To consider getting pregnant because

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the thought of getting my coil changed is paralysing me with anxiety?

I had my reminder letter last month. I've so far failed to make an appointment. I'm supposed to be abstinent or use c

Stupid phone

Use condoms for a week and that seems like a massive faff. I'd have to get a lift to and from the surgery and that takes organisation. Plus the whole procedure really fucking hurts.

So I might just not bother and have another baby instead. It seems to be the simplest option.

AIBU?

(Lightfeckinghearted in case it isn't obvious)

I experienced mild discomfort having my coil changed.

It is very difficult to compare it to a 9lb individual popping herself out of my lady garden.

If it's a girl, will you call it Mirena?

Absolutely not! Having another baby is far less hassle long term than organising a lift to the surgery!

Heard stories about babies being born with the coil on their heads probably myths but it has always freaked me out and out me off the coil

You didn't mention in your first post this was lighthearted. You shouldn't drip feed important information.

Having a baby involves loads of appointments to faff with so YABU

Don't mind coil fit ring now iv had babies. Pre babies the nice doctor used to numb cervix with lidocaine injections. We can only have ours fitted at hospitals round here by specialist doctor - they reckon makes it better for everyone as Dr is dojng them daily and has he option to numb cervix

I actually love Mirena for a girl.

I am seriously blocked on this. I need to pick up the phone and organise it but I keep putting it off. I am rubbish at adulting at the moment.

Another child is surely much less hassle than dealing with stuff head on.

CharleyFarleyy You know that some babies are born with the CAUL on their head, not COIL, right? It's when the baby is born with the amniotic sac still partially intact.

And OP, I completely know what you mean. Having my first Mirena put in was fine, but the second one hurt like FUCK, and I had taken codeine and everything.

If all you had to do was be pregnant and give birth, that would be fine, but I don't want an actual newborn baby again and go through all the sleepless nights.

Although I suppose it would be nice to be cuddling a newborn right now.

#useless

Yes! The first ones I've had after childbirth were easy peasy but the one I had five years after having DD was a fucking killer. I'm bricking it this time. Ds2 was five a couple of months ago.

I considered getting pregnant to have a good excuse to avoid a hen do I'm dreading, so IMO YNBU.

I had mine removed last month , they couldn't insert a new one and I never kept my follow up appointment . I'm the same it's such a pain (literally)

I've booked to have my first smear test after having DS next week. My plan is to take a paracetamol and an ibuprofen before hand then buy myself a fancy hot chocolate as a reward.

So YAB a bit U as clearly a hot chocolate/McDonalds/glass of wine/insert treat of choice is much cheaper than a baby.

I guess your cervix is still a gaping chasm when you get the first one put in after a baby. It was uncomfortable, but I was very brave. MUCH less brave 2nd time around (a few months ago). There may have been a certain degree of howling. And I spent the rest of the day in pain with "period" cramps.

Still, better than NOT having a Mirena. I gave being Mirena-free a shot for a couple of months, and I had actual periods and PMS etc. I didn't feel like me at all.

icanteven yes I understand the difference, it was DM that told me the story, she definitely meant the coil but maybe she got the wrong end of stick from whoever she heard it from...

On the plus aside of getting pregnant, you do get a good few months of work, obviously which are exactly like a holiday (well apart from the tiny tyrant demanding fed and crying during the night).

The other plus is that once you are old and in a nursing home, the more children you have the more likely you are to get visitors.

But if you do want to get pregnant, surely you need to get yourself to the clinic anyway, and get the old one out?

You poor thing! I always had my suspicions that they were awful so I've always refused to swap to LARC from my good old combined pill. Can you try mini pill or something?

Exactly how much does it hurt??? I'm booked in to get one in a few weeks time. Had DS 12 weeks ago and on the pill when I remember for now.

I'm absolutely bricking it. So YANBU. Although I'll lend you my very cute sleep thief baby and then you might reconsider

You can get a local anaesthetic injection for it. The first time I had the coil I nearly fainted and it was awful and it took me 7 years to go back.

I told the doc this, and they were ever so nice and gentle with me and gave me a local (which hurt a little, but not much) and then put the new coil in without any pain or trauma.

Ask for a local.

We can only have ours fitted at hospitals round here by specialist doctor

Yes - one of the best pieces of advice I've ever received (from a medic friend) was to go to the family planning clinic to have my coil put in so that it'd be done by a doctor who did it all the time rather than going to my GP who might have had lots of experience of doing it, but might well not. It might just be coincidence but I had one of the best coil-fitting experiences I've ever heard about, despite not having had children first.

Incidentally, I absolutely loved my coil: I'm now trying for a baby and so having periods again and it's made me realise how great it was to be period-free for years!

Also child birth is definitely less painful than coil replacement. Go for it!

"go to the family planning clinic to have my coil put in so that it'd be done by a doctor who did it all the time "

This. My GP sent me to the doctor who trained him in coil fitting, and she practically had it in before I'd got my coat off. Copper coil rather than Mirena, was crampy afterwards but the insertion was just mildly ouchy. Childbirth definitely worse!