 6 and 4 we normally wake with one or other, or both in with us. Fine by us, super cosy.

My 6yo niece sneaks in and sleeps with her parents. I have told her she can't stay over with me because she won't sleep in her own bed. She told me she will, after Christmas!

I think of our bed as 'the family nest'. My DSs sleep in their own beds (or hop in together) 90% of the time now, but they soon jump in with us if they are ill/had a nightmare/wet the bed. DD is 15 months, and we co-slept until 6 months while breastfeeding. I didn't allow my DSs to sleep in the bed with us while she was so little, so that's why they've taken to bunking up together, poor things! DD is in her own room now, and she wakes at 2am to come in with us 5 nights out of 7.

My only rule is that they go to sleep at bedtime in their own beds, which has never really met any resistance. But then at least they know our bed is our bed and we let them into it, rather than thinking it's their bed, too!

My 9 year old gets in with me it goes in phases. Meh, s'not a big deal.

I promise to come back and let you know if she ends up a deviant

What's the super nanny technique? I need it

Mindtrope I reckon if you had babies in 2016 all that would be redundant anyway because you'd spend night feeds MN'ing or watching Netflix like every other mother since 2014

MAtch - I have never done that, it would keep everyone awake longer and make it harder to go back to sleep.

Good for you but aren't your children much older too? Maybe you missed the night feeds by iPhone landing

My youngest is 5. He fed until 3 so not that ancient times ago

Feeds at night here = co slept, so just semi wake, boob in their mouth, go back to sleep.
That's why many like co sleeping in the first place

If it's just you and her I'd carry on letting her.

Mine slept in with me until 5 and 3. I love snuggling and cuddles in the morning. I miss those mornings now they are in their bunk beds (7 and 5 now). They do still come in with me when they're ill.

I am jealous

If I didn't have a DH I would have my little ones in bed with me every night.

I never got out of bed to feed, and we never take phones upstairs. So DS only stopped feeding last year, at 3, so not long ago at all.

Day feeds were a different matter, MN agogo.